Severing cords with your twin flame

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When a person comes face to face with their twin flame, and enters a new world of spiritual awareness & unconditional love, it very quickly becomes clear that what we until then perceived as “love” is in fact only a very small fraction of the earth shattering, big bang type heart explosion LOVE with a Capital L that our twin flame ignites in us. We become entranced with each other from the start and the shared vulnerability of our soulful nakedness allows us to merge all our bodies together at a very deep level. We are able to catch glimpses of the infinite beauty and love that surrounds us at all times and we feel vibrant, loved, accepted and nourished to the deepest part of our being; our soul.

When this soul level merge with our twin takes place, it opens up multiple channels of energy that run through both twins. These gold and silvery energy cords that run from soul to soul and heart to heart are the lifeline of the twin flames and can NEVER be severed. Through these cords, we feel each other, we sense each other and we are drawn together, regardless of time and space. In fact, our twin flame is so much engrained into the energetic makeup of who we are; that as we go through our experiences, emotions and growth, these vibrations are constantly being sent back and forth between us and our twin. Furthermore, the psychic and spiritual connection between twins always includes a sort of a spiritual “love-nest”; like an ecstatic place of love and bliss where the twins come for comfort and reassurance – my twin called this “our inner space filled with unconditional love, passion and friendship”. The twins are also connected to their higher selves by a similar silver cord which is attached to the crown chakra.

Why would we want to sever the connection?

Unfortunately the twin flame path is such that very often each soul must have time apart in order to grow, learn and fully become who they are meant to become. God wants us to be conscious and actively take part in our own journey; and therefore, to remain in permanent physical union with our twin, we must become fully conscious of our own Self. The actual physical separation forces each of the twins to FEEL and FACE their individual selves. A person cannot know WHO he is at the very center of his soul unless he has felt a part of himself missing. The journey is very complex in this sense, because in order to unite with our twin soul, we must realize that separation took place so that we could KNOW the self and the soul. Despite being physically separated, the twins must achieve inner wholeness: both within themselves, as well as a spiritual unit together.

As the eternal dance between the two souls seeking balance and wholeness gets into full swing, it results in a push-pull or runner-chaser dynamic, which causes many to question their sanity and to feel that we should not allow this “insanity” to control us. The two twins are kept locked in this situation until both learn to complete and balance their energies – together & apart. Even if the twins are apart and not in contact, they both have to carry their share of the work. As the twins share the same soul, they often feel not only their own but also the other’s pain – and so feelings and reactions to these are often magnified.

Often our intentions are good when we seek to release ourselves from our twin: we want to stop hurting them, our partners/spouses – and most of all we want to stop hurting ourselves. The pain we feel makes us want to run away from them and from ourselves. After a while we realise we no longer recognise ourselves. We can occupy our mind and heart with work, things, other relationships – even good, loving ones, but within the deepest part of our soul we know that which is missing. We may not perceive this as running until years later when we suddenly realise that they never pushed us away; it was our own feelings of rejection and feeling unloved that caused this. It dawns on us that perhaps our twin simply wasn’t ready for the deep-dive into himself either and was just trying to figure it out, just like we were. More importantly, we realise that the person we are running away from is ourselves; we did not abandon them but rather our Self; and that no matter what we do, we can never stop feeling their acute absence because that void is felt within the deepest part of our Self.

Cutting the cords – getting rid of the connection

Often the pain of the separation and the many obstacles to the union are so unbearable that we want a way out of this new “reality”. Initially we pray that it will just go away in time and we can get back to “normal”. We numb our feelings in self-preservation. Then, as our frustration grows, we start wanting to sever the energetic cords connecting us to our twin flame. However while we may know all sorts of methods for cord cutting and have successfully used them in the past; the connection between the twins follows no conventional rules or reasoning. No matter what anyone tells you, NO ONE, not even the Twins themselves can break the special eternal cords between them. This is what is meant by the often quoted biblical verse “What God has joined together, let not man put asunder” (Mark 10:9). The Force that created them is all-powerful and indestructible. The bond may be weakened, and their final union delayed, but they cannot be separated permanently.

Furthermore, severing cords with your twin flame would be like amputating a part of YOU. Since twin flames are part of each other as the same soul, trying to cut the cord would be cutting your own soul. The highest good of the twins or humanity would not allow this. However, if you do need a break from the twin connection, there are ways to take a bit of time out – whether this is what you choose to do is of course entirely up to you, however you must remember that all that it will do is to delay the internal work which must be done. This time-out could even come in the form of another relationship, building a family with someone else, however be under no illusion; you WILL BE pulled back to your twin flame. Like an elastic band, the cord connection the Twin Flames is flexible, allowing each twin to do their share of pulling – however no matter how far the band stretches, it always pulls you back to the connection – and I’ve had personal experience of this!

So what is supposed to happen during the separation?

If you are facing a separation from your twin then it is for a reason. Not only this, but it is unavoidable & absolutely necessary. This means that there is work to do: for both you and your twin. During the separation the twin souls must feel and reconnect with their own inner selves to be able to feel the bond with their twin souls. This is hard to start with, especially when the twins have been involved in the runner – chaser dynamic. The outer search for the twin is very painful and sooner or later one will feel that there is no other way to connect with the twin than to reach for the deepest place in one’s own inner Self.

Being separated from our twin soul often feels like a deep loss of our self: so excruciatingly painful that we can find it hard to know what to do with these feelings. Sooner or later we begin to feel like we must ”surrender” ourselves to the profound spiritual and emotional process that starts to take place inside. We realize that this is a process that we have no control over. During the process, we learn to love and accept ourselves, as well as our reflection in the mirror: all of it, the good, the bad and the ugly. And sure enough; with time and spiritual growth & maturity, the connection simply becomes something you accept.

Rest assured that even if you make all the mistakes in the book and it seems that the connection is unrecoverable, all will be revealed, rewarded and forgiven – in time. Even if for a long time it seems like we are not making any progress with our twin and our spiritual path, the love between true twins comes with a guarantee: it WILL transform you. This means that even without realising it, both twins are now on a spiritual path and the day will come when both will want to be fully themselves, and this includes having your twin in your life again. For no matter what you or anyone else says or does, there are unbreakable spiritual bonds and cords under divine protection that cannot and will not be severed. In the meantime, while you are being kept apart, you are always free to express how you feel and what you are choosing in this moment. No matter what your reasons, the soul of your twin loves you so much that whatever you choose, the soul knows that it is out of love. We all have our own process of spiritual & emotional growth and no choice is ever right or wrong, but rather just another tick on the list of necessary lessons to be learnt; all leading towards our ultimate union with our one true love.

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253 Responses to Severing cords with your twin flame

  1. Zach says:

    This is one of the few informative articles in which I can truly say relates to me. I am the male chaser, who has deeply been saddened by my runner a female with the mentalities of a masculine soul. I met her at a special place in which I would never thought I would met someone and the fact she was with an acquaintance from I went to high school with for the reason I was even introduced. When we first started our experiences together was unlike anything I have ever experienced the attraction,feelings, chemistry, the level of comfort, connection, similarities, values, and life goals. I have been in many relationships most long-term during my short 26 years of life, but none to which I have experienced as much meaningful connection and synchronicities such as sharing the same astrology sign, planetary movements, having the same favorite numbers, passwords, foods, songs, and it even got to the point where random things would come up like we each have a older half sister whom both have child with the same name.Even when were not together we’d end up texting each other at the same time with similar messages it would always be the best part of my day. It also even got to the point where we’d have random endless conversations where we’d be thinking the same thing or finish each others sentences, not to mention I randomly brought up what I would like my first child to name if were a girl and she looked at me speechless because that’s what she wanted too. Everything was surreal things like simply laying on the couch or making dinner together felt familiar and easy there was never any awkward silence or effort we just appreciated each others company.Nothing has ever felt more right and no one has ever touched my soul so much. Things were going great there were no discrepancies we also communicated and shared all our feelings plus the level of connection and energy was more intense/blissful than anything we have each ever experienced. On my worst of days regardless of how it went whenever I would talk or be with her everything that ruined my day or mood would simply vanish in her presence I would be so caught in the moment with her nothing else mattered.Then out of nowhere she said things were moving too fast and she didn’t feel she give me the time and energy I deserve plus she said she was feeling emotional unavailable from leftover baggage from a past relationship and was not ready to give herself to me but still cared about me so she ended things (excuse 1). This shook my entire world, I could not comprehend how an experience so positive and comforting for both would end so abruptly. This left me confused and most of all heart broken I couldn’t fathom how anyone could just leave a connection with someone like that at the drop of a hat. Excuse two was that she learned some things which she felt gave her the thought were not compatible which confused me due to the fact in no experience in our relationship there were any red flags or views to lead to that; yes we may have had differences but we respected one another’s opinions and lifestyles. The last reason was that a couple times during our relationship there were times she felt I disregarded her feelings in which I had no intent especially when it came to sex she felt we rushed into it however its a two way street if she didn’t want to we did not have and I was perfectly fine with that; she always told me how physically attracted and connected she is to me and when it did happen it was always in the heat of the moment. I’m a passionate person and always reassured her my feelings were genuine and unconditional that I was in this for the long run because she means that much to me. I also mentioned we never had to have make love again until she was ready if that’s what it took. I respected this woman too much so I gave her space, but until recently we she decided to erase me and decided we shouldn’t be friends or come in contact because she doesn’t want to hurt my feelings when the time comes when she starts dating again, I expressed my feelings to her about everything after that. Because she is so guarded when I expressed my true feelings she took it as an attack and thought I was trying to belittle her playing the victim in nearly every conversation. I tried reassuring her that in no means I had the intent to do so I was simply expressing how I felt from all the information presented putting all egos aside, but she kept getting more defensive. She then completely shut me off, but I wanted to end on good terms so I wished her well on her journey and life path while reiterating how she is the most beautiful person I have ever met inside and out so I could never have the intent to disrespect or bring her down . I also made the point of how sorry I am that my words made her feel that way and told her I have no doubt she is an inspiring person whom will make a difference in the world someday. I am in sad to say after our series of conversations lately this may well have become the end of things between us cause I feel as she doesn’t care about our experience anymore, but only as an outlet of what not to look for in a person or relationship now I mean how does . I’m in no means bitter or resentful towards her or to how she has acted during this experience I care for her unconditionally even the knowing of loving her but I never said it due to the fact she wanted to take things slow. As for now I will always be grateful for our experience together as well as the lessons I have learned from her and have been enlightened to a point of spirituality and faith where I am truly awakened and more receptive to all things the universe communicates to me. My focus has never been more clear and I am channeling all my energy for the good into as many activities as possible to become a better me. Although my heart may take awhile to heal and the memories will never fade, I am truly awakened by the whole ordeal which has led to my path of self-improvement and making a difference in the world starting with my own environment.

