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When our search for The One leads us Home


As human beings, we are born with an innate need to belong, to be loved and to find our own place in this world. This search for a deeper connection and belonging sparks in us the remembrance of our true spiritual nature through experiences of love and connection with something greater than us. Since our true nature is spiritual, it makes sense to say that true love is spiritual too. However finding such love is not as simple as putting a profile up on match.com and picking the one whose personality matches closest with ours; for we are not really looking for a counterpart for our personality, likes and dislikes, but rather a counterpart who in essence is the same as us.

Enter our Twin Flame: this awe-inspiring, wondrous person who completes us and whose mind, heart and consciousness seem to flow from the same fountain as ours. We recognise ourselves in their eyes; those eyes that we’ve looked upon so many lifetimes in so many faces; like mirrors reflecting only our true self back to us. It is like friendship set on fire: an instant, deep resonance that consumes us with its fierce, relentless flame of truth, passion and unconditional love. This person seems to match and understand us down to our deepest core and we simply KNOW that we are meant to be together.

Unfortunately while the heightened experience of love with our Twin Flame is very real and the feelings mutual, to come into permanent physical union with them is another ball game. Often at least one Twin will be unprepared for the intensity of the connection, or simply unaware of what is being offered, and there may be issues with timing. We find our dreams of romantic candlelit dinners and proposals at sunset crushed with the intense energies and complete ego annihilation involved which equate more to a test and a mission rather than anything to do with romance.

Meeting our twin Flame pulls the carpet right from under our feet, shaking our perception of reality and driving us inwards to find our own answers. It is a process where all our ideas about love, life and our self are totally picked apart and reconstructed. The twin flame connection is first and foremost a spiritual connection given to us to aid our Soul’s evolution and a shared spiritual mission here on earth. A physical union, if such has been planned, will only happen once both souls are ready – and this may be months, years, even decades down the line and may require a lot of patience, preparation and work!


Is this love that I’m feeling?

After a brief reunion with my twin flame after 3 years of running, we both tried to define and make sense of what we felt – and didn’t feel – for each other by trying to fit our connection it into a pre-labeled box of friend, lover, future partner etc. Unfortunately translating the Twin Flame connection into earthly terms proves impossible since it will not fit any preconceived notions regarding love and ideal partners. What’s more, we find ourselves confused and thrown off track because the connection involves such a wide array of human emotions, including those of a friend, lover, parent, child, teacher, student & many more – and these can all be felt separately or together in endless combinations. We expect to feel giddy with excitement with butterflies in our stomachs but instead we feel the deep pride of a mother one moment, and the love of a sister for her dear brother the next, followed by an unmistakable sexual pull towards them. The breath and width of these emotions simply cannot be put into one neatly labelled box.

In addition, our socially conditioned beliefs, air-brushed ideals of beauty and outdated templates all contribute to the image of an ideal man/woman that we hold in our minds – and which our Twin rarely fits. Our Twin is often unlike anyone we have ever been with or would usually be attracted to. We may be at a loss as to what exactly it is that we find so attractive in them since they are definitively “not our type”. On top of this, our definition of love is often based on previous experiences and fantasies of romantic Hollywood type “falling in love” associated with games of seduction, lustful sex and romantic gestures leading into a “happy ever after”. Therefore, when we meet our twin flame we suddenly find ourselves on unknown territory where we know we are feeling something special, magical and effortlessly “right”, but at the same time we do not quite recognize what it is or what it means since we have no point of reference.

A few weeks after our reunion in 2005 my twin told me he did not feel romantic love towards me. My heart sank since I had always known we were somehow meant to be “together”, and I knew of no other way to be with a man whom I loved and desired. This drove me inward to question what true love really is. I looked up definitions of romantic love and came across this one by Canadian sociologist, John Lee: “ Romantic love –the lover thinks constantly about the loved one, is jealous, unrealistic, will tolerate anything, is sexually attracted by physical appearance, needs repeated reassurance he/she is loved in return.” I agreed; this was not us, but what was it then?

In my writings and my mind I started meticulously revisiting every single lover I had ever had. I was asking myself whether I had ever really loved anyone – and had anyone ever really loved me? I was trying to understand what it was that I felt for this man I hardly knew in the usual sense of the word; yet whom I would have trusted with my life, my children, my all, from the first day we met. I started seeing things differently, identifying behaviors and patterns, and sharing it all with him out of some “necessity” to dig very deep within me; like I needed to show him everything about me, perhaps to get to the real me buried underneath it all.


