Twin Flames, Marriage and Union in Islamic and Christian scriptures 

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People often ask whether there is any mention of twin flames in the Bible or the Qur’an –however since this term is a fairly recent one, one simply cannot expect to find it in books written hundreds or even thousands of years ago. Yet while some try to use its absence as proof that twin flames do not exist, these eternal lovers – also known as counterparts, or polar opposites, have actually been around since the beginning of time.

As I share some of my insights into the Quranic and Biblical scriptures surrounding the ideas of marriage, true love and the twin flame journey, I understand that this may be a controversial subject for some. My purpose is not to rewrite either one of these Holy Books or to go all gung ho with the interpretations, but – should this subject be relevant to you – ask you to examine your own heart and what resonates. As you too study these scriptures I invite you to truly allow yourself to feel the depth of love that God intended for you – and to come to your own conclusions.

Both the Bible and the Qur’an give a description of what marriage between counterparts is like. Many understand this as meaning the marriage to the husband or wife that we have ourselves chosen and see the descriptions in these Holy books as something to strive for, however I believe this is simply because so few of us have experienced or known a true marriage. You see; true marriage as the Bible and the Qur’an describe it, is made and sustained by God. As such, it could never be just the man-made, watered-down, sign-on-the-dotted-line dissolvable contract that binds people together while it lasts, but an alchemical UNION of two souls which God has created for each other; as an act of worship, as a means to get closer to God and to fulfill the divine mandate – and ultimately, as the final step before the return home.

Adam and Eve were the original counterparts, or twin flames. Both the Bible and Qur’an tell their story, however the accounts and the detail vary slightly. According to the Qur’an, after the incident in the Garden, God asks Adam and Eve to leave Paradise and go to live on earth. On earth, they no longer remember who they are and become separated from each other for many years. Eventually, after years of searching they pray a sincere prayer of repentance and are reunited with God and each other. Sound familiar? I love Adam’s and Eve’s reunion story because it shows the importance and power of heart-felt prayer because if both counterparts sincerely call upon God to grant their Union then there is no reason why in divine timing it shouldn’t. It also teaches us about patience, sabr.

Many go through a similar journey here on earth. We suffer from spiritual amnesia when we come here, and go through decades of growth to get to a semblance of serenity and self-awareness. Yet inside we still feel something missing. Occasionally we turn to God and seek a deeper understanding, a purpose, a reason for the pain. So how does this relate to twin flames? If we have been blessed to meet our Twin flame in this life time, one of the significant touchstones on the path is the realization God has sent them to us to challenge us and to awaken us so that our One-soul could be guided back into its original state of Oneness. The way the twin flame does it is by pushing us on a deep journey of self-discovery and self-realization – an essential step for every God-created union.

Both the Bible and Qur’an agree that the way for us to know God and to truly understand His word is to first come to an accurate & full knowledge of ourselves. This is relevant to the twin flame journey in so many ways because the connection to your Twin flame IS the connection to the Self. If a man wants to see himself, he looks in the mirror, right? – and there is no truer reflection than your counterpart – or twin flame.

The Bible tells man to “Know Thyself” (Romans 12:3-8), whereas Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said “Whoever knows himself knows God”. It makes perfect sense, after all “God created mankind in his own image” (Gen 1:27) and “I breathed into him of My spirit” (Qur’an 38:72). Furthermore, the Qur’an tells us that it is reflecting and examining our own self which guides us to the eternal, infinite Source that is free of need and want; unlimited in knowledge, inspiration and power – and abundant in love, mercy and acceptance. God is within us, closer than our jugular vein (Qur’an, 50:16), and when we come to know ourselves, we can align with His will already planted in our heart.

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So what do the Bible and the Qur’an say about counterparts? Firstly, both books tell us that God created everything in pairs, such as “And of everything We have created pairs: That ye may receive Instruction” (Qur’an 51:49) and …“male and female he created them” (Gen. 1:27). I particularly like the Quranic text which seems to indicate that us being able to receive “instruction” (i.e. guidance) is somehow linked to our pair.

The Prophet of Islam (pbuh) said, “Women are the twin halves of men”. Your pair, your counterpart, is the person with whom you share the same essence and a “single nature and one self” (Sura al-Nisa 4:1). “It is He who created you from a single soul, And made its mate of like nature in order that you might dwell with her in love….” (Qur’an 7:189). In the Qur’anic philosophy each person is a zawj, a half of a whole consisting of two matching, interlocking and interworking parts. What is true throughout creation also applies to the human marriage, i.e. when something is created as one part of a pair it is clearly incomplete without the other – as the Qur’an states, “He himself created the pair, male and female” (Qur’an 53:45), and sometimes several incarnations take place with the zawjs making near misses.  However when the zawjs come together they reveal concealed potentials within each other, potentials that were impossible to realize while they were apart.

Regarding the marriage between counterparts, the Qur’an states: “And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are signs for those who reflect.” [Qur’an 30:21). Notice how the Qur’an is basically saying; this is how you know, and invites you to reflect on the “signs”. One thing is for sure: the stress and tension of an ill-fitting union are absent when one is bonded with the right person. There is no mention of mediocrity, emotional blackmail, co-dependency, being lost spiritually within the marriage and having to “work out differences” in what the Qur’an describes. Instead, God put PERMANENT love and mercy between the hearts of the counterparts, and they are a haven of tranquility for each other. They are each other’s medicine. In fact, the Yasir Qahdi mentions that the successful marriage is not when you can live in peace with your wife, but when you can’t live in peace without her.