    Thank you for this information, I have been researching in-depth about the runner/chaser dynamic and all things Twin Flame. It all makes so much sense and the feelings you get from knowing are unexplainable, but only felt from intuition. As for now I will live and let live while constantly finding ways to improve myself and acknowledge my self-worth, I’ll never lose my faith and always put my trust in the universe. God Bless.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Hi Zach! Thank you so much for your long comment and feedback, as well as laying your soul bare with your beautiful story. I in turn resonated with many things you say, since my twin was also a runner later on in our relationship. You inspired me to write another post about Running and my own experience as a runner. I think reading it will help you understand your twin better. I can see you already have the unconditional love for her and God only knows how important that is. Thank you for the inspiration and God Bless. Here’s the link: https://mirror-of-my-soul.com/2015/01/09/the-folly-of-running-from-love-a-runner-twin-flame-perspective/

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      • Zach says:

        Thank you for your response and inspiring words. I also read your other post which was very insightful and heartfelt. I’m glad my experience inspired you to write another post to help others resonate their feelings and confusion during the complicated dynamic of the twin flame runner/chaser experience.

        P.S. Not shortly after my post, even after the difficult series of conversations in which I thought would for sure end all contact between my twin flame and I, she contacted me. It wasn’t necessarily an apology, but a reassurance affirming she harbored no negative feelings toward me or the situation which gave me comfort knowing we could part ways on good terms. Once again thanks for your postings. God Bless.

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    • Merv says:

      I am in the same boat you my friend. I am a male in the Chaser scenario and feel exactly as you. Your story is almost vebatim as mine. I’m at the point of hurt and sorrow. I have always been spiritually enlightened and understanding of the way things are, but this is killing me. I cut ties with her today 😦 She doesn’t feel any near as strongly for me as I do her. I can’t bare to to let her go but it’s killing me to hold on. I want her to be happy but it hurts to see or hear it when I’m not the reason. I know it’s selfish, maybe even childish of me to be this way. My heart screams for her. I’ve been going through my meditation and clearing techniques, but I am failing. I’m at loss. I don’t know what to do anymore. I could really use some guidance now.

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      • akuna kumara says:

        it sorrows me to say the idea of letting go as the chaser is exactly the lesson we are learning…The relationship of TF is to be open and trusting knowing the cages bird will always want freedom I’ve been in this as female to a male for 33yrs…..the lessons are to be learned in 3Dphysical but are for the higher vibrational soul and our learning transmutes to our twin. Hang in find yourself and move into living your evolutionary process..hard painful but what it’s about when this is a true Twin Flame relationship BLESSING for finding your joy

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      • doucejonna says:

        Thank you Akuna Kumara for this comment, exactly how I feel also. My twin always spoke of the gaged bird and how it should be set free to eventually return where it wants to. It’s the only way real love can ever exist. Because just like that little bird, true love also returns to its source and true home time and time again. Yet we never gain the knowing it will if we give it locked in a gage. Thank you & blessings, Jonna xx

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      • Anastasia says:

        Hi, I read your stories. Please have a look here: maybe, just maybe, this can help?
        “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
        8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”

        I hope it all goes to the state of Internal Bliss for You 🙂

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      • Lucy says:

        She may not be ready … or just it is not that simple to leave everything behind like it didn’t matter .. it may be some responsibilities just like my situation I wish I could run without shoes to my best friend but it’s not that easy .. just relax and enjoy your alone time.. remember that she feels your feelings , you share it with her and as she is sharing her’s with you .. remember Love and believe.. inner work … and no expectations!!! K

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    • Giorgio says:

      Dear Zach

      It has been almost a year now since your article and amazing similar events in your life with your twin Flame. I can assure you that I am so happy to know that I have someone who is so much like myself. I knew that there must be still masculine minds that think, act and feel like myself all around me with experiences like myself. I am seeing more masculine minds expressing openly what we have done and experienced in this Blog thanks to jonna. This is so good to meet so many who think, feel and appreciate the same things that are so uniquely Twin Flame.
      Your story is real as I have no reservation but to admit that I can relate to what you say in a 100% fashion.
      I am convinced that this is not a feminine way of thinking but a spiritual calling to the twin Flame souls that are in calling without any doubt in my mind.
      If you are still on this Blog or if you can get this response in your email could you please acknowledge my request if you so please to, as to share with me your experiences after all this?
      I have no intention to invade your privacy but if you wish to contact I would appreciate your ideals and experiences to date.
      Thank you, if you cannot or do not wish to I will understand and as I do, I take this opportunity to wish you the very best of opportunities and peace throughout your spiritual journey in life.
      I thank you also for sharing your experiences and for the comfort that it gives all of us to reaffirm that we are not alone in this as when I feel so down, I grasp your words that are embedded in my own mind that you also have experienced the same as I did along your journey.

      Love Harmony and Believe XXX
      Giorgio XXX

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    • James says:

      Thankyou for writing that.
      That sounds like a VERY similar experience to one I have had recently, it’s nice to know that my feelings of almost going crazy over what was a very deep connection, severed quickly and in somewhat cruel fashion, are not me losing it or being overly infatuated with someone. I was left reeling a little over 6 months ago, have only started to feel normal again recently. As mentioned in the article, I lost myself focussing too much on my love, and she did much the same. It feels so, so wrong to have lost this person, but hopefully we can both sort our shit out and see what may happen later in life.

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      • May says:

        Sounds familiar as well. We have not been together for a long time now and I have not spoken to him for a few years because I was running away and hiding from him, but I always felt him, I never felt alone. This summer the connection between us was severed violently. I felt it in my sleep. I woke up, couldn’t breathe, was hysterical and inconsolable. I felt that he was VERY angry with me. We hadn’t spoken, I didn’t know why, didn’t know what was happening all I knew that it was extremely painful that I could not feel him or communicate with him the way I did before and I felt so alone like a piece of me was missing. This feeling continued and that night I dreamt him and in the dream he was angry at me and he refused to look at me and he drove away and left me standing there. For weeks I was a crazy emotional mess. I did not contact him because I feel a strong resistance when I think of contacting him. It is too emotional and intense when we communicate. I finally found out from a friend why he was angry and it was a huge misunderstanding but the damage was already done and I did not clear up the misunderstanding because I became angry that he would think such a thing and I thought it was best for both of us if I helped severe any leftover connection we had. I just think he had had enough too and was looking for reasons to severe the connection. I try to keep my thoughts from him and my energy from him so I don’t unintentionally strengthen the little connection that is still there and I know that he does the same. I am still growing and learning about myself and I know that I cannot handle those kinds of emotions and that is why I ran in the first place. It is too intense for me and I am just not ready for this and from what has happened I am so angry at him for the misunderstanding and for him severing that connection in such a brutal fashion and causing me so much mental anguish that I no longer see any sort of future with him and it makes me want to abolish any and all of these feelings and get so far away from him that he becomes just a faded memory from my past. Yes, I am a wimp when it comes to this but I don’t believe anyone should feel so strongly about anyone. The highs are high and if they hurt you, you can literally go crazy. I like to stay away from people and things that has a high probability of making me crazy.

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    • Rusty says:

      Jesus, the same thing happend to me. Just some really bad things happend in her family in between, she lost control (i guess) over here, i fought it like never before. And the last time we broke up i quit. Could not handle the pain anymore. Yet we are still in contact.