The illusion of romantic love

My initial disappointment transformed into clarity as I finally realized that this kind of unrealistic romantic love – the weak-kneed, starry-eyed kind of love – had nothing to do with true love. Romantic fantasies fool us into thinking that all our problems will be solved once we find the perfect mate and fall in love. It is an infatuation driven by an emotionally intense game of ecstatic ups and downs; its lows temporarily painful but with no long term risk involved. Because it lacks real intimacy, we are able to hide parts of ourselves to keep our partner happy and to maintain the status quo within the relationship, giving us a false sense of security which ultimately leaves us unsatisfied and yearning for something deeper, more connected and more REAL. In trying to meet our partner’s expectations we take on roles for fear that we will disappoint them or that love will be withdrawn if we show them the real us. Sadly, by the time we awaken from this dream, we find ourselves in a loveless relationship, unrecognizable to ourself, with yet another mask, yet another layer hiding the real us; or perhaps already in middle of a bitter divorce or separation, wondering what went wrong.

The thing is; the co-dependency of this kind of unrealistic “love” keeps us from growing into a whole person, whereas true love is the acceptance of the fact that our lover is not perfect and neither are we. When we truly love someone we understand that each of us needs to grow, and that we can be catalysts for each other’s growth. We can nurture one another, challenge one another and encourage one another. True love makes us want to be the best possible expression of our true self. It is not a bond of love; it does not seek to bind, possess or dominate, nor does it make claims of exclusivity on the other. Rather, it comes with space; space to breathe, to grow, to evolve into a whole being.

True love is an ever-evolving and ever-expanding truth: it has no rhyme or reason yet remains steadfast and abiding. There is nothing our Twin can do or say to change how we feel inside; there is nothing they could show us that would make us love or respect them any less. Real love comes to us quietly with a stability of emotion. It is not a lustful, impetuous passion driven by sentimentality and emotionalism but rather an element of calm and depth which quietly slips into our life and which peers deep into our soul. When we truly love someone, we would never intentionally do anything to hurt the other. We only want their happiness, even when they make choices that do not involve us.


A relationship based solely on romantic love requires two people to constantly communicate, bargain and compromise to remain in agreement with each other. Since there is no underlying resonance, the lovers need constant reassurance that the other still loves them. However, the spiritual affinity of true love allows us to understand and relate to each other on a much deeper level; that of the soul. True love reveals an entire new dimension of energetic possibility: we don’t need any validation or reassurance from the other since our connection is felt on the inside, and the need for reassurance is replaced by telepathy and synchronicities, and generally being on the same page with each other. The only confusion comes when the other is not being true to what is in their heart; since we are always able to see the intention in their heart – so that even when the words lie, the heart cannot.

True love therefore requires integrity with ourselves; first and foremost. A Twin flame can only ever love the REAL you. How do we expect them to find us if we are hiding behind a mask? And how will we recognize them if we do not even recognize ourselves? We don’t even acknowledge our own falseness, yet we expect them to see us for who we really are. True love is a danger to the ego since it makes us experience ourselves directly; not through past experiences or beliefs or our ego, but by being alive in the NOW. True love therefore is an invitation to show up as you are; to peel away the layers of protection and social conditioning, let go of self-doubt, and start seeing life with your heart. It is an invitation to become more of who you are.


True love is a choice

Twin flames are two sovereign beings with no need control each other or interfere with each other’s choices. Any co-dependence should raise a red flag which tells you this is not your twin flame but more likely a karmic soulmate. When we really love someone, we don’t need anything from them. Yes, we may miss them terribly and wish they were part of our life but we also know “what will be, will be”. We would never want to deliberately cause them confusion or pain, or to make any unreasonable claims or demands. If they choose to be with someone else we can accept that this is something that they need for their growth and we wish them only happiness.

Falling in immature, romantic love requires no effort whatsoever. There is nothing to choose or decide: this kind of love chooses you with its “I can’t survive without you”. Co-dependency, attachment, jealousy, blame, self-pity, emotional blackmail; they give you no choice. When we are held in relationships by a perceived “duty” or out of guilt, then this is not true love  – true love ALWAYS presents itself as a choice. Where there is love there is no duty and no responsibility.

True love is unassuming, without pride or shame. It focuses on the will and involves choices: I can live without you, but I make a choice not to. If people can love each other in a mature way, no one will have to compromise their feelings and preferences in order to be loved. Having a choice means having the freedom to choose. Freedom to choose only exists when all options are available to us. It is the greatest feeling in the world and a true experience of freedom: having the most important thing in the world without owning it.


The problem with true love

To truly love someone is to take full responsibility for your own emotional states and feelings. Since love is the only thing that is real, anything else that arises within you is yours and ONLY yours to deal with since it is all your own creation. Is your Twin Flame sleeping with someone else? Does he deny his feelings for you and constantly contradict himself? Is he ignoring your pleas for clarity on what is going on between you? Stop looking to him for answers that need to be found within your own being. If you truly love this person, you will LOVE and ACCEPT them just the way they are. Respect their right to travel their own path and don’t punish them for only doing the best they can. Make peace with your feelings by acknowledging these and letting them go, and lavishing yourself with all the love that you want to receive from them.