Having said this, the idea of a counterpart (twin flame) is somewhat controversial in Islam, since many associate the literal theory of the “other half” as only applying to Adam and Eve, not other souls. However there are ayahs in the Qur’an which leave this issue open to interpretation. The reason that the theory of a soul mate, or twin flame, is not widely accepted in Islam is that Islam teaches us to be realistic and truthful, and such “fantasies” may even be seen as a form of zina (fornication) with the mind. Instead, Islam teaches us that once you have selected a spouse according to the guidelines set by Islam (their religious and inner qualities), then you MAKE marriage work, and the blessings follow from thereon. Basically, a male and female can build up a good relationship but ONLY within the framework of a marriage. Anything else is haram, forbidden.

Basically, your spouse is your soulmate.

However beyond the Islamic guidelines is the deeper truth found in the Qur’an which closely reflects that found in the Bible. It is the truth of connection, of Union: when God intends a man and woman for each other, they join together & become one. “They are no longer two but one flesh” (Matthew 19:6). That it is. They become “yoked together”, end of story. Being “one” with someone (or not) cannot be faked, denied or ignored permanently. No person, no event, no act, no decision can ever pull apart such a Union, whether these two get to live their lives as husband or wife or not; whether they are a part of each other’s lives or not. “Therefore what God has joined together, let not man put asunder.” (Matthew 19:6). True counterparts, through the merging of their energetic fields, know that they carry a part of the other so tightly entwined within their being that it would be impossible to untangle one from the other, or God from what is between them. They are bound together for eternity; their spiritual growth always a reflection of the other.

In the Islamic tradition, marriage is half of a person’s “deen” (i.e. their “duty” to God). Many people understand this as meaning that the act of marrying completes half their duty towards God – like they can finally sigh a sigh of relief, phew, that’s that done, right? No, wrong. Just the simple act of marrying, if done for the wrong reasons, is unlikely to get you any closer to God. After all, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) made it very clear it is always the spirit behind the act which counts more than the act itself. This is how important it is to find the right marriage partner. Yet two people who have come to know God and who call on their Beloved and find their reflection and echo in the other are still a rare occurrence in this world.

According to Islam, Allah has already written the provision for every soul on this earth, including whom we marry. Yet marriage is a decision that many people take without an accurate knowledge of God or themselves. For the majority of us, our marriages are unions of convenience. Oftentimes we exercise our free will too hastily and enter into relationships to fill a lack inside; for the other person to complete us, to aid our personal growth, to make us happy, to start a family, to support us financially etc. We choose our partners based on physical attraction, their financial status or family background, their ability to bear our children, their intelligence and so on. You get the gist. Your true counterpart is rarely your chosen wife or husband since these arrangements are made by you and represent a physical union.

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So, what if you are already married but find that the person whom God intended for you, your counterpart, is still out there? It is not uncommon at all for twin flames to be already married upon meeting. When this happens, many find themselves challenged to the core by the fact that God’s undeniable call to divine service could come through loving another person, especially if one does not happen to be married to that person. Society tells us that the person we marry is the one we are supposed to love exclusively – and even if through our spiritual and emotional growth we find God and realize we are stuck in an incompatible marriage, we still persist with it because this is what our societal, religious and cultural conditioning tells us to do. It takes a lot of courage to let ourselves feel – let alone pursue – the deep love that our true counterpart awakens within us and to forsake what we have been taught to perceive as morally wrong and contrary to God’s command in favor of what our heart tells us is right, divine and true.

Let’s be honest though, how many of us have sincerely selected our partners based their ability to remind us of God and his Love? Are our husbands and wives the beacons of light God intended them to be, pointing us towards the eternal life? The thing is, real love brings us closer to God. It is an act of worship which connects us with ourselves and others at soul level. Since it comes from Spirit; it also creates a living connection to God and to a greater purpose. It is unconditional love which exists by its own right, through a flow of divine love connecting the two lovers no matter that the circumstances or distance between them. “Beloved, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God” (1 John 4:7). Such love could never be wrong.

The Qur’an says: “God made their hearts familiar” (Qur’an 8:63) through “the light of Oneness that yields spiritual love and familiarity in the heart; for love is the shadow of Oneness, familiarity the shadow of love, and balance the shadow of familiarity.” Since God is ONE, “the closer the heart is to Oneness, the stronger the power of love is within it.” Surely this explains why the twin flame love is so strong and at times overwhelming. They help bring us back to the wholeness that we are by strengthening our love towards our self and others! Their mere presence acts as a purifying fire where everything other than love is burned away by the closeness to God.

Now I am not an advocate of anyone leaving their spouse at first sight of the Twin flame, and I certainly do not condone extramarital affairs. But beyond all the questions and moral dilemmas that arise, is the truth of what Real Love is: it is a movement towards unity, towards oneness. It is a home-bound move. Therefore, we have to ask ourselves: is love putting the blinders on and persisting with a profoundly incompatible marriage; or is it trusting the small voice inside our hearts which tells us to follow the call home, no matter what this may look like on the outside?