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  2. worried mom says:

    I find all of this crazy. I have a 30 year old daughter who has two beautiful babies and a man who loves her with all of his heart. Who in their right mind could walk away from that? My girl has always been a free thinker. She and I can trigger each other very quickly. So I am having a hard time with all of this. I do not understand or know how to help her. At times I feel like she should be hospitalized. At this point she is staying with her husband because she can’t make it on her own. She will loose her kids. At the same time I wish she would leave. What she is doing to her family, to me, is wrong and selfish. She leaves her 5 and 2 year old locked behind a gate so she can “figure” this all out. I am looking for help to understand what she is doing and to protect my grandchildren.

    Thank you

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    • doucejonna says:

      Dear worried mom, Thank you for taking the time to read my blog and to comment on it. Apologies for the late reply.
      I am sorry to hear about your daughter going through such a difficult time with her spiritual awakening. I don’t know if you ever experienced one but I would like to ask you not to judge it or her, but to offer your assistance.. Things will settle down eventually however if she is not meant to stay in her marriage then please be supportive of her decisions. Going through a spiritual awakening is a maddening experience buyt it doesn’t mean she is mad.. When we awaken spiritually we catch a glimpse of a divine reality which is more REAL than anything we have ever known (and our twin flame is the one who reminds us of this) and so it is only normal that she is questioning everything and trying to balance/ figure it all out. That’s just the way it is.
      Furthermore, it’s her life, she is not doing anything ” to you” – this specifically is one of the lessons she is learning, and perhaps you should too.. Her accountability for her life choices lies with God, not with anyone else, including YOU. If God is calling her to make different choices, you as her mother should seek to offer your UNCONDITIONAL LOVE (another twin flame lesson) to assist and support her. I am a mother too so I can understand your concern for the grandchildren and that’s why I think it’s so important for you to show up for her in a supportive and non-judgemental way. She needs your support.
      I hope all goes well, wishing you all the strength and wisdom to make the right decisions to support her. Love, J xx

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      • Ray says:

        I agree… the concerned and loving mom of course has her reason, but these are all projections (beautiful children, loving husband, etc.) — but the fact is Mom is not living the daughter’s life and must support her choices, even if it is “painful” to the rest of the family. Ultimately we must understand that this human experience in the material world is supposed to teach us something, and there is a higher purpose and power if we follow the soul’s path, and as a loving parent, you must honor and support your daughter’s life path and STOP trying to control what you cannot control. And just because she might eventually leave her family does NOT in any way means she doesn’t love them anymore. So stop putting values into every action that you don’t fully understand. And that’s why this twin relationship cannot be understood by anyone who have not yet (or will never) met their twin soul — I have, and I can tell you there is NO LOGIC to explain this… it comes from the soul level. And that’s why it may be difficult because conventional wisdom and moral and society pressure tells us what we must do (“sacrifice yourself” “do it for your loving family” etc.etc.) — then we’re missing the point and will continue to be STUCK at this level of human experiences and spiritual death. Embrace your daugther’s spiritual journey and perhaps you can learn something from it, too. And let the healing begin. Support and love her without judgment and control. Please.

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  6. This all applies to me. I have been reading your blog and know it helps me so as I have no one to talk to. Nor does he. Only to each other. I met my twin 17 months ago during a work project. I want to say I was going through a rough time and forgot I had an ad up, which he called incessantly about. I totally went to blow him off but it seemed he wasn’t taking a blow off and had to connect with me either way. Immediately during his speaking I felt that I had known him before His voice soothed my soul and we became instant friends.. The more we talked the worst it got for me, I found myself thinking about him and I couldn’t get him out of my head. Physically he would not be “my type” but it was resignated from something inside and mentally and emotionally I was attached at the hip. Onne day he asked me “Do you feel like we’ve known each other forever?” Immedlately we could finish each others sentences and come into one another’s dreams. We both have a sixth sense and so I thought he was playing me. We found out we had a lot in common, though we are ten years apart we owned the same make and model car. The worst commonality is that both of us married/together with our significant others for 13 years. He has 3 children and I have many obligations and businesses. We both tried to accept the connection but could not, both take turns at fighting this due to the factors surrounding us but it was inevitable that we both crossed the line. When together we saw double rainbows and shooting stars. We danced in the sun laughed and kisses felt like sweet wine. We didn’t want to have sex because of our situations but the kissing was so deep and passionate, the stuff dreams are made of. Neither one of us can forget yet we both run in circles. He thinks there is nothing wrong with being friends while he tries to be husband of the year, yet she hates me, sensed from day one an unusual closeness. My husband tolerates my friendship with him, yet knows he is a threat. She even moved him three hours from me just to make sure I wasn’t in the picture, yet he goes behind her back and texts me all the time. He claims now he wants to just be friends, yet can’t let me go. When I got the friend zone talk I wanted to cut him off and I ran and ran, yet I’m comforted that I feel in my soul we were together before and we will be together again . I know we are in love yet we are trying to ignore it and go on with our lives but nothing on either end is working properly. His life has been total hell since we spit and mine too. I don’t know what will happen or how it will get resolved. I guess I’m hoping God sends down a rainbow bridge and connects us with a clear path. If I run he chases. If he runs I come back. IN my heart I know I would give up everything for another day with him, as it is the feeling that I get being with him that makes me complete. It is surreal and crazy all in one. As of now his words claim to not feel the same, yet his actions speak differently. I don’t want to homewreck the three kids or be the cause of his upheavel. I wanted to cut ties so he could grow on his own and figure out why his marriage isn’t working; but then I’m scared he will become accostomed to settling for that and forget about me. It is like we can’t let go but at this time in life we can’t be together either. I am asking if you think that if the heavens mean for us to be together they will find a way? I feel like him and I have been given chance after chance to make the right decisions but we both back out. Once he sat me down and asked me if we wanted to leave spouses and I fight for his kids. I said no and I meant yes. I don’t know if it would have happened but I felt like the timing was off. My question is, how many forks in the road will God give us? What is worse? Talking to him all the time and knowing we can’t be together or losing touch complelety. What I can’t undersatnd is the most recent incident she found him texting and was very upset about it. She forbid him to do it but he can’t stop. I feel like I have to stop for him because I respect their union in marriage. He claims he wants to be ” abetter husband better father” and “not cheat” but isn’t texting me behind her back cheating? I hope I can be like you and cut ties. It is so very hard.

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    • getout says:

      Yes texting behind her back is cheating. Cheating also constitutes telepathic touching,whispering I love you, and manipulating the other persons emotions so they dont know even know their own feelings. This is in fact the ultimate betrayal. When someone doubts them self because they cannot trust their own feelings and instincts. If she is so hung up on the cheat texts perhaps she should examine her behaviors and stop touching her twin flame all the time, and stop spying on her every thought, feeling and move. Let go. Give him the space he needs to work on his marriage. :Looks like she is forcing you to take responsibility for all her shit as well. She does not want to let go and is trying to blame you for it forcing you to take responsibility for it. SHe wants you to carry the burden so she come on top as the good person, she wants to you be burdened with guilt for being dishonest. Sounds like she is a real jerk and not really worth your time. Tell her to go wort out her won issues by getting professional help. A business does not in any way equate with being responsible for other human beings. Let him raise his kids.

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      • doucejonna says:

        Thank you getout for taking the time to comment. 🙂 What you say rings true with me. Stay blessed. Love, J

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      • I decided to walk away and felt there were three of us in his marriage. Let him figure it out. He can’t have his cake and eat it too. Emotional with me, everything else with her, is cheating. Yes, I miss him every day, but he wasn’t really mine to start with.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Dear JunefoundJohnny, first of all, sincere apologies that it’s taken this long for me to reply to you. I cannot even begin to tell you how much of what you describe in your comment relates to my own story. As recent as last night I was chatting to my Twin about this very thing. Like you say, he doesn’t think there is anything wrong with flirting with me, sharing tender words and encouraging me to open my heart to him, yet claiming to be a “happily married man”. Considering our history, my very real feelings towards him and his commitment to his marriage, I think there is either a “sensitivity chip” missing somewhere (to borrow the words of Jennifer Aniston regarding Brad Pitt :)) – or he simply does not see it because in his head he is still friend-zoning me even though we’ve never managed to be “just friends”… I think it’s so hard for them to see the connection clearly because they try to both deny and seek it at the same time. I bet his wife would be upset to find him sharing this spiritual/emotional closeness with me, yet when I call him out on it, he makes it all about me, and just cannot see how it could be disrespectful. For F*s sake, it’s disrespectful because I LOVE YOU and I want you. So, I find myself facing the same dilemma as before: having him in my life and knowing we can’t be together yet feeling like the lines are being crossed all the time; or losing touch with him completely and losing out having his amazing presence in my life. Of course this time I am older, wiser and spiritually more mature. I will offer him my friendship as long as I feel my integrity is not breached.
      For you JunefoundJohnny, I wouldn’t suggest cutting him out of your life or attempting to sever the cords or anything like that. But please concentrate on yourself and impose some loving boundaries. Practise self-love. Love the spiritual 3D him and follow your guidance but don’t pay attention to what he is doing – or try not to, at least.
      I hope you will visit my blog again. With all my love & blessings, Jonna xx

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  8. phoenix says:

    Ok, first things first, you cannot sever the connection to twin but you can complete your mission alone. People are going through catalystic connections and assuming they have met their twin due to spiritual awakening. This type of information is what led me astray in my journey all the false information is HURTING twin flames in their mission and people need to stop. Twins are here for a purpose, not to “be together”. Twin flames are graduated souls who chose to come here for service, there were lots of souls who said they would, only the twins that would have most chance of success were chosen and born into family templates they had the most success with. If this does not resonate with you you are probably having a catalyst experience. Stop the twin flame madness, you cant be a twin flame just because you want to be. Most of the so called experts are leading you on, you are losing money due to con artists

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    • Ray says:

      Also, by surrendering to the plan and work on yourself instead of obsessing over “if” your twin will return is counterproductive. The whole purpose of twin flame meeting and relationship is for us to work on OURSELVES to be whole — both twin have to be complete for the reunion. Forcing it or obsessing over if their other person will change, etc. is a paradox, as the path for BOTH twin to grow is to work themselves — with the synchronicity you bet both will be doing EXACTLY the same thing. My twin and I met four years ago and then not really connected again. — I have learned to let go. And recently we reconnected again and it was as if the last four years didn’t happen — we have grown and it was incredible — and the synchronicity was astounding even when we didn’t contact each other at all… the parallels between our self-work and experiences and lessons we learned are so similar that it was as if we have lived the same life, only separately. That confirmed to us that we are in fact twin souls. We still have much to do, to work on ourselves, to heal more wounds and baggages, so we’re not pushing to be together. We continue to live separate lives for now and I have a new found peace about all that and surrender and trust the universe. I hope you will find that peace too — it is time to go inward and examine why you try to control this relationship so much — it is the baggage that you need to resolve — on your own. and trust me, your twin will be doing the same thing…

      PEACE

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    • doucejonna says:

      Dear phoenix, thank you for your comment. I don’t know if your comment was aimed at me or a general comment on the subject, however I knew from the very beginning that we didn’t come here to “be together” – although for me this was always a possibility in the endless field of possibilities. I also knew that we were meant to inspire each other to be all that we can be, and to live a life of service doing our mission on this earth. So, somehow we must all get from the pain of losing the “relationship” with our twin into the mindset where we are doing our mission, and spreading the love whether they are physically a part of it or not. This blog is part of my mission 🙂 The only guarantee on this path is that you WILL BE transformed. Lots of love & blessings to you, J xx

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  9. phoenix says:

    P.s great article 🙂

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  10. teamo says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you so much for writing this blog!!! I too have experienced attempting to sever the cords joining me and my twin for many years. I tried various methods of cleansing myself but nothing worked. Yes it was also very painful to do this, as if ripping and tearing into my own skin. At some points early on in the separation I felt like I literally had hundreds of little tentacles coming off my body that were connected to him. I naively thought that it was all his fault, that he was trying to “suck” my energy by being so connected to me, and I projected all my feelings of guilt, fear, betrayal, doubt and manipulation onto him even though I was the one actually creating these feelings. Then when my TRUE feelings for him started to come back to the surface, I felt the strongest cord from our heart centres, as though that cord had been stretched and stretched almost to the point of snapping. But of course it is not possible for the cord to snap. Instead I felt the cord bounced back and we were instantly heart to heart again despite time and space. I could feel his heart beating right next to mine and it felt wonderful after all the years apart.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Thank you very much for your comment teamo!!! I wish everyone who thinks that their twin flame trying to suck “energy” out fof them, or to manipulate their feelings or emotions via the connection reads your comment. You are so right in saying that we often think our twin is maliciously doing something we do not want, yet if we turn inwards we see all the ways in which we ourselves contribute to the energy depletion and imbalance. As you rightly said, we project our feelings of guilt, fear, betrayal, doubt and manipulation onto our Twin even though we are the one creating them.
      Yes, maybe we are connected in an infinite number of ways, but the main connection between the twins is that of the heart. This is the one that we should nurture, elevate and nourish. Lots of love and blessings to you! Jonna xx

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  12. Ayanda says:

    People need to realise that they shouldn’t be worried about how their twin flames feel about them because a twin flame loves u just as much as u love them, even when it doesn’t seem that way…even when they deny their feelings. I used to be so worried about whether Id said and/or did the right thing but I realize that all these things do not matter. We are eternally bonded.. and these days I dream about him a LOT! About his struggle..About him wanting to be together. I cannot be as frustrated as I used to be about the situation because now I understand. I have dated as any normal human being would, but after meeting him in October 2013 Ive felt likeI’ve never been in a relationship or made love before..yet him and i haven’t even been intimate yet. That is just the way it is with twin flame love, u don’t need confirmation, u just know, u feel it..u don’t even need them telling u they love u. When u reach a certain level of maturity in this ul know…ul know when they aren’t being authentic. Ul know know what is not true about them because they are u. Ive literally seen my twin six times since 2013…only once this year yet I feel like he’s more here than anywhere else…we hardly even talk but I know deep in my soul that he loves me oh-so-profoundly. He’s truly the ONLY man il ever love.

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    • Ray says:

      Love what you wrote here and yes — our minds and hearts will doubt this, especially when either of the twins deny such feelings. At times it seems like it’s all in our heads — “I love him so much, why doesn’t he love me back and tries so hard to run away from me?” Well, if it’s so easy then everyone would meet their twin and be happily ever after. That’s not the point!!! Know that you are in fact BLESSED to have found your twin, and start working on your own growth instead of worrying about the “relationship”. Like you said, it is all about us working on ourselves, heal, release karma, and become authentic light. And as you love yourself more and more and more, you would KNOW that your twin loves you just the same, as you love him/yourself. It is a bond that can never be broken. So trust it, even when your mind starts playing tricks on you, or when your twin is not “behaving” the way you expect them to.. It is NOT a normal relationship. No “dating books” are going to explain it. You have to go with your gut – your soul KNOWS.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Dear Ayanda, your words are beautiful and describe the experience so well. Like you say, it seems hard to imagine just how much our twin flame loves us, but indeed they do – just as much as we love them. It is just a knowing in the heart, regardless of whether any tender words (or bodily fluids lol! :)) are ever exchanged; regardless of separation, other relationships etc. Your comment speaks of true love – thank you for sharing. Regards, Jonna

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    • Giorgio says:

      Dear Ayanda and Phoenix,

      jonna has helped me with her realistic response in my views and my pain. Everyone can assume or confirm anything that anyone can pretend that they know. We all have opinions. No one on this blog can confirm anything, about whether the Twin Flames is to come together or Not. This Blog is fantastic to share all that we all know and experience.

      There is no doubt that aborigines and American indians knew of this Twin Flame connection and they addressed it appropriately. They brought the Souls together for their work was incomparable together for all to see the amazing benefits that it brought with it.
      This was spirituality at its core.

      I believe that whether the union happens here or not is dependant on our spiritual maturity.
      This is the biggest AWAKENING.

      I believe that Twins will reunion if both Twins come to reason this out through Spiritual maturity. What is good for the Twins, is good for all who come in contact whatever they do.

      I would like to ask you all to be kind and cautious. As long as we share our truthful ways on how this reasoning comes about and assumptions are viewed, then we can only help one another and let all of us interpret what we feel and what we see for our own benefit. All situations are different. Patience is needed to see what transpires next.
      History repeats itself and as much as we think that we are making the right choice sometimes, we fall into this trap that only exposes itself after it is too late.

      Yes, we all suffer at the point of separation and as far as we are all concerned, I can also tell you that we might NOT reunion but then, there are many that have and are reunited with their Twin Flames. God has a purpose and, well, perhaps this is our mission to suffer and surrender as well as share all this amazing experience.
      I have seen what God can do and I am one, who as much as I am suffering, I trust in God that he does the best thing for me and my Twin Flame.

      Whether we reunion or Not, is up to God not her nor I. All I know is that, as a human being I was given opportunities to invest in my Twin and Myself as heavily as I possibly can. She does as well. Now she has someone else for her own reasons. I cannot control what is happening, but I can spiritually complimenter and still love her dearly.

      One thing is for sure, that if we really believe in this Twin Flame, then all I can say to you is to believe in heaven. I will be there waiting for My Twin Flame to be with her for eternity. I believe in it, so I have no doubt that this worldly pleasure is not what OUR soul is about. No man can divide the soul. No one can.

      This has made me see more avenues to spirituality. It has brought me closer to address the fields in my life that I need to address. My twin is off the rails at the moment, but then she is meant to do that. The carpet always unfolds as it should.

      No matter how much we mess things up, prove to me that we are not meant to be together? Prove to me that we are going to be together? No one can except those that have. That only also means that they have and not everyone else will. We all can make excuses not to reunion, it is all part and parcel of OUR journey. Stay tuned to our own self awareness and spiritual growth.

      When we are happy in the start of the relationship everything is fantastic. Two years seven years later, everything turns sour and then tell em what was the fantastic reason for not having reunion. !!!

      We can prove nothing, however, I know who my twin Flame is and even if she denies it, there are amazing signs and yes, they don’t really need to tell us that they love us. They do. When they want to part from us though they can invent and lie because we know that they are doing so as well. Do I know that she is my twin Flame? NO DOUBT IN THE WORLD.
      Name it, I don’t really need anyone because everything has changed with me, in the physical and spiritual as well.

      Our Twin Flame is the ultimate lover, companion and Soul Twin. The one who is more Spiritual always is at the helm, but when they join, then it is incomprehensible. Unmatched and out of this world with amazing love and dedication.