The problem with true love is that to be able to receive it, we must be able to give it. Unfortunately most of us don’t even have that quantity of love for ourselves. How can we accept having someone in our life that loves us more than we love ourselves? It’s impossible. Our twin flame makes us feel both understood and seen fully for the first time in our lives, but we also feel terribly exposed; all our imperfections acutely staring us (and them!) in the face. It is as terrifying as it is exhilarating. We are not used to seeing or displaying the vulnerable, not-so-pretty parts of ourselves – and here is someone who not only sees them but claims to love them too. This seems impossible to us; even we can’t love those parts; our own mother perhaps couldn’t… How could this person who on the surface has only known us for a few days, weeks or months, claim to do so?

Our imperfections are part of us as much as our qualities are; and it is only by fully embracing them that they can be transformed. The thing with true love is that it allows us to see an imperfect person as someone who is perfect for us. This does not mean that we try to ignore those less-than-perfect parts of this person, turning our focus on the “good bits”, which is often what happens in relationships. This is not even an option for twin flames since the eyes of true love see so deeply into the other’s soul that those imperfections are very clear to us and could not be hidden from view. Rather, instead of denying these parts we love them just as much as we love all the outwardly and inwardly good things about them. The imperfections are what make them fragile and creates an intimacy, a bearing of the soul and closeness that cannot be denied.


True love is a spiritual practice

True Love has no linear progression since it has no beginning and no end. It isn’t a roller-coaster of ups and downs, but rather a swirling vortex, which lifts us on its expanding spiral currents, transcending the prison of self-centeredness. It gives the two people a glimpse of the divinity within them both. Time does not affect true love for it does not exist on the same plane. Ultimately therefore, true love is a spiritual practice which connects us with ourselves and with others at soul level and since it comes from Spirit; it also creates a living connection to God and to a greater purpose.

In romantic love we start out with a supply of love which diminishes every time our lover fails to return our love or behaves in less than acceptable ways. We become frustrated, angry and think that their behaviour means that we are unloved and undesirable. However true love for our twin flame comes from God. It is divine love, regenerative and unbreakable. It is a calling to love another imperfect person as if they are already perfect to us – because in the eyes of our soul they already are. It is a calling to love them, this other aspect of ourselves, so much that everything else simply falls away; to love without conditions even when we cannot understand why or where from, and even when it seems too much to ask. The more imperfect they are, the more they behave in ways that we cannot accept or understand, the more we should love them. This doesn’t mean that we should accept any kind of behaviour from them, but that our love for them remains as strong as ever despite what they do or say.

Real love is divine; it comes from a relationship with God. It is a spiritual union which mixes friendship, a love affair and an act of worship; a mystical dance which takes us beyond our human ego into the realm of timeless, eternal, immortal and sublime love. As Twin Flames, we are here to create a shift in the hearts of humanity. We do this by embodying our Highest self and by remembering how to love an imperfect being perfectly – bringing something that is Heavenly, eternal and pure into this third dimensional plane. Such love nourishes and expands our heart to love everyone and creates revolutionary ripples of unity throughout all dimensions and timelines. Through surrender we learn that such love can never run out – even when it is not being returned. Since it comes from God in abundant supply, the more we draw at the fountain, the more abundantly it flows into our lives, regardless of what our Twin Flame is doing. Then our hearts no longer suffer with the “what ifs” but rather celebrate the love that ALREADY IS, in every moment of the eternal NOW.

To keep riding the ebbs and flows of this love asks for patience and resilience. This dance of the two souls requires our full surrender and trust for the connection, the process, ourselves, our Twin and God to allow things to unfold in their own way within the endless possibilities, limitless forms and abundant expressions of this love. When we surrender and set it free, we find that God works in our favour and if the love is true, it returns to us glorified because it knows NO OTHER WAY. As twin flames we must never give up hope but rather to keep making the choice of LOVE because that’s how it’s meant to be. We are meant to be together to love each other, to help each other, to catch each other when we fall, to light each other’s paths, to give each other wings to fly and to ultimately return to each other and to God.true-love-quotes-by-famous-authors-10

82 thoughts on “Twin Flame Love – from Romantic Fantasy to Spiritual Practice of Love

  1. Gina says:

    Absolutely on target! This just brought me to tears…Miss him so ❤


    1. doucejonna says:

      Thank you Gina for taking the time to read & comment. I am glad you resonated with my writings, do come again. Love & light


    2. Lorraine says:

      I have been with my Twin Soul for nearly 2 years and what a roller-coaster it has been. I have been the ‘runner’ and the ‘chaser’ and so has he. Our connection was instant and we both knew that something very powerful and overwhelming had happened to us. Since being together we have combined our skills to help people all over the world, and this is of course the very essence of the Twin Soul union……it is about the Twins helping to make the world a better place. Our love for each other is absolutely unconditional; certainly we have fights and arguments and it can be explosive, but we both know that we would die for each other if necessary. I would stand in front of a bullet for him and he would do the same for me. Our connection is not only physical, but emotional and psychological…..in fact we even communicate telepathically sometimes! It really is the most joyful, painful, maddening, incredible and beautiful thing in the world when you meet your Twin Soul……I feel blessed and so does my Twin. Lorraine

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  2. Chane says:

    Reblogged this on My Journey and commented:
    Wow, beautiful expression of what I feel everyday. Amazing message!