There is another way to look at this dilemma. Let’s say that you are married and meet your twin flame. You know it is God calling you into Union with this person but you do not feel you should leave your marriage; after all, your partner hasn’t done anything wrong – or maybe they have – but either way you don’t want to hurt them. Perhaps you hide away from you twin flame hoping she and the feelings for her will go away in time – or maybe you engage in an illicit affair with them behind your marriage partners back; somehow thinking that this is a better solution than leaving them (which it of course isn’t). However, what if in such a situation, you saw your first loyalty as being towards God? What if in examining your heart you recognized that you had married this person before you had come to know and trust God? Surely then, you can admit that this marriage is not by divine mandate but by human choice and could begin to take the steps necessary to realign yourself with God’s will.

Here comes the truth: You do not trust God. You are fighting him! Realize that there is no such thing as free will. Not really. God’s will for you is your will and you fight it because you want it all on your terms. You do not choose who you love. God chooses for you – and he makes no mistakes.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
    and lean not on your own understanding;
 in all your ways submit to him,
    and he will make your paths straight

(Proverbs 3:5-6)

 

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In the Islamic tradition at least, there is no higher love between humans than the love which is for the sake of God; love that exists for the simple reason that the person we love brings us closer to God and points us in His direction. The Qur’an states that on the day of judgment, it is those who love each other for the sake of God – meeting for His sake and parting for His sake – that will find shade. Our main consideration in selecting our partner therefore should always be how much love they inspire in us and how close to God they bring us – after all it is by the amount of love in our hearts that we will be judged.

God tells us to “love one another as I have loved you” (John 15:12). Furthermore, both Holy books speak about the importance of loving others like we love ourselves. “None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself” (Hadith 13) and “Love your neighbour as yourself” (Mark 12:31). It is worth considering that these verses cover a deeper meaning, which is that perhaps we have not known God, or true love, until we have EXPERIENCED what it is to truly love another like we love ourselves, like twin flames do; where we hurt when they hurt, where their happiness is also ours, where nothing can be hidden or denied, and where we know without a doubt that at our core we are the same. This is Love. This is Union. This is to know God.

In the gospel of Thomas, which unfortunately did not make the final cut of the Bible having been judged as too “out there”, Jesus gives us a glimpse into what the “yoking together” of a man and a woman truly is, as well as what the reward for such love is. “When you make the two one, and when you make the inside like the outside and the outside like the inside, and the above like the below, and when you make the male and the female one and the same, so that the male not be male nor the female female; and when you fashion eyes in the place of an eye, and a hand in place of a hand, and a foot in place of a foot, and a likeness in place of a likeness; then will you enter [the Kingdom]” (Thomas 24).

That’s right. Reunion of the souls leads to God’s Kingdom.

As for marriages of convenience, where do they lead us? The Bible tells us not to be “unequally yoked together with unbelievers” (Corinthians 6:14) for “What fellowship can light have with darkness?”.  If true belief comes from learning to love the other as we love ourselves like the Prophet of Islam stated in the hadith previously quoted, then the warning the Bible gives us is not to bind ourselves to anyone who does not have such love. Are we with someone who loves us unconditionally? Someone who sees eternity in our eyes, and feels the closeness of God just at the thought of us? Furthermore, 1 Corinthians 7:16 says “How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?”. Just because someone is your husband or wife through an earthly bond of marriage does not mean that you will be “saved” together. This is why it’s important to trust God for the best possible plan for our lives, even if it means our lives will go in a new direction.

Since “God created everything in pairs”, it is God that is the point of reference for the counterparts. “He has set up the balance…” of all things, so the counterparts should only look for Him to set all things in the right equilibrium. This means, no rushed actions or jumps from one relationship to another in the hopes of catching the elusive twin flame; not without first doing the work to get to know our Self, learning surrender, becoming humble and establishing your personal relationship with God. Your priority has to be to first set things right with God, so that he can bring about the balance within your lives together if such is His will.

Surrender is so crucial because through it, we stop trying to play God. We release the illusion that we are in control here. God loves us and wants amazing things for us, but we need to know when we are standing in His way. More than anything therefore, surrender implies the end of resistance. It requires total acceptance since we cannot surrender something that we deny, or something that we won’t face. Rather we surrender when we no longer blame, control, deny, compromise, expect, push or pull, ignore, avoid, force, wait or manipulate. Surrender asks us to die to ourselves; to release who we think we are and to become nothing once more so that God can become everything in us. God needs space in us to work through us and he can only do this once we finally just allow whatever is to be.

With God, everything plays out perfectly as He planned it.

Ultimately what I am trying to say here is that the importance of marriage as a social contract should not never override its original purpose of true partnership, a mingling of the spirit, heart and soul of a male and a female of like nature, created together; fulfilling the divine mandate for their lives. Beyond the societal rules and restrictions that govern marriage and divorce there is simple truth: what good is a marriage, no matter how long or fruitful, if we do not see eternity in the eyes of our spouse? True love lasts forever – beyond time and space; beyond this lifetime into the eternal life; into Paradise, into Jannah. True counterparts hold the key to each other’s salvation and know that the other was sent by God to bring them home.

For me, this whole existence – and certainly the twin flame journey – would be pointless if I did not believe with ALL MY HEART that one day we will cross the gates of Paradise together. Just his presence – energetic, spiritual or physical, has helped make me a better person; and the love that I have come to know through him has made me a believer. I hold fast to the promise of an eternal life together (”You will be with those you love”- Prophet Muhammad [pbuh]) and I know it will be worth every moment spent apart. All I know is that my twin flame brings me closer to God. No one else can do it for me.  And this is how I know he is the one.