      Yes, they can enjoy Sex and a relationship to a level of acceptance, but I believe that they always come back to the Source of their love, “The half Twin Soul”.

      We are here for service absolutely, but this is where we must understand that we are hurting not just because of the separation but the yearning of the Soul that we are part of. In the 3rd dimension of course we do. The elastic band just gets longer, but it bounces back.
      If we can finish the journey alone, than we will. If we join though and no one can confirm to me that we cannot, than we will be a much stronger force and in service God will enlighten us and bring us together for that purpose not for Sex or anything physical or even materialistic. All is spiritual, I however think that this also encompasses amazing changes in the physical as well as mental. It is all that makes us whole.

      Amanda is right.
      I might have to re-adjust a hell of a lot in my mental and physical because as far as my sexual drive is concerned I would not replace my Twin Flame experiences. We can all have different feelings and drives but if that is all that we can gauge it all on, I can tell you now pretty much say that that individual would not be with their Twin Flame. I don’t believe that anyone who is in an abusive relationship is with their Twin Flame either.

      Perhaps I am wrong but what I feel for my Twin Flame is beyond reason, unconditional Love and I could not ever be satisfied to do enough to make her happy and contented. We also, all react to different circumstances and yes, we are human as well as spiritual.

      We can interpret things differently, but the focus should be on the good that we can do. We observe that if reunion is delayed, it is because both Twins need maturity, as they are mirroring each other.
      Lots of If’s and maybe’s but the ultimate thing with me that resonates is this; One cannot deny the connection, one cannot deny the feelings and pull to be with our Twin Flames. There is no doubt that it is hard to let them go, but We DO.

      The love is unconditional and I have seen Twin Flames united and they MUST BOTH BE IN TUNE together.
      I am guilty of trying to force reunion, but it is not how things are done. I guided my Twin and Told her that her marriage was over long time ago. The work I did was helpful to her as she has left her marriage for someone else now not Myself. If that lasts, who knows.

      Well, can we reason why? No, perhaps she needs to tolerate other things, perhaps she is going to have the best relationship ever, until she gets old and departs happy from this life on this earth!! Who knows. She might believe so, and who am I to contradict her?

      I think that this Blog is amazingly helpful and AS FAR AS BEING GIVEN FALSE INFORMATION, well we can interpret all the information as we please.
      NO, There is NO ASSURANCE of REUNION.

      The possibility is well and truly possible though. There are 3 in 5 marriages failing today.

      More people are, HAVING SEX on tap. There is the need to recognise our spiritual paths and if one does NOT want to believe in The Source, then so be it. We are all in our own skin our own BOSS.

      I believe that Spirituality will help this world as it has done before. Bringing Twin Flames together and show unity in being together has a very profound reason in Life. We all think that we have the right partner because of money and worldly comforts, yet that impression all perishes and fades into another divorce and separation or unhappiness of some sort.

      We take nothing with us when we part from this world, except OUR LOVE AND OUR SOULS.

      That is for certain.

      Love Harmony and believe XXX

      Giorgio XXX

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  13. jenncrystal says:

    Hi, it’s great reading your articles, when so many twin flame articles feels so negative and sad as most are still entangled in the running phase.

    One thing I’d like to share about cutting cords/severing connection. I am a dancer and have learned to be very sensitive to my body. Me and my twin had quite and age gap and serious socio-economic differences, yet so similar in many other ways. After our short relationship, feeling like it has all been a mistake, I tried cutting cords, or simply letting go of him, “cleansing” him from my life, but while it felt great for a moment, the next, I started to die. I really felt my body beginning to die from the inside. And then the pain becomes excruciating, both in soul and body. Really felt like being in hell. Then at other times, I felt him trying to cut me out too, and then I would start to look really horrible, pale skin, eye bags and all, until I feel him stop.

    It was only after a series of such pain that I became convinced that I have no choice but to hold on to this. He’s still running from it now. The pain that he has been living in for many years had created a high level of tolerance of pain in him.

    I had an injury that caused some numbness on the right side of my body. Recently, he told me he developed numbness on his left, after a knee injury. All these are very strange indeed.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Dear jenncrystal, I had a very similar experience trying to disconnect from my twin flame when I started running after our short summer together. I literally felt like I was in hell, with every attempt to disconnect feeling like literally tearing my own skin off. It was horrendous. It just doesn’t work – all it does is lead to pain, blockages and a disconnection from ourselves.
      I do want to say, I don’t think it’s necessary to hold on to the connection either. It will always be there whether we do anything with it; whether we acknowledge it, have any contact with our twin, decide to pursue other relationships etc. It will ALWAYS be there. The thing is to learn to live with it. It’s to ALLOW the connection. Not to attempt to manipulate it, to deny it, to diminish it, to categorise it etc. This is what has brought on the most progress and growth in my own connection. Thank you my dear for taking the time to comment and to share your experience. Love, Jonna xx

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      • jenncrystal says:

        Thank you for taking the time to reply to my comment. I’ll keep that in mind. Love, Jenn.

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      • Appo says:

        How do you break the connection. Mine is unusual, because I new he chased me for 10 month, but I was told it was longer. He stocked me & watched me from my neighbours homes & never spoke to me. I have the telepathic connection & know when he’s with another girl, because he can’t commit & tried to make a move but couldn’t because he has flings & casual sex. One of the reasons his marriage broke up especially when one of his flings got pregnant.

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    • jenncrystal says:

      Dear Appo,
      Sorry that it took so long for me. As you can see in the posts, the point is, you can’t. You can’t cut cords because it’s the way you are made. But you have the choice to tune out, but that would mean being untrue to yourself.
      I’m my experience, it’s best to simply treat him asa part of yourself.
      Following the law of attraction principles, I asked myself questions like, “why am I attracted to a person like that?”. Usually, it points to some repressed issues I have within myself. And as I resolve some of them, I felt my twin change too.
      Sometimes, I helped my twin heal, even from a distance because I felt the need to.

      Best wishes to you…

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  14. Stevie says:

    I was with a man for three years, who now is running. He says he needs to be alone, to focus on his projects. That he can’t confront us now. We are separated by seas. We will both be with other people during this separation, does that make our love less valued? Deep down i know he will come back. I feel this pull. This understanding that he will always be mine, and i his even though we will experience other people. But who am i to know that he really is my twin soul? I am scared to have faith when that faith may not pull through for me. I am scared to believe in him coming home, when he may not. All i know is that i knew him from the first day. He knew me from the first day. And we were completely a reflection of ourselves when together.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Stevie, I love your comment! Thank you for coming here and sharing your experience & feelings. First of all, I am sorry that your Twin is running from you. I hope you know however that he is running from you, not because he doesn’t love you but because he needs to find himself. Do not worry about whether he is your twin or not: the feelings and the loss you are feeling are REAL whether he is or isn’t! The deep the inner knowing that this is your twin flame will come in time. Do not attach too much meaning to it; ultimately what matters is the love between you and how it makes you feel and evolve.
      I think in a twin flame connection the deep love and the knowing that somehow somewhere we are meant to be together always remains; even when we make choices that take us away from each other. It doesn’t mean that we should put our lives on hold or resist our own life call just because we feel our twin stalling. Each is responsible for putting themselves in correct relation to God. Mine is “happily married”, yet somehow, without even feeling the need to interfere in his marriage, I know we will be together. I know I was made of him, as much as he carries a piece of me within him. We are each other’s perfect reflection. What helps me everyday is drawing closer to God and doing my self-work. What helps me is seeing the deep spiritual purpose behind the connection; to know that we are multidimensional beings who at the end of this roller coaster human life return to Love together. It gives me peace. I wish for you to find your peace through surrender too. Stay blessed, Love, J xx

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  16. Amanda says:

    Hogwash… All of it. Maybe Im bitter. But at this point… Id like to think that I dont have one…and if so. I want to sever ties. I dont want it anymore. I wished for it. Be careful what you wish for. This whole thing scares me more than you could ever imagine. It all hit home with so much. Sigh…. Im ok with this whole separation thing. For a bit now i have been trying to regain some level of normalcy..but all I want to do is just fall off the face of the planet. I cant escape him. His essence is in everything. Every sunset and every landscape. Repeating numbers and the color purple. Every SINGLE walk through nature. He is in all the beauty i see. Everything I used to find solace in to hide from the chaos of the world. I dont want ANY of this anymore. The worst part of all… Nobody i know understands anything about this…so everyday… I present myself with a fake smile and go about my daily tasks like some robotic drone while inside i just feel like im dying.

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    • Kimberly Varin says:

      I understand cometely I too am looking for an “out” I met my twin and wish to God I could go back and chang time. Im exaughsted from the time and energy spent towards this grand divine plan and confused why it has to be so difficult. My mind my body litarely butting heads with the divine energy behind this life that was prearranged before I was even born. My other half uses me flaunts girlfriends around me and does not want anything to do with this prearranged plan. We speak with the help of the souls within us through telepathy so I have a constant game going on inside my head 24/7. He always wins. If you know of ANYONE ANYTHING that could help me through this please do. Kimberly

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      • jenncrystal says:

        Hi there, I know what you guys are talking about. It is so, so hard.