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  3. Chane says:

    Beautifully written, and so accurate! Loved it, great read, thank you.


  4. GoddessBabalon says:

    not sure who applied the negative term to romance – but to romance is to express the GENUINE love we feel for our twin and others as well as ourselves. We really need to redefine how we apply and use our words. CO-dependent love isn’t romantic love because it isn’t love – it is a fear based connection that is illusory. We often say we are romanticizing a person when we are fooling ourselves but really that is just lying to ourselves and when we romanticize a person it would be seeing them in their LIGHT whilst still knowing they have a shadow and loving them all the same . . . that is my take on it anyway, ❤


    1. doucejonna says:

      A very delayed thank you for reading & commenting GoddessBabalon! Although you suggest we should really be doing so, my purpose was not to redefine the description of what “romantic love” is, since most people (including dictionary definitions) understand it as I described it (a chemical reaction rather than a spiritual connection).. I was trying to make my point in a way that could be understood by those in the twin flame community – in the same way that I use the term “twin flame” (i.e. it’s also a “label” that could be disputed). In these circles, we often discuss whether twin flame love is supposed to be a romantic love and it helps to oppose it with spiritual love to make the point (and this does not mean that both can’t exist at the same time). Love & light to you xx

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  5. beth ruffman says:

    true love is true

    see wopg.org and path to knowledge

    makes it real


    1. doucejonna says:

      Dear beth ruffman, thank you for taking the time to read my blog and to comment. True love is true! Wishing you all the best on your path


  6. Melanie says:

    Thank you, beautiful piece.
    This is how I feel, also. You put it into words perfectly.
    I stopped explaining to friends how this love feels… It is comforting to know there are other people who also experience this.


    1. doucejonna says:

      Dear Melanie, thank you for your kind words and for taking the time to read my blog. I am glad to hear you are able to resonate with my experience. Wishing you all the best on your path


  7. I have been travelling the Twin Flame path for 10 years now and have just found your blog. I think your posts are just beautiful – thank you. x


    1. doucejonna says:

      Thank you wildlotushealing for your kind words. It’s nice to hear from someone who’s been travelling the twin flame path for such a long time (since it’s 13 years for me soon!). I hope you will visit again. All the best xx


  8. Marble says:

    I’ve said the same on “What will be, will be.”

    “What is, is.” 🙂


  9. Marble says:

    Very well written! “Time does not affect true love for it does not exist on the same plane. ”

    “Real love is divine; it comes from a relationship with God. True love of the twin flames is a spiritual union which mixes friendship, a love affair and an act of worship. It is a mystical dance and a spiritual union of two souls which takes us beyond our human ego into the realm of the timeless, eternal, immortal and sublime love.”

    -my favorite lines ❤


  10. Kristie says:

    Thank you so much for this beautiful piece as well as all of your others. This gives me so much peace, clarity and direction. You have truly explained my feelings in a way that I could not even explain to myself. I am so grateful to have found your blog.


    1. doucejonna says:

      Hi Kristie! Thank you so much for this lovely comment. So nice to wake up to it 🙂 I am happy that me sharing my experience is bringing you clarity and direction. Please visit again. Blessings to you and your twin xx


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  12. Deborah says:

    This to me has been the best writings that I have come across about twin flames😀 Thank you for confirming and clarifying LOVE😍


  13. kymber6 says:

    Hi there….I’m practicing my spiritual basis of belief very strongly on my journey but I’ve lost faith. A few days after I met this man, an “old love” from what I gather popped up on his fb page and I was tossed out after him abruptly stopping contact with me for 3 months. I immediately began researching soul mates and twin flames, reached out to him again, only to realize hes been in other relationships, including a so-called “spiritual” one with the said girl. I have been finding this out on facebook of all places, he has not admitted it to me. I have lost track of who I am and what hard lessons I learned in the past from a previous karmic partner who sent me into a Dark Night of the Soul experience. I thought for sure this man was a twin, now all I keep hearing is that he’s “not in the right frame of mind to have a girlfriend.” It’s an old excuse and also a lie. I do not like the person I’ve become, how can I practice self love then?
    He told me recently that after having me not contact him for several weeks after I left the state on vacation, that his “body felt weird and he’s having bad headaches.” I beleive it’s ascension but I can’t have these conversations with him. He won’t have them with me either. i think I’m turning into a co-dependant person and the amount of rekection he’s thrown my way is enough for 3 women, never mind me alone. I’m an attractive female who has never been married and has no kids with a good career and a chance to relocate out of state. The soulmate he chose to confide in is 30 years old, has had 2 divorces, lives at home with 2 kids. It’s almost the same predicament he’s in actually. (He’s 43, I’m 45). This has done nothing but bring up an ugly side to me yet we return to each other with apologies and understanding. Co-dependant and narcissistic or TF’s??? I can’t tell…what is your opinion? I’ve known him for a year and it’s been strictly platonic.