Does his marriage to another change this truth? No, not at all. First of all, meeting a twin flame does not have to destroy any marriages. Twin flames can also act as a positive, empowering force in each other’s lives without engaging in a sexual relationship. An Islamic fatwa states that if we feel love for a member of the opposite sex, then the emotion itself is not the subject of questioning on the Day of Judgment. If you feel you love someone, if you have a special affinity towards them, then you cannot control your feeling. Such love is not bad. Love has to do with the heart, and it may appear in a person’s heart for reasons known or unknown. Feel free to embrace it. However, when we take that love and give expression to our feelings in actions permissible only within the bond of marriage then our action becomes forbidden.

To truly love someone means to have reverence and respect for that person. If our twin flame is married to someone else and chooses to stay in the marriage, then a true twin flame will accept and embrace such a marriage as an extension of their Union. This is because true counterparts know the value of the other as a spiritual person, and it is from reverence that they source the willingness to grant the beloved the spiritual space needed to freely travel his/her own path. It is for this reason that true counterparts never make any demands on each other. Their connection is unique and irreplaceable, whether they are together or not – and no amount of sex, marriage vows, babies, or years together can ever bring forth such a connection with another. It either exists organically from the offset – or it doesn’t. True counterparts are always within each other, a part of each other in a way that could never render them insecure towards each other. It just is what it is. Even if one of them is married to another, they will always be reminded of their eternal promise to each other; and their Union, whether here on earth or in the Heavens, is always only a matter of time. “Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace.”Ephesians 4:2-3

In my heart, I know that God brings twin flames together for so much more than just a life together as a couple here on earth. I know that if mine is showing up in my life – and I his – it means that I am being invited to step deeper into God’s love and into spiritual service, to step off the wheel of incarnation and to go home. My twin flame brings me close to God. Nothing or no one can ever change this truth. That’s why when my twin flame told me, I think God sent you to me & vice versa, to challenge us, to expand us and guide us to his path, to his truth, to our eternal life & salvation, to peace and serenity”, this alone means more to me than any other promise of earthly marriage or life. It tells me that he is headed home – and I will be there to welcome him with open arms; whether it be in this realm, or the next.

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39 Responses to Twin Flames, Marriage and Union in Islamic and Christian scriptures 

  1. mirrorsouls says:

    Hi,
    I love your blog. It is very similar to my story. Do visit my blog to see a twin flame book suggestion and much more: https://mirrorsouls.wordpress.com/2016/06/11/twin-flame-book-suggestion/

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  2. Loveit says:

    Wow just wow!! I am in awe of you. I got chills reading this because it is so informative and so beautifully written. I felt closer to GOD and my twinflame as I read this and I feel like they were both with me reading along. You really need to win a prize for this piece!!

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  3. Virginie says:

    Thank you Jonna! 😲
    It is super lovely beautiful… 🌏 💛
    You bring so much light and love to each one. I have all the time seen that in you.
    I guess it might not be so easy sometimes (with all due respect to your “technically husband” 😊 and beings 💙 around him) and even if I know I am not your flame, you are a real and true goddess to my heart and my eyes.
    I send love to your story and to each one reading your post because that’s who you are for me,

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  4. DMoon says:

    I just LOVE your blog! It is so healing to read and feel. Thank you and welcome back!

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  5. Kate says:

    Wow, I just found your blog. Love it! This article is fantastic, so well written, and exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you!

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  6. Mona says:

    “Das ist der Liebe heiliger Götterstrahl,
    der in die Seele schlägt und trifft und zündet.
    Wenn sich Verwandtes zum Verwandten findet,
    da ist kein Widerstand und keine Wahl:
    Es löst der Mensch nicht, was der Himmel bindet”
    Friedrich Schiller

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  7. “…..The Qur’an states that on the day of judgement, it is those who love each other for the sake of God – meeting for His sake and parting for His sake – that will find shade.” Hot summer’s afternoon in a garden setting, when I (we?) experienced our Awakening……upon walking up to and standing beside me, my TF said: …”(I’ve) come to cosset the shade.”

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  8. Durinda says:

    This was so beautifully written. Thank you for sharing this heartfelt message.

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  9. Michelle says:

    Hi! I loved the article “Twin flames, Marriage and Union in Islamic and Christian scriptures”. It’s the first article about twins that makes 100% sense. My twin and I both prayed (gave our lives to the Lord) just before we met each other. I want to share with you what I’ve learned from my twin flame journey.

    It starts with a prayer
    Asking God to give your life a purpose or help you to help others
    Or a thought “I give up”
    God hears your heart
    And your heart is saying “I’m done trying to do it my way. I hand my life over to you my Lord”

    Then you meet him/her
    It doesn’t make sense
    It’s wonderful
    There are so many similarities
    The signs!
    But you hardly know this person
    Yet you know so much about them

    Then the dreams start
    A vision here and there
    You realise you can FEEL him/her
    You feel their sadness, anxiety, fears and anger
    Your heart swells up when they are happy
    But it doesn’t stop there
    They can ‘touch’ you ‘physically’ even though they are thousands of miles apart by just thinking of you
    It’s mind boggling, beautiful and so very special
    Nothing comes close to this!