        But one thing I’ve learned in working through this is that, whatever they do, however they make us feel, it is always, always a reflection of a certain issue we have inside. Either, we lack compassion and competency in handling a relationship, we are not at peace with our masculine/feminine selves, mom issues, dad issues, sexuality issues, self love issues, attachment issues, past lives, ex lovers, ego, material-spirit imbalance, feeling not enough, etc. it is always related to something negative that is still having a strong influence in your life.

        Sometimes, it is really necessary to go separate ways for the time being while all these negativity are being released as we work on ourselves. It is easy to think about how our twin have hurt us, it is hard to accept that, actually, we may have unknowingly hurt them too. Because they are so sensitive towards us, they feel so strongly about us, that the little things that we do might cause unexpected responses from them.

        Remember, they are our mirrors. Whatever they do, flip the coin and ask ourselves, why do we feel the way we do, where did this emotion previously come from that attracts it to us again. Been working for me, so far. Hope you find a way too.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Dear Amanda, I KNOW how you feel, 100%, a thousand times over. However all the wishing & cord cutting in the world won’t make the connection go away. You CAN put your focus elsewhere and get some temporary respite, however the only long term solution is to open up to the connection & learn to live with it. It is possible. You will feel so much better when you do.
      Like you so beautifully said, “He is in all the beauty I see”. How could you escape beauty, or yourself for that matter? You simply can’t. I know what it’s like, to not be able to hide. At least before I used to be able to go to sleep and forget about the world for a few hours. Not anymore. I know and feel I am always with him.
      I do hope you know that there are many who understand the journey that you are going through – like me and so many other soul brothers & sisters. We are all here for each other for support, guidance and a listening ear – and a shoulder to cry on. I hope you know this always. Love, stay blessed. Jonna x

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    • Carmen says:

      Amanda , I have read so many things about twin flame that I don’t know what to believe no more . Everyone talk about unconditional love between two people . One thing I can say that you are so right , I learn to lie to survive this connection and be a fake . Sometime I think that I am the one who imagine things and he don’t give a damn. No signs from the one I believe is my twin and is just pure agony. I started to think that is me and that’s it. I understand what you are saying. We are dying inside.

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      • Giorgio says:

        Dear Carmen

        Dear Carmen

        I feel your imbalance in your thoughts. I feel the confusion that surrounds your micro moments that haunt you, as much as also take you into an abyss of nothingness and loneliness, as well as Denial of your Connection with your TF.

        We all are, in the same boat of dimensions, the 3rd and the 5th, that this unbelievably beautiful existence controls and moulds us to do what we do. Within the pain that exists, the disbelief of our true connection within this relationship, we must believe that GOD is in this “socks and All” for us, to get ourselves back on a track of salivation. In turn we have the responsabilité to attract our TF’s soul to do the same. The pain we MUST GO THROUGH for the benefit of our TF’s Soul and OURS, through the Kundalini process, is a MUST DO. We need to WORK HARD TO BRING TO FRUITION, this connection with our TF and réunion, which is only possible within our own conscience of TRUTH.

        However, from the many prophets we can read the literature from, or whether we refuse at times to hide our faces, and not look at what we need to look at, to better our souls, we will have to face our OWN démons, just as our TF will have to, delaying the process or how long they choose to or not, in order to earn our place in heaven for éternité.

        This part of, jonna’s article, says a little about the insight of what and why this is all “NOT” an illusion. Certainly Not, but a true self awareness trial and cry for our own SELF improvement of the soul. The actual TF soul that we must acknowledge that both of us, will have to go through to achieve salivation and help the ALL others, Our TF, does the same as we do in their subconscious hearts. Through our own dedication of our belief and direction towards the Matrix of Divine Love, that looks so so complex, yet so simple to understand, if we could only put this pain away, and one that we keep questioning it of its purity, of its truths and deep unconditional paradigms. If only we could just brush away the pain that is camouflaging our path and direction. Read this and try and see through the lines and words, simply as is.

        “The runner runs; not because they cannot face you but because they refuse to look at themselves. The runner thinks that by avoiding you he won’t have to face his issues, but no matter how long or far they run, they don’t have a choice. You can’t fight God: what we resist persists. Furthermore, the True love of the Twin Souls is protected and ordained by a higher will, continuing to consume the two twins in separation until eventually they are driven back together. What was once whole will never stop wanting to be whole, and the two souls will never stop trying to reunite no matter how the runner rushes against it.”

        Imagine this for an analogie: You are at the edge of the cliff and you cannot run any more. You have a precipice. You must face the cliff below or you face what is chasing you. What would you do? What choice have we got NOW.

        I am a fighter, I don’t know about you, but as God is my guide, I know already that we , in this Blog, are all Warriors. We are fighters otherwise we would not be here questioning and suffering through this path of the garden that needs nurturing and pruning to clear our journey to the door of heaven, that awaits us with the biggest smile from its keeper.

        Archangel Michael and the Blue Angels army await for us to do work as they help us achieve our needed milestones of faith and belief that the creator exists with a heart that ONLY HAS LOVE IN IT. They wait to see and recognise our resilient Soul that is yearning for its salivation, through a joint effort of our TF. Our TF will come around to be with us. It is written in its formation of création. It is the genetic mould that cannot be other than what it is. It is done from the start of its blue print of OUR TWIN existence, for us to be deemed together. Whatever work we do, they will FEEL and they will eventually Follow on the same path.

        Yes, a hard road up the mountain but My God, as he is always with me now, well worth the pain and soars on my feet and scars on my body. But My eyes and my Heart for the love I have for my TF is compared to NONE within this creation. It is the strongest of loves as I adore her and I am going to do ALL that is required of me to bring her home. The Loving place where she will never ever stray again from.

        Once we climb the hard road uphill we will have a better view of our journey. So I am happy to reach the place where I can breath fresh air and be above all else, closer to my creator in harmony and free of all that was surrounding me, whilst trying to see the forest for the trees. We would be on top of things but we must soldier on and work through the Matrix.

        We need to be resilient and forgiving. Loving and open minded, strong and yet like the water that moulds around what comes our way, so we can engulf it and embrace its opposition which we will « redirect into our same path of direction » towards the light rays that we know for sure, shine for ever.

        Have your analogy of the true path you see and that faces you every day. Whatever we organise is what we are doing for our own TF as well. Remember that this is Divine , unconditional Love. Or should I say a love that has No limited Conditions!!!

        After the fire burns all, there is also hope of regrowth and fresh pastures. We run far only to come back and fight another day for the peace that we search for within first. It is all worth the pain. I always said to my TF that the LOVE I have for her is stronger than the pain I feel. It Just « IS ».

        Love Harmony and Believe XXX
        Giorgio XXX

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  17. Ray says:

    Separation is absolutely needed if either of you (or both) are not ready. You may think you’re ready but the separation actually forces you to face yourself and you will realize, nope, you ARE NOT ready either. So don’t blame your twin for running. You, too, are running— from yourself. Let the separation happens — it NEEDS to happen so you both can work on yourself. My twin and I were separated for years with very little contact. I learned to let go and spent the time working on myself. It was necessary and I have a new found love for myself to realize that everything would be okay — recently my twin and I reconnected and it was as if time hasn’t passed but we are both changed and have worked on ourselves at the SAME TIME even when we’re not aware of each other’s journey. So if your twin is truly your twin, then TRUST the plan. Otherwise, you may want to question is this really your twin? Or just a projection or a karmic relationship? If the person is indeed your twin, then you would have an internal knowing that all will work out in time.

    PEACE

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  18. Lila says:

    I am REALLY interested in cutting the cords with my twinflame. I met him at a very young age, we were both 15, and I was in a depressive state of mind back then, the last thing I wanted is to be in love or met someone. We didn’t even had a real relationship because the tension between us was so intense, we just looked each other in the eyes and suddenly I was the happiest person on the world. It was a very strange, unexpected feeling but we didn’t managed to do anything with it, I was too shy, he was very extrovert. had a lot of girlfriends but became very shy in my presence.

    He acted totally different towards me that became apparent for some people around him and I think this made him very uncomfortable. We were given a whole year to act or do something to be in a relationship, but nothing happened and I became more and more withdrawn and sad.

    After a year passed he moved to a foreign country with his family and that was my whole twin flame experience that changed my whole life but offered me too much pain and overall I think it would be better if I didn’t met him. More than 25 years have passed since than but I couldn’t forget him and for a very long time I wasn’t able to be in a relationship. I think many people would question if he is really my twin flame, but all I can answer is UNFORTUNATELY he is.

    In the 25 years that have passed, I’ve only seen him for about 5 times and he was always surrounded by other people or in a car, never in a situation where we could at least talk thing trough. The really disturbing thing is, that I always knew in advance that I will see him, because I sensed his presence the day before I’ve sen him and felt the same happiness and joy that I felt back when we were 15, no matter how many years have passed.

    The most strange experience was when I dreamed about being with someone on a beach and a beautiful landscape and was extremely happy and in love but the person next to me was a woman. Later I realized that I was HE in my dream, I felt HIS happiness that was MY happiness, I can say that it felt like we were ONE in a very strange way. The woman that I saw in my dream was his later to be wife, 5 years later I’ve seen some pictures of his in a social networking site, and the whole beach, landscape and everything was the same as in my dream that I had 5 years before it actually happened in reality.