    1. Scottish Princess says:

      Hi kymber6! 🙂

      I don’t even know if I am in title to reply. Just let me know if it’s ok.
      It brings up an ugly side to you? That’s good! So you can embrace it and then, when you so choose, transform it.
      Your twin flame will make for you becoming a ‘better’ person right? But he or she doesn’t do that. You are the only one who can do that. So what is good and what is bad? Why labeling? If it comes up and it’s not serving you anymore you can release it. You can do that any time, dedicate yourself to that. Embrace yourself and love yourself. You are your twin flame. 🙂 It always starts with YOU.
      Why does it matter to you that he has other relationship(s). Ask yourself why you find that upsetting? You know the answer to your question(s). Just feel.
      Much love!!


      1. doucejonna says:

        Beautiful advice Scottish Princess – thank you. Like you say, ” if it comes up and it’s not serving you anymore then you can release it anytime”.. So simple but true. We don’t have to be in pain, we are the lucky ones. Love to you all xx


  14. rob says:

    very beautiful ,thank you so much,it will guide me on the path and reunion of my twin.


    1. doucejonna says:

      Thank you Rob for these beautiful words. Stay blessed. Love to you & your Twin


  15. AMINU M HAMIDU says:

    Waooow… u hav done alot to make me feels happy. not even that ui think
    true love is the best. tnx


    1. doucejonna says:

      Dear Aminu, thank you for your lovely comment, you made me smile warmly on this cold autumn day 🙂 Like you say, true love is the best. 💛💛 May your Creator bless you on this path. Jonna xx


  16. Gina.P says:

    Thank You for this wonderful article, it totally describes the emotions I have right now for my twin flame. Immense and true love are the only thing left after removing all negative misunderstandings and harsh words exchanged, knowing deep down those didn’t change the love I have for him. Now I am separated from my twin flame,the love still flow, whenever he crossed my mind, a little prayer was said. An encounter with him truly taught me the meaning of true love, I can only thank him for this journey.


    1. doucejonna says:

      Thank you Gina for this lovely comment, I am glad you took the time to comment 💜 love and blessings to you on your path.


  17. John Jancar says:

    I get that. We’ve been together 7 years now, and we’ve been through all the typical “stages” that people talk of when talking about twin flames. We just got through a long process of running and chasing, and now I’m at a point where I’m questioning whether she might even be my twin flame.

    First of all, she’s nothing like I would imagine an “ideal” person would be for me. Almost the exact opposite actually. Both personality wise, and physically. At least, she can be that way.

    I also realize, it might very well be the same for me. I’m probably no one’s ideal, physically at least. And she definitely is not my “ideal” physically. Again quite the opposite. Personality wise, I always felt any girl would fall in love with me instantly if I actually gave them the chance to really get to know me. But I don’t. I’m very closed most of the time, because I don’t like this world, I don’t like people. I consider this world a lower form , and frankly most of time I want nothing to do with it.

    It might be my own demands for perfection that get in the way of having real relationships with people. I sure know it got in the way of my relationship with my supposed twin. I felt if she’s not perfect, and I’m not perfect…then we just aren’t good for each other. And my attitudes were the main contributors to why we are now apart. It hurts me, but, it’s something I feel intuitively needed to happen, for both of us.

    She’s not into this kind of spirituality at all, she’s very worldly in many ways. She’s spiritual in her own way, but if I were to tell her about twin flames, she’d think, “What the hell is that.” She has her relationship with God, but when it comes to anything esoteric or metaphysical or “new age”, as they call it, she’s a blank. She’s into her life, her little world. Her work, her friends, her family, her dogs. Her world is so small compared to mine, that it’s hard to relate. I feel I have to stupify myself to even have a conversation with her, that’s another reason why I doubt in us.

    Again, in basically any way that matters, we appear to be not fit for each other. We have nothing in common, we don’t relate at all anymore, we’re just two totally different people. She can embody everything I don’t like in people. And I bet it’s the same for me with her. By all accounts, we shouldn’t even like each other, nevermind be drawn together for a relationship.

    And I’ve tried, I’ve tried letting her go. I’ve tried just forgetting about her, oh she’s not the one for me, let’s get out of this before I go crazy. She’s not right for me, for this and that reason, we’re not good together, she’s not what I want, I’m not what she wants, it’s better to just end this and forget about her completely. I’d force myself to forget about her, and pretend like she means nothing to me, and pretend like I know she’s not the one for me, when actually, I have no fricken clue.

    I tried so hard. I’d delude myself into thinking I want nothing to do with her, and from now on, she’s gone. But, something keeps pulling me back. Everytime I say to myself, she’s not the one for me, time to move on….the next day, it’s back to square one. I can’t seem to let her go, even when I want to. Even when I sincerely want to break this damn chord that connects us, it just doesn’t work. Something brings me back, against my own will.