    You start to research and learn about ‘Twin Flames’
    You read the Bible, search the internet endlessly, talk to yourself ALL OF THE TIME
    Whereas before your internal dialogue were very, very silent
    Now they are LOUD
    The push and pull starts
    You realise they can ‘hear’ your thoughts
    And you can ‘hear’ theirs

    It becomes too much
    You have nowhere to hide
    You can’t hide the bits you don’t like about yourself
    You try to deny the connection
    It’s not true!
    But the miracles, signs and your parallel lives, the similarities reminds you that it is!

    You decide that you will accept it
    If you can figure out the purpose
    There must be a purpose!
    You need to know what is the right thing to do
    Should you pursue this unknown, all knowing, all consuming love?
    Or keep it at a distance?
    Ha! You’ve tried that before – distance. But it never works!
    They are inside of you
    You can never forget, outrun or hide from them
    They are on your mind 24/7
    They are all you think about, want and need
    You feel them all of the time
    It’s all consuming!
    You hate that you can’t let go
    Or maybe you don’t, you don’t really know
    It’s all so confusing!

    Your research leads you into different direction:
    • Ascension
    • End of the world (Revelations)
    • You’re special – an alien/ a star / clairvoyant / co-creator
    • True love

    Your head doesn’t stop spinning
    Then you’re up, then you’re down
    Then you know, then you don’t
    You know this is true love
    But it’s not from this earth, it doesn’t fit the mold
    It’s above that

    All the other theories are plausible
    But none of them sits well in your heart
    The heart is not at peace with these theories

    You NEED answers!
    You HAVE to understand!
    You can’t accept it until you understand!

    You start to accept parts of this journey
    You accept:
    that you love him/her regardless
    that they are everything to you
    that they are with someone else
    that you can’t let go
    that you want them to be happy without you
    And finally you accept that you might not ever get to live the life you dreamt off with this person

    This relationship has brought you closer to God
    You’ve surrendered
    But why are you still not at peace?

    Okay, maybe you secretly want them to give up their life/partner and be with you.
    Maybe you secretly want this all-consuming love but on your terms.
    Maybe secretly you believe you have a choice.

    The Twin Flame journey
    Starts when you give your life to God
    God steps in – finds you and reveals Himself to you
    It takes you a while to see this because you’re consumed by the love for your twin
    You don’t see it when you separate from your twin
    Because you want to blame your twin/life/yourself for the separation
    The separation hurts! The hurt blinds you.
    But this is part of the journey
    When you stop blaming your twin for the separation
    And stop trying to make sense of it all
    By looking for reasons, explanations and proof
    This is when YOU find God
    This is when you accept that this situation is out of your hands

    And then you realise
    There is no such thing as free will
    You thought you could chose who you love
    Wrong! God chooses for you
    You thought you could choose your life partner
    Wrong again! God chooses for you
    You thought you get to decide what you want to do with your life
    Wrong! Only God knows your purpose
    You thought you could control your life
    Wrong! He just showed you that you can’t!

    You realise God is in control, not you
    You understand that there is no such thing as a coincidence
    That everything plays our perfectly as God planned
    In His perfect timing
    You realise that by trying to be in control you are playing god
    You see the truth
    That God’s will for you is your will
    And you’ve been fighting it all the way through this twin flame journey
    Because you want things on your terms!

    This journey is a purifying/surrender journey
    Your love for your twin
    Forces you to surrender
    You surrender your will for HIS will
    Not because you think it will bring you closer to your twin
    But because you know that His Will for you is the best for you
    You surrender your pride for peace
    Your will for His will
    Your ego for His Glory

    Tip: Stay humble! Be patient! ALWAYS be grateful!

    Thank you for allowing me to share 🙂 Best of luck for all the twins out there.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Michelle, I totally agree. You just traced my steps on this journey. Would you mind if I shared this text with my readers? Under your name – or a pseudo if you’d like? Please let me know. You have written it so beautifully. Love & blessings to you lovely soul sister ❤️

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      • Mark Michelle says:

        Yes, please share! There are so much misleading information out there on twin flames 😦

        Thank you for the compliment 🙂

        Love right back at you Soul Sister ♡

        On 19 Oct 2016 19:55, “The Mirror of My Soul – Stories of you, me and eternity” wrote:

        > doucejonna commented: “Michelle, I totally agree. You just traced my steps > on this journey. Would you mind if I shared this text with my readers? > Under your name – or a pseudo if you’d like? Please let me know. You have > written it so beautifully. Love & blessings to you lov” >

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      • Virginie says:

        You see Michelle… 🌚
        I can completely relate to your being 💞 .
        Last night, i was entirely laying in my bed on my right side : listening to some beautiful piece of music (thank you from the heart of my heart 💗 ) with my headphones to transcend and transmute pains and suffers me & my “flavour” (he is for me the essence of Life) have known since yin-yang of light and possibly the one of each human being… and i was contemplating this painting on full-size display with my 💘 (i am not sure you know this painting… La Gioconda)… and i cried.
        So i thank you for your 🍀 and your 💝 and i fairly wish you happiness and to each one who live for the one of their Lord as much as for their own ∞ 💛 🌍 💛 🌎 💛 🌍 💛 ∞

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    • Virginie says:

      Can you see them in their Passion?

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      • Michelle says:

        Hi Virginie, I’m not sure I understand. Passion for me, life, others or purpose? And “see” as in recognize myself in him? Yes, I can see myself in his passions but that’s about it because we are complete opposites. I still struggle to see us as one.

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    • sofifl says:

      Hi Michelle, so did you end up with your twin finally? Or could one go thru all these steps to accept that one won’t be with their twin, but we found God through the process? I feel too shy to let this guy know I feel this way, and I think he feels the same way but we have never talked about it. I’m married and have two small children so that makes it hard too.