    All I know about him, that he has 2 kids, happily married, a very popular person with a very high status in society. In contrast my life has been a mess, with lots of tragedies, sadness and regrets, struggling to make it through the day. I really think we were meant to be together to do something for higher purposes, but I feel that we both failed. Because I’ve had a very sad life and felt too much pain in my life, I think it would be better to cut all ties, because I didn’t asked for a twin flame and I think my life would be much happier without this hopeless love that will be never fulfilled.
    ( PS. Sorry for my bad English, I’m not a native English speaker)

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    • jenncrystal says:

      I’m sorry to hear about what you are going through. But if you read carefully in the article, you will find that it is actually impossible to cut cords with your twin. As you already experienced, your twin is a part of you. How can you cut yourself in half?

      I learned from this twin flame experience that you have to take ownership and take charge of your life, instead of waiting for the other twin do do all the work. Imagine looking into the mirror, your mirror image will not walk towards you, if you didn’t take the step yourself. Gender and roles is not an issue in this relationship. We have both masculine and feminine attributes that we need to develop.

      As much as this experience may mess up our minds, understand that the mess is within us and it is in our power to deal with. Do not blame our twin for our own failures to live a life we were supposed to live. Do what you believe is right for yourself, twin or no twin, and whether or not things fall into place, at least we don’t die feeling sorry for ourselves. You’ve already wasted so many years. Waste no more. My prayers for you…

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  19. BrokenWings says:

    A recent event triggered out the the worst in me and my twin. I tried reaching out he ignored me, he finds my reaching out threatening that my twin even said I’m a psychopath. I know he just said it out of anger but I’m not sure when he will forgive me.

    The argument heavily affected us, it affected me more because he acts as if he doesn’t care

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  20. a twin Flame who believes there is a way to sever says:

    Severing may be like death. But depending on what kind of a twin you have staying connected maybe More detrimental. In my case its the latter. He abuses me on ever y I.aginable level and th I ks it I hi a rig to do so be a ehe is my TF. He laughs it off Luke I am overreacting. Trust me twin or not twin if A man does not respect the word no. He has major issues. He stalks me listens to ever word I think in my head manipulates my feel I gs my thought and now I doubt everything about myself. This I not Tf behaviour you may say. Its a false twin .. Trust me he is my twin flame and I refuse to accept that source will not give a soul an exit route if it is required. We all have that choice to know what is best fpr our soul journey and who is best equipped to come along with us

    o beleive that the all knowing universe has given me a death sentence for eternity on this one. I know there is a way out I just havent figured I out yet and I know their is no one on earth who can help me because everyone is too busy telling me how scare this all is. I have the right to walk away and sever ties. Because not do in that will make me die not just in body but on every other level as well

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    • jenncrystal says:

      But if severing cords is not the answer, then maybe there are other ways of dealing with it? Such as communicating with him and telling him “NO” when he is abusing you and meddling with your mind? If he can do that, then you possibly can too! But you just have to learn to be stronger to be able to defend yourself.

      I would imagine that every tf situation can be quite different. But it is up to us to find the answer of, what lesson is this supposed to teach us. Blessings to you. Love, Jenn

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  22. Chantal says:

    I am so confused it is frightening. I am convinced I have found my twin but our relationship was awful. I believe neither of us was truly ready to be in that relationship and the repercussions were bad. I believe largely that he wouldnt let go of his ex and believed that she is his twin. He has now gone back to her but we still talk he is convinced its her and i am convinced its him. I know I need to let him work through this but I cant help but wonder is it me who is really just Crazy?

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    • vita says:

      let go of expectations, we are not able to put everything in order, if you doing what u love and no matter what he is doing, that is what helps you go through and to your happinez 🙂

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  23. Good evening! I met my twin flame over 18 years ago. I use a technique that involves working with my High Self and a a dowsing tool to validate my answers regarding all things spiritual. I have studied my Akashic Records, a record of my previous lifetimes and have validation from my High Self and all of my teachers and spiritual classmates validate he IS my twin flame. I also know that you can ask for addictive energy that you hold on your twin flame and his/hers on you to be decreased to 0 percent on both sides. Using pure INTENT can make this happen. I am not saying that this will cure the longing that most of us so deeply feel for our twins but may help us on our journey to aligning ourselves with our higher purpose. He or she often shows up to propel us more quickly on our path but knowing that the connection between us has less addictive energy attached to the union may bring us some needed peace. I feel you all, and really can relate to turmoil within. Much love, light and an abundance of blessings

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  24. Doreen says:

    Thank you so much for this blog. It was exactly what I needed today. My twin flame and I have reunited after 20 years of being apart. It has been a whirlwind of emotions and I wish I could say it has been pure bliss but its been more like pure chaos. The feelings of love and connection are amazing and I could never wish for more. However, during those 20 years of separation I have grown and understand myself and our connection but he has not. He still faces many demons and although he recognizes the twin flame connection, he has just begun his journey and its killing me. I feel like the relationship is sucking the life right out of me. He is trying but we go back and forth and he pushes me away and then pulls me back in and I want to run away but I can’t. I want to support him through his growth but I feel like its killing me. I know I could never sever our cord. I don’t want to, but sometimes I do wish we had never met. We hope and pray all our lives to meet the one, but meeting the one is not always wonderful. It’s hard work. I know it can be wonderful if he can figure it out but my fear is that he won’t and he will run and I will have put forth all this work just to go back to half a life without him. It feels like I am insane!!! But, what else are you going to do? I will continue to support him as he goes through this process. Thank you for your blog. It gets me through.

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    • akuna kumara says:

      Doreen one of the reasons twins separate is so they can grow individually then bring the growth back to the other…..We seem to forget the TF relationship is of Opposites….meant to find their
      point of merging with a compliment made of both perceptions……Blessings going forward

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  25. Radha says:

    Thank you for your wonderful blog.
    I am not so interested in the romantic aspect of twins but I hear a lot that even if you are separated somehow or other you will be brought back together.
    Like you may cut the ties but the universe makes it so that their path cross again.
    Quite close to the movie serendipity scenario.

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  26. Nila Potata says:

    I can’t feel our link anymore. I feel like everything within me has gone dormant. I can’t feel and I’m not myself. For the past seven months, I’ve been living like in an illusion of reality but when I look back, when I listen to our songs that’s when parts of me come back and I realize that the person I am now isn’t really me. In your beautifully written blog, you said no one can harm the link/connection not even the twin flames themselves. But after a huge break down I decided I could not trust myself because my guts were telling me was the one but his actions..In his actions he was only pushing me away. So I got so angry at myself and the next thing I know I can barely feel the connection. The next morning it was as if it disappeared. Ever since then I just feel this darkness and numbness in my chest, nothing happens in that area. I used to feel strong and constant emotions but now, it’s hard to feel at all. I have no clue how to fix this, I don’t even know what exactly happened. But your words give me strength and hope. Maybe things will get better.. All I know is that right now there’s such a void where he (our connection) used to be that I feel like ending the misery.

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    • akuna kumara says:

      Feeling so sad for you….to heal you must remember this is not intended to be a romantic relationship ~we are fortunate if it does~ but it’s a Divine love affair with the self and God within us.. TF are Polar Opposites or human mismatches so any relationship is adversity until you both evolve to where you are able to release the human ego and serve creation as unified compliments. Few will make as society as a whole has a long way to go to this point religion called ascension as higher vibration light beings. This is a beginning of learning to live the self and then learning to love others as the self by holding on to unconditional love regardless………someday maybe you’ll unify that someday may not be this life but to do it in any future you must do it in this now……………..Blessings it’s a harsh path to walk

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      • Nila Potata says:

        Primo, I think you’re absolutely right. Him and I are polar opposites but somehow we’re also the same. It also took me a while to understand that it was about me and God as well and not just any romantic relationship. Figuring that out helped me put a lot of pieces together. Thank you for your wisdom-full words and your compassion. It is indeed a harsh path to walk, especially for a young person. But I mean, I wouldn’t have been put on this road (if it’s not all in my head) unless somewhere along the way I was ready for it.

        Secundo,
        Before I wrote the comment, a few days ago, I realized I had to do something about it. I couldn’t keep ‘living’ this way. I thought to myself : if I could shut if all off just because I couldn’t take the pain than I can bring it all back just because I want to feel something, anything (even the pain). Silly logic, I know.

        So I dived into the void -in my chest-. I meditated and worked on forgiving myself and tried to face my fears of getting hurt and worked on accepting the fact that he -might- be my twin flame. With little result. It was a really hard process for me to go through because I never could (and still can’t totally) understand how all of the things happening could actually not be the fruit of my imagination, what if I made this whole thing up in my head ? As far as I knew, we had never met in real life because we lived in different countries and different continents. I couldn’t be sure of anything. (Still can’t.) It would really drive me bananas. After a while, I just stopped trying to think it through, started believing that I was just plain insane, and repeatedly told myself I was crazy. Getting rid of a year of pain and ‘lying’ to myself/rejecting a definite possibility wasn’t easy and at the end of the day when I sensed no result and no sign of our connection, I just gave up.
        Which lead to me writing my previous comment.