    And I hate it sometimes, because it’s lame. All I do is think about her. No matter what I’m doing, she’s there in the back of my mind. No matter who I’m with, what I’m doing, where I am in this whole world….there she is, with me. Every time I try to forget about her, she just keeps coming back into my mind and my heart. I can’t seem to let her go. No matter how much I want to, I just can’t. Something draws me to her, and I don’t know what it is.

    Maybe I just love her too much, and don’t really want to let her go. Maybe I’m not supposed to let her go right now, but sometime in the future. Maybe I’m just attached, even though I don’t really feel attached to her. Or maybe, just maybe, she might actually be “the one”, my twin flame.

    Who knows. Frankly, I’m sick of not knowing lol It’d be easier if I just knew what to do. Everytime I ask God to give me some answers, I get none. Everytime I ask “Alright God, I want to know the truth. Is she or isn’t she. If she is, she is. If not, than not. I’m okay with either. Just let me know the truth, so I can know what the hell to do.” And I get no answer. It’s frustrating sometimes.

    I guess there’s nothing left to do except to move forward. If we’re meant to be, than so be it. If not, than so be it. Let go and let God, as they say. Which I don’t like to do, I hate giving my power away to anyone, including God. But…maybe there’s nothing else to do. Because I can’t seem to control this, no matter how hard I try. I get no answers, and nothing I do seems to work. Dammit lol I hate not being in control.

    I suppose every man has his time, when he must be reckon with his maker. He must submit his will to a higher power. Maybe it’s my time. For now at least. I don’t intend to not be a higher power for very long.


    1. Scottish Princess says:

      Yeah, I’d say surrender. Get out of your head. Let go of control, love yourself and enjoy your life! 🙂 Does not matter ‘what’ she is to you. Letting go of that what you want the most will be feeling soooo good! Twin flame love is thé example for how to love.


  18. Scottish Princess says:

    This piece of writing is SO good!!! Thank you so much for the lovely explanation!! And best wishes for all of you! We are all so awesome! :)))) *Love*

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    1. doucejonna says:

      Aww thanks dear Scottish Princess for this lovely comment full of love and light. Blessings to you and your twin xx


  19. KikiJourney says:

    I have been around my TF for about 8 months and didn’t figure it all out until a few weeks ago. This article is awesome. I will have to be patient because he isn’t available and as I’ve been told, he’s spiritually in 1st grade and I’m in college. Who knows if we will ever get together? But I do love him and recognize that the whole thing is intended for me to get closer to God. But it’s hard because I just want to talk to him about this crazyness, and I can’t. Just want to touch him.. but surrender, it is what it is and I am making spiritual progress and getting closer to God. And I thank Him for this crazy experience that’s forcing me into growth.

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  20. Hailey says:

    This is the most grounded, well spoken article on twin flames I have ever read. Thank you so much for sharing your learnings so eloquently. Blessed be.

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  21. Jeffrey says:

    A beautiful article and explaination, enjoyed reading several of your others first.
    The integrity of the description for me is your description of love, not grasping or possession, not jealousy or mistrust… Truth
    I have tried to articulate this to others, but only one has truely understood…

    We met in seventh grade, knew at the core before we ever talked…

    She is and always has been very confident and brave, I was scared to the point of inaction… I was unable to trust in myself and my intuition…

    I spent many years replaying this in my mind, wondering if it was a path I should have taken.

    It was not until a few years ago I began the work within myself on what had caused me so much fear, clearing away the debris and exposing the light.

    It was only six months ago when I began to see the truth of love, without expectation or ego, true compassion, not about possession… A bottomless chalice, the more you pour out the fuller it becomes until it creates a torrent visibly effecting the world around you.

    We reached out to each other a few years ago, surprised at the similarities in our lives, our paths over the last 30 years. Amazed in a way that there was someone who could accept and understand each other’s thoughts and feelings, exposing all shamelessly…

    No regrets, what will be will be…I understand it now…

    Looking back I wonder though, were the different paths and lessons really necessary? Do we really develop ourselves with the trials of life or are we just stripping away veils over a light that was always within us… Exposing our true light…




  22. Tsonal says:

    I have read so much about Twin Souls but nothing even close to what you express.It’s beautiful.If God would have come to express these no doubt would have been his words. You have written it that beautifully.