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      • Michelle says:

        Hi 🙂 No, unfortunately not. We’re both married with children so that makes it hard. On top of that we’re trying to figure out what the right thing is to do and not hurt anyone. It’s not in our nature to hurt others and our life partners are very dependent on us.

        I don’t think you ever accept not being with your twin. As long as you can feel and hear them, you will think of them 24/7 and want to be with them. You will never be able to accept not being with them.

        I’ve tried to convince myself that I will never be with my twin because we’re both married. But then I get a sign or I hear him and I just fall back into hope. I struggled to understand why God would allow such an intense type of love when we’re both married and I just realised that it’s us making this wrong, not God. How could we possibly know what is right and what is wrong? Only God knows. This verse gives me hope:

        Proverbs 3: 5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.

        I know it’s hard to tell someone that you love them and want to be with them when they haven’t said it to you (and to be in a marriage on top of that) but I think it’s important to be honest with yourself and him. At some point he will know in any case (telepathic communication) and you won’t be able to hide anything from your twin so you might as well just put all your cards on the table. Honesty is always the best policy!

        The best advice I can give you is to trust yourself. Listen to your inner voice, become aware of everything, trust and believe the signs and follow your heart. God is love! Live in love and follow love – you can’t go wrong. You will get a sign and then you will know.

        I recently went to the library and found this book: “Only love is real” by Dr Brian Weiss. Please try to get it! #hope

        xxx
        Michelle
        “One life – one love”

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      • Virginie says:

        Hello Michelle,

        I’ve just read your question (which i think is one very good point) in fact I was “recentering” myself so a bit out of the internet 😉 … I will take time to think about an answer. I have just finished to read your sharing with Sofifl and something came out in your words. You have written “I’ve tried to convince myself that I will never be with my twin because we’re both married.” : do you mean because you are afraid to “hurt” the other parent of your children?
        Also i wanted to ask you if “reincarnations” make sense for you?

        I wish you a lovely evening,
        PS : I can’t write you straightly (no reply button)? 🙂

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      • Michelle says:

        Hi Virginie, it’s great to hear from you 🙂 Sorry for the delayed reply, I’ve also been ‘offline’ in a sense. Yes, it comes down to not hurting the people around us: partners, children, family and friends but especially the children. How do you explain divorce to your child? How do you tell your husband/wife you don’t love them anymore? How do you ask someone to leave their family for you? How do you start a new life in your thirties with someone you only physically spent 24 hours with (4 hours x 6 nights) and merge two families in one city when one family is based in the north and the other in the south? #HUGEobstacles

        Also in the Bible divorce and adultery is a big sin. I know that there is a chance that we might be interpreting the Bible incorrectly because the Bible was written in code/symbols/metaphors to ‘force’ us to search for the truth but at this stage the message still comes across that divorce is wrong and we both just want to do what is right.

        We, my twin and I, met each other when we were 16 (who knew you could meet the one at such a young age – I didn’t!) and we had a very short fling during which time trust wasn’t built – so trust is a big thing, more on his side than on mine and we haven’t’ seen each other in 18 years! This actually made me think … my biggest fear is loosing myself. I can’t explain it, I can feel us merging into one and the fear of living for him goes hand in hand with my fear of being controlled and that freaks me out. So I fight him every step of the way and he does the same thing (we are both very proud, independent and strong willed people yet very humble).

        None of it matters at the end of the day because he made up his mind that we weren’t meant to be. He hasn’t blocked me, communication lines are still open but he won’t allow himself to feel for me, if that makes any sense. What he doesn’t realise is that whatever he thinks/believes becomes what I think/believe so now I’m also in the same state of mind/boat even though my heart says something completely different.

        I’ve realised that thinking about the future only hurts (will I get the chance to be with him or not?). Tomorrow is not promised, yesterday is gone and all we have is this moment. So I’m living in the moment.

        Yes, I believe in reincarnation … I never did before I met my twin but now I do. The reason I believe it is because my twin is everything to me: friend, lover, brother, father, mentor and even rival. Please try to get the book I wrote about in my previous post ‘Only love is real’ it’s all about reincarnation … it’s a real eye opener for twins.

        Phew, that was therapeutic! Thank you for allowing me to unload.

        Keep well my friend.
        xxx

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  10. devane says:

    I am so happy to have found your blog, I even cried at some of your posts, even though I don’t know how to explain why. What I want to say to you is that I have met my twin flame two years ago and we are passing through the separation phase.

    I have been trough so much bliss and suffering since I have met him, because while deep inside me I know he is my twin and there is no denial of the fact that I have been pushed into knowing God (I was an atheist before knowning him) and into improving myself, my ego – influenced by all the skeptical people around me and my own deep emotional problems, which have led me into suicide attempts so many times (and this is another proof that I have found my twin: suddenly, after meeting him, I had found a reason to be ALIVE, and this reason was LOVE) – tells me all the time to forget him and live with guilt (I read everywhere twins can’t hurt each other but I was so much of a wreck that I did this. My higher self kept telling to not do that but my ego was stronger and I hurt him with mean words. The pain I caused him was felt inside me, as if I had thrown a dagger into his heart, which had crossed mine too. I could vividly feel my heart bleeding).

    Although now I know this was necessary for us to be healed (he has strong emotional issues as well), I still feel a little guilt, because I really never meant to harm him and I wouldn’t, if I weren’t so broken inside. I know I have to improve myself A LOT but I am so distant from God now that I wonder if I will feel that love flowing through me ever again.

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    • Jason says:

      You’ve been through the separation phase? In our journey one is the runner, the other is the chaser. I’ve never let my runner run away. We cut so many separations. It happens but we mustn’t allow it. We must help each other work our way to God. If you run away from your twin, you are running away from yourself.

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  11. You know the truth by the way it feels says:

    Woah. Reading this has really helped me because it has been crazy, painful, joyful. Times when I wished this hadn’t happened but then recentre and knowing that this was meant. The love I now know exists I can give easily to others. I have no hate in my heart at all. For this lesson alone I am blessed. My work has soared as I can easily love those who come to me and I see that they pass this love on. That is the purpose. He is in a relationship which pains as i split from my partner of 14 years 3 months before I met him. I would say my split was totally unrelated to him as I had not met him, but the Universe knows better than that. The meeting was dynamic (understatement) and when he told me he was another I felt like someone had stabbed me. A year before we met he had asked his partner for a polygamous relationship which allowed him to meet others, therefore me. I haven’t told him how I feel and am seeing signs to speak my truth. I have done this in other areas of my life but not to him. I don’t want to sabotage or manipulate his relationship. I respect him and her (I don’t know her) too much for that but again that it me talking from the 3D folllowing those rules and conditions. When I felt I could say, he has gone underground and I know he needs this time to think things through about this as he, like me didn’t believe in true love. I have attached a poem I wrote as I feel that writing really helps bring peace, patience and understanding. If you are like me you will hate hearing this but our meeting is much more than just us. It’s about the bigger picture what we can do for humanity with this knowledge and total love. Self love. I am fortunate I can and am channeling this which helps. I still want him with every fibre but trying and increasingly succeeding on using the learning for others.

    Twin Flame – True Love

    I was born into tragedy
    Or that is how others viewed it
    My mother died when I was 8 months old
    What chance now? They say.
    What chance for the half caste?

    No mother. No race.
    Lost. Alone.
    No chance

    My heart told me no
    You are destined for great things
    You are destined to bring change
    You are a pioneer
    A survivor

    Destined for great things
    Underpinned everything I did
    I believed I would excel
    I did. In so many areas
    My brother with me.
    We are destined for great things

    We were blessed with a new family
    A new start
    New opportunities
    We are destined for great things

    First child reminded me of the barriers
    The barriers I had constructed and added too
    The barriers which prevented love
    She broke them down
    It was natural and I was grateful

    Then my brother
    It was his time to pass
    The pain
    Soul destroying
    Overwhelming darkness
    Consumed by grief

    We are not destined for great things
    We are over
    I am over.
    Barriers back.
    Higher and stronger than before
    We are not destined for great things

    My soul seemed to retreat
    Shut down
    No more

    Then I began to feel
    Began to breath
    Breath without pain
    Then yes, the soul
    It is still there

    Embracing me
    Holding my hand
    Bringing me forward
    Back to the light

    I AM destined for great things
    With my brother and my mother
    My guides
    What a blessing
    Gratitude replaced the hurt and blame

    The ‘It’s not fair’ became
    ‘It’s for a reason’
    I found myself
    Reunited with the love in my soul
    I AM destined for great things.

    This awakening
    New eyes
    Soul led
    You’re not happy
    Change it

    I left my partner.
    It hurt but I knew
    The soul told me
    I surrendered

    Single. Probably will be forever
    Doesn’t matter
    As long as I love and honour my soul
    I am destined for great things

    On this frequency
    He came
    With eternity in his eyes
    My heart.
    In my head.
    Beating through my chest
    What is this?

    Help.
    Fear consumed me.
    This is not logical
    It doesn’t make sense

    I didn’t believe in this.
    True love
    No. It doesn’t exist

    I hear him
    I feel him
    I love him

    All that I knew
    Understood
    My limitations
    Gone

    Then the internal battle.
    Ego vs truth
    Ego: You have met him twice
    Truth: You have known him always

    Ego: He doesn’t feel the same way
    Truth: He loves you too
    Ego: It’s not love. It’s infatuation
    Truth: It’s the purest divine love

    One last fight from the ego
    ‘I didn’t ask for this”
    My soul calmly states
    ‘You did. You both did.
    The divine has granted you.
    Because they love you.’

    I accept the truth
    I surrender to the truth
    I have faith in the truth
    I am blessed because of the truth

    I AM destined for great things
    We are destined for great things
    As one destined for great things

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    • Michelle says:

      Hi You know the truth, I just want to say that your poem is BEAUTIFUL and I agree with you on a higher purpose. I am slowly but surely finding out what my purpose is and it’s a wonderful journey. I thought the twin experience was the ultimate experience but it gets better! I’ve found God’s peace, made my heart His temple, found my true self and now I’m working on my purpose. The love that I feel for my twin now flows 24/7 within me like an infinity sign. My twin and I have been on this journey for eight months and in December communication was ‘cut off’. I know that he’s also working on his purpose and that this is the preparation stage. I don’t know what the future holds but I do know that it will be beautiful. xxx

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  12. sarahgcarpenter says:

    I have read through this blog after randomly discovering it via StumbleUpon. Your words deeply resonate with me. I have been experiencing an almost identical situation with someone over the past 13 years. I’m currently in the process of becoming true to myself and my heart and leaving my current relationship after realizing that my convictions are elsewhere and I can no longer deny the truth. I’m struggling, trying to understand these feelings and this connections ny twin and I have. I wanted to thank you. My journey is just beginning and my love still feels unrequited but I pray one day I will be able to love him the way I am meant to. Thank you for offering me this source of strength and love and reminding me to press onward in this difficult time.