  23. Una says:

    Totally spot on , this really resonated with me and what I have just recently realised… After 16 years of no contact and trying to ignore my feelings and put some sort of label on it I realise you just can’t, it just is what it is …..it is the fact that I love him because of his flaws and I know he loves me and accepts me compleatly for me ….even when we can’t figure out why, it’s totally bizarre but is so real it just is …. And what ever the out come I know he has my best interests at heart and I have his also …. Just to know and realise and accept this love makes me feel so grateful and lucky and makes all other parts of my life shine even brighter I feel so blessed and because it isn’t perfect somehow it makes it more perfect lol…so random, thanks so much for the article it was amazing xx


  24. Lucy says:

    Thanks for the perfect explanation–helps to soothe my Heart and my TF’s Heart of course…


  25. Marie Louise says:

    Thank you so much for this article. I just net my twin flame and I am so grateful that we both are in love, both want to be together more then anything and both are mature and concious enough to deal with all the difficulties al info on twin flames talks about. It is such an adventure that we encounter and I love how loving you write about what is happening. I experience it all exactly as you are describing.
    Thank you do much.
    Marie Louise


  26. Aparna says:

    ‘Time does not affect true love for it does not exist on the same plane.’ Beautiful words !! I have read a lot on twin flames but your posts hit the nail on the head. These posts help me on my twin flame journey and provide answers to questions that even I am not aware I have. Thank you so much!


  27. V says:

    What a great read and not a talked enough topic.


  28. Margaretta says:

    Beautifully written. Thank you!


  29. I respect your insights and the courage you’ve mustered, not only to surrender to a challenging journey, but also to so transparently document it. That is teaching by example.

    On the theme of “coming into one’s wholeness”, I agree with those who intuit that we enter the world of form already whole and complete, living into the experience of developing the fullness of our natures through the extraordinary medium of physical incarnation, which offers access to the means to explore and express our multidimensional natures on as many levels as our development enables us to access variously and simultaneously: physical/etheric, the emotional/astral, the mental/causal, the Buddhic/unified, mental/atmic/spiritual, divine/monadic, etc.

    This model posits that what limits human perception of the soul’s nature is the web of unconscious ego- and collective ego-based illusions/misconceptions about the nature of the ego (self, small s), the soul (Self, large S), the spirit self (facilitating process that bridges Divinity to the soul) and, of course, the intrinsic wholeness of this spirit self and the soul nature. How did we, magnificent progeny of the cosmos that we all are, striding the Earth in bodies made up of the minerals and elements thrown off by the dust cloud-spawned star beings, come to forget our magnificence?

    Many sacred traditions hold that in far off ancient times, there came a moment when “All That Is” conceived Itself as myriad trillions (who knows how many?) of infinitesimally tiny replicas of Itself, in that instant projecting Itself as waves of particles of consciousness emanating throughout Creation on all levels. Eventually, after exploring existence as creative sparks floating through Cosmos, we as spirit beings, as the processes over-lighting our soul natures, began experimenting with precipitating themselves into denser and denser levels of existence, the third dimension being the level that appeared to offer incarnates the widest flexibility in terms of soul expression and self-realization. The traditions that teach this way of seeing point out that the trade off for precipitating essence onto the physical plane was/is disruption of continuity of consciousness. In this way, most of us are born with no memory of our beyond-body state, and thus are unaware that we exist simultaneously on all planes, certainly unaware that we are complete, whole, sovereign. In this context of profound unawareness, the sleeping soul identifies with those artifacts of 3rd dimensional expression (the body, the ego–personality, character, identity). This perception that the self (small s) and its physical and psychological extensions are incomplete is correct–after all, these elements amount to a subset of fragments/aspects of the whole being. It is only once the sleeping soul reawakens, through gradual improvements in awareness and waking consciousness, that it realizes its authentic articulation as an entity capable of expression on those higher plane levels of existence not typically comprehensible/operable in 3rd dimensional terms. This is what the Bible narrative in Genesis 3 depicts as “the fall of man”–loss of profound consciousness and reliance on the comparatively blind, deaf and dumb ego self.

    Ironically, it is the ignorant ego’s belief system, formed in cooperation with other ignorant egos laboring under the same misconceptions–courtesy of cultural conditioning and 3rd dimension biases limiting human self-perception–that leads it to assume that the condition of the Self (spirit nature/soul) mirrors its own incomplete condition. This, in turn, leads to the mistaken belief that we must have been born incomplete as souls, and that we must therefore seek experiences and the influential contributions of others to our life experiences to become “whole”. In light of the foregoing, I hold with the dictum “You are not practicing to be a master; you are a Master, practicing.”

    This is a rather involved way of substantiating that twin flames are two whole and complete souls joining to fulfill their separate and mutual missions with each other’s support, that soul mates are two whole and complete souls seeking higher expressions of love and union on the physical plane, perhaps to model this to other souls still in the throes of culturally conditioned materialistic ignorance of their intrinsic natures, and that divine counterparts are those fortunate unions of twin flames who develop both a twin flame mission focus and a soul mate love/union focus.

    Light to all,


    1. Dpsyphil says:

      Beautifully articulated. Love and Light


  30. terraaerignemaquam says:

    “Enter our twin flame: this awe-inspiring, wondrous person who completes us and whose mind, heart and consciousness seem to flow from the same fountain as ours.”

    With great respect for your courageous, deeply insightful, intuitively resonant exploration of this topic, I submit that, as incarnated aspects of Spirit, we are intrinsically whole and complete, and here really to explore the potential range of self-expressions uniquely available to us through the medium of 3rd dimensional existence. In that sense, the idea of another “completing us” would be romantic, and not literal. If that is your meaning, I recognize it.

    Beyond that, I’ve come to the belief that, while twin flames are souls who’ve reunited in incarnation to complete their own and a mutual mission with each other’s support, and while soul mates are souls reunited in incarnation to fulfill explorations of love-based union, divine counterparts are souls who have joined together to experience life as soul mates who are also twin flame partners.

    I trust you will continue blogging as profoundly as you are, on this and related subjects, as you deepen your understanding of your soul experience in this lifetime. Should be hugely beneficial to all who decide to explore with you.

    Light to all,


  31. Sanjay says:

    I felt the need today to express myself, in hopes that my twin might read it. I hope you don’t mind:

    I write this note today to my distant lover through time and space in hopes that she reads it and knows that she is more dear to me than anything. Of course I am devoted to my Guru and service, more and more authentically these days, but the heart is irrational and my love for her has never wavered despite the tidal waves of life’s emotions and circumstances, while even those other things have. I’m not proud of it, part of me wishes I were more selfless and dutiful, but it is what it is and I am who I am.

    When my Guru smiles, I smile on my lips because he is so awesome and his joy infects me. When this person smiles, I smile from my heart because more than anything I can gain from her, even happiness, I am just so happy to see her looking well. My Guru offers me enlightenment, fulfillment of all desires, feeling love towards everyone, contentment, and wisdom to solve my little problems. The girl offers me heartache and waiting, tension and problems, uncertainty about if we’ll ever be together and plenty of doubt in my own sanity. It’s easy to love a Guru, but I think it’s more noble to love an ordinary stupid person that much. Probably more helpful to love the Guru, but easier, you know.

    I love you, I love you, I love you. I don’t love your body, your mind is interesting if not utterly remarkable, and your soul is good but I know better. However, I love you — the essence of you, that which does not change and is seemingly forever connected to me.


  32. This is resonating with me so much.


  33. Raja says:

    Most authentic and truely expressed version of Twinflame experience I have come to read, in recent times. Thank you so much. It is flawless, unique and metaphysically great reading.


  34. Raja says:

    What a great work on true love. Amazing insight, profound, excellent and flowing style of narration, an ultimate gospel on Twinflame love dynamics. I have read this article time and again, thank you so much.


  35. Bettina says:

    I just started on this journey one year ago. A new normal. Thanks so much for this insight into what is happening in my life right now. Time seems to stand still, past, present, future all in One. Beautiful!


  36. QC says:

    Could you suggest some resources on this topic for me please? Is it possible to experience acesnsion without having met your twinflame? I have been aware of my journey for a year, and it has been an emotional and painful roller coaster ride.


  37. Justagirl says:

    Sitting on my bathroom floor in tears. Thank you for your words. It feels like you read my heart. This TF thing is so tough, and it feels like being part of a secret society. It’s one of those things that if you haven’t experienced this, you have no idea. Absolutely, emotionally exhausting. Our story seems so unlikely, so impossible. It’s been 3 years of the highest highs and the lowest lows. But this love is like no other. I struggle to even call it love. It is beyond love. It is a spiritual experience. I spent a couple years asking God why do I have to travel this journey. Now I sit here thanking God for choosing me to perfectly love an imperfect being.


    1. Elke says:

      Wonderful. Perfect loving, oh yes! I’m on this journey too. We are truly, truly blessed.


  38. Lutrinae says:

    I love my twin soul so much.


    1. Lutrinae says:

      Edit: I am so done with the TF concept. All, please accept my apology for my negative post. I need to let go in order to live a positive and spiritual life.


  39. Rol says:

    You are so ‘right on’ with everything you posted. I’m a 56 year old male, my TF is a 32 year old female. We neither one would have given the other a second glance, were it not for our souls recognizing each other at first look. We are definitely not each other’s type! I’m married with three children, she’s in a relationship with six children. We are neither one jealous of the other, we miss each other when we’re apart, sex isn’t important to either of us, the love we feel in our bodies is paramount to everything else. The experience of true love is all encompassing, every emotion, feeling, thought, action is effortlessly focused toward happiness for the other one. I didn’t know true love could bring such happiness and intellectual fulfillment. Thank you for this exceptionally well thought out and expertly written article.


    1. doucejonna says:

      You are most welcome Rol. Thank you for your lovely comment and for sharing your experience. Stay blessed. ❤️


  40. roshni says:

    thank u so very much for your expression and insights on twin flame love. like others have already said, this is the best ive ever read on twin flame love, it makes me feel at peace and finally understood by others who experience the same. i feel like crying. i think you should put it on you tube as well. thank u once again, it is as if i can finally express what i feel inside through your words. u are truly an angel to help to others this way.


  41. Charles says:

    Good god! What a beautiful piece of writing.


    1. doucejonna says:

      Thanks Charles, I appreciate you! 💜


  42. Angela says:

    This has all my answers. It is so wonderful. Thankyou so much .


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