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  13. mamata26 says:

    Don’t you all think people are fooling themselves in the name of Twin Flames? A person who truly loves us, can never see us tormented. And that too when decades are vanishing in front of their eyes, how can they remain silent and indifferent? Maybe it’s hard to see this evident truth as one is blind-folded because of burdening oneself with the expectation of unconditional love, but me has to come to terms with it eventually.

    What I feel is, if one’s Twin Flame is able to remain indifferent for years, then he/she is NOT one’s Twin-Flame, but actually Counterfeit TF. Unless one sees through this, they are giving away their energy to a vampire who is ever-ready to receive that energy.

    Only when one sees through this and stops sharing one’s light and love to one who doesn’t deserve it, can we make way for our True TF. It’s possible that Counterfeit TF and True TF can reside in the same body at different periods of a life time. Or the true TF can be in a different realm too. Either way, please stop sharing your energies with those emotion-draining vampires and stand up for your self-worship. If not in this in life time, some day for sure, one can then meet their true TF!

    /Mamata Anurag.

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  14. mamata26 says:

    Typos!
    *but one has to come to terms with it eventually.

    *and stand up for your self worth.

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  15. Virginie says:

    Oula but what is that Jonna??? Your blog is not on vacation! 😂
    I haven’t come since my last comment and haven’t read your visitors’ letters yet (nevertheless I’ve been thinking about them, particularly some) but can’t wait to exchange.
    I deeply want to post something previously so here it is :


    And I love her

    😘

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    • doucejonna says:

      Dear Virginie, so sorry it’s been a long time. I was struggling with pneumonia after contracting the hacking cough epidemic which was rife here in the U.K. a couple of months ago and haven’t been online much. It’s been a long road back to recover and I am still not fully well. Hoping to be back to it soon.. miss you all ❤️😘Thank you for sharing, please do keep the comments coming. Love & blessings

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      • Virginie says:

        Dear Jonna,

        Oh no… don’t be sorry! You have done so much and it’s beautiful each one can contribute to our world : we are all responsible for it. I was speaking in a positive surprising way (you know… it’s my humor) that your visitors 😍 feel safe (certainly because loved) to express themselves, i mean their heart (i include myself in “them”). I am sorry to hear it was not easy months but better to hear about your recovering. I wanted to tell you we all love you (me and my soul mates even if i haven’t asked them 😊 ) to have helped me the way you did.

        Multi kisses from the other side of the Channel 💛

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  17. Hello, I felt compelled to comment on your blog because I feel like finally, someone understands what I’ve been going through. I’m a Muslim girl and I think I’ve found my twin flame. He’s Christian and lives on the other side of the world. The last three years have been an on and off journey and right now it’s off. However, since we met, I’ve always been able to ‘feel’ his thoughts, especially when they are of me. Right now, even though we are no longer in each others’ lives, I can feel still feel him when he misses me or when he thinks of me. It is a clenching in my chest and it changes my breathing patterns. And although I have no way of ‘checking’, I am beginning to suspect that he has been having dreams of us almost every night since we broke up. My friends think I am crazy because of how I am so insistent that I can ‘feel’ him. Is this normal in a twin flame connection? It does break my heart, though, being unsure if we’ll ever reunite since he is adamant that he does not want to convert to Islam. And this post spoke to me because since we broke up, I’ve been drawn closer to Allah and I know that my love for Allah comes first before anything else, even him.

    I didn’t mean to share my whole story with you but I’m just excited that finally someone understands and I hope I don’t sound too crazy as well.

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  18. Jason says:

    Wooow, writer thank you so much for this. Me and my twin were so confused about everything. This website has set us straight. Also we believe deep down what we are but we are attacked by evil trying to prove what we have is not love. Spiritual warfare has begun, I believe so. To all twinsouls out there build faith in you and the twin, the journey and God and nothing shall split Ya’ll. thank you for this post.

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  19. Scorpio Vixen says:

    Hi, oh my word… I came across your blog and was completely blown away by your knowledge, and references to both the Quran and the Bible. I’m a married Muslim woman who has been battling with the idea that I have found my twin flame only after. I also know had I never gotten married, I would never have met my twin soul.

    Since meeting him, I’ve gone through a lot of spiritual growth and I’ve definitely found the connection to God and that I’ve been seeking all my life.

    I don’t know what my future holds but for now his presence and love in my life is enough to keep me strong and to continue with my path of self growth.

    Thanks for that amazing blog.

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  20. Zwaan says:

    This article takes all the doubts I still had away. Like others saying above here, what you are explaining is so clear, so full of love. Thank you. Best article I have read about twinflames

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  21. Everything you have written is exactly what i’m going through!…my my!

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  22. JODY says:

    Are you on facebook?

    Fabulous and insightful article.. Very brave too.

    So many misinterpretations on some of these scriptures by people.
    And too many people are loyal to their human choices of a partner despite when confronted by that still small voice to follow a deeper love that will lead them closer to God. Many are committed to save face and to protect their ego instead of truly trusting God.

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