        The next day, like my usual stubborn self would do, I, naturally, found myself trying again. Although this time the outcome was different. I figured our connection can not be the same as it was because so much time had passed and both of us grew a lot. Hence, I gave my meditation another try and let some of the pain out. I ended up crying my eyes out and falling asleep a short while after. When I woke up, I could finally feel something in the void, like continuous (soft) waves of goodness and love filling the gap, but again still no sign of him. So I just thought I was over him. And that things were finished for good. That it was settled. That I was holding on to him all this time because I’ve never loved someone as much as I loved him. Texted my close friend and told her that I faced my fears, there was no such thing as a link, that she was right, I was just too stubborn to let go and so on. But when I said that, there’s this voice in my head that went “now wait for the opposite” or something. More like a feeling. But of course I ignored it. During the rest of the day I just kept pondering over it -“us”- and how things turned out. Although, despite the fact that I admitted to myself that things can’t be the same because we both grew I forgot to actually implement that knowledge to my current situation.

        So as I was walking in the rainy evening streets it dawned on me. Our connection never went away, it was always there. Even the synchronicites are still present. Though we don’t talk at all anymore, I still get signs of what he’s doing or sometimes random things i.e (it’s childish but) this new video game that he’s been hooked on. How can I confirm ? That’s a long story. But the fact is I did. Basically, yes I was holding on but only to what we used to be. Different isn’t always something bad and I failed to remember that. I had to let go of the past and accept the new. Which I finally did. Now for the first time in seven months I feel peaceful and I can sense him from my heart to my toes. (My head is still conflicted.) I can’t believe how strong our bond is given the fact that we never met in real life and he lives across the ocean.

        Conclusion : I’m thrilled to say that this case is finally closed. For now, at least.

        Things will unfold as Gods perfect plan has decreed it, meanwhile I’ll walk down this road bravely and surely.
        Again, thank you for your kind words ❤
        Lots of love,
        Nila.

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  27. Katie says:

    I don’t even know where to start. I was in a long term relationship with someone and we have 2 young children, then my partner and I both had a dream about my twin re-entering my life and sure enough a couple days later he did. My now ex partner and I never had a very stable, happy relationship and over the years my twin had been running through my mind. He pops back into my life, to “mend fences” months after his brother contacted me to “catch up” and ask personal questions like whether I was single and happy with my partner. So, we became “friends” and for the first 7 or 8 months he was incredibly flip floppy with me. Every time we would get “too close” emotionally or riding the same wave length where we were literally reading each others minds, he’d disappear for a while, I’d finally give in and reach out to him and we’d go back at it again, until we’d get close than the last time, and he’d disappear again etc… Naturally, our friendship didn’t stay a friendship; despite being in a long term relationship already and we both expressed our unchanged feelings for each other, which complicated things to say the least. I wasn’t happy and didn’t want to be with my then partner anymore, but I still felt like that there was a lot of karmic business left between us. Sure enough, nature took it’s course and I found myself a single woman. After close to 2 years of having my twin flame in my life again, but kept at a distance, the door was finally open to be together. Not too long after my new found singledom, my twin flame went running back to his ex girlfriend of all people, which according to him was just as toxic as my relationship. Both of us chose partners that were highly destructive, manipulative, abusive and have a completely backwards idea of what it means to love. It’s been months now and I’m still trying to wrap my head around why he not only ran for the hills away from me, but went back to the very person that he said made him completely miserable and destroyed his self esteem to the point that he was afraid to trust another woman again. I just find myself being stuck somewhere between feeling confused, heartbroken, completely insane and stupid for believing that there was anything between us all over again and feeling completely empty and emotionally shut down. Maybe, it wouldn’t feel so bad if I didn’t have to find out from someone else that he went back to his ex. He completely shut me out again, with no explanation at all, just like when he ended our relationship. He just stopped talking one day, no acknowledgment of my existence, no explanation on what’s going on, no nothing. He just eliminated himself from my life one day and couldn’t give me a real reason for why he did it. Those actions alone make me feel incredibly wounded and it makes me afraid to trust him again because, things changed out of the blue again, almost instantly. Just when I feel like he and I are on firm ground, WHOOSH it’s gone and he’s done this before after he broke things off with me, then Whoosh he disappeared again and I don’t exist or worth acknowledging all over again. He knows his heart has a safe place with me no matter what, but I find myself feeling that I won’t feel like I can feel safe in him if he keeps running like this. He’s also not a very spiritually minded man, he’s very much so in his head a lot, so I could see separation lasting into the golden years of our lives. Deep down I know he would never wish to hurt me, but it hurts like a B. Right now, I’m just feeling a bit indifferent towards (romantic) love in general and just emotionally shut off when it comes to him. It’s all very confusing, after years and years of all the emotional intensity even while apart, I’m now suddenly shut off to the idea of love and even him. I don’t desire any (romantic) love at all. I know that if he came back, all those emotions would come flooding back again, but right now I’m not feeling much of anything.. Is this normal?

    P.S. Sorry for such a long comment and Enjoyed your article 🙂

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  28. Veronica says:

    I am going through this myself. My bf of five years broke off with me in January, every since then we have been doing a dance of chase together. I love him and I am sure he loves me, but he is running now. Last time we spoke he said he didn’t love me anymore and I feel as though it is not true, we live 8 houses apart and every time he sees me he makes and effort to say hi, I can tell he is longing for me ( can see it in his eyes, is like an unspeakable thing) as I am for him but we both keep our space. Even when we were apart, when I was going through bad periods he would call me up because he felt he needed to do so. I truly believe he is my twin flame. I have never experienced such love for anyone. When he left I felt like a part of me just died. I felt such and emptiness. We stayed on speaking terms, but It’s like every time I see him my defenses fall and all I want to do is love him. I must be strong, though is really hard. I must be strong and let him be happy. Ever since we broke up we both have been bettering ourselves. We have tried to get back together, and each time we have failed but the love is there. He feels like home to me and I know that he is the one. So for know I just keep strong and I pray.

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    • doucejonna says:

      Hi Veronica, thank you for taking the time to comment and share some of your story. First of all, I am very sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend separated after five years together. I must say that it is very unusual for a twin flame couple to stay together for a number of years and THEN separate, as usually all the obstacles to the Union tend to arise after the first few weeks or months, leading to separation. I do however know cases where twin flames have spent a number of years together before separating and going through the “runner – chaser” dynamic so nothing is impossible. The best advice I can give you is to love yourself enough to understand that chasing anyone for their love, or for them to return to you, is not healthy and does not reflect on your true beauty and value. Remember, if there is no chaser, then there is no runner either. If he says that he does not love you, even though you know this to be untrue, then you must allow him the space and time to really understand those words. You know this already – which is good. This is also an invitation for you to go inwards and really work on becoming the best version of you.
      In a way, you are very lucky to still be in speaking terms with him. This way, you have the opportunity to show him what an amazing person you are and to remind him of all the things that made him love you in the first place. 🙂 Have compassion for yourself, and the pain and loss that you are feeling. Sending you all my love and blessings, Jonna x

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  29. Appo says:

    My twin flame found me. Stocked me for 10 months, chased me, watch me from neighbors homes. He is unfaithful and apparently not ready for this kind of commitment. He was married and cheated on his wife repeatedly which one of his feelings produced a child and broke up their marriage. He is 52to 58 years old and ask like this. I know when he’s with someone else the pain and the hurt is so unbearable I need to know how to get past it.
    I am naturally empathic and never has spoken to him but we have the telepathic connection. He tried to make a move on me November 22 but couldn’t.
    Please help!

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  30. Paul Adeleke says:

    I met my twin flame a few months ago. This went sour. She began to hurt me sooo much. I was then triggered and lashed out her extremely harshly and ran.

    When I returned. She had moved on… enlightened by her unconditional love for herself asked me to find her happiness. She told me that she need time to consider accepting my apology. I was too impatient and she then told me that she has chosen never to reunite with in this lifetime.

    I am contemplating self-harm.

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    • Appo says:

      Paul I guess you saw my blog. Mine is a competitive bodybuilder who is sex addicted, egotistic, and selfish. I don’t know much about this twin flame But I guess he is the complete opposite of me. And maybe that’s why i’m so advance in the symptoms because I’m the Pure one and he isn’t .

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    • Doreen says:

      Paul, losing your TF is like experiencing death. It hurts like crazy and you do not know how you can go on. But, I assure you, you can. I was without my TF for 20 years. I managed to find companionship and happiness. Allow yourself to grieve, there will always be a hole where that person should be but life is still out there, happiness can still be found. After 20 years my TF came back, don’t give up. You both need time to grow.

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    • Giorgio says:

      Dear Paul

      Life is beautiful my friend.
      If you can only realise that she might not be your twin Flame or if she is, than, accept that she will return. She will return to you. You both need time out if she said that, and as much as you said that she was violent to you !!! Well… take time out. It is enjoyable to grow and let her grow as well… she needs to see ho strong you can be so it makes her attracted to you. Self harm is not the way to go. If you want her to mature than, take the challenge to better yourself and show her that you are strong and powerful and worth her cause to come back to you.

      It works. She will come back on your terms so to speak. Your strength is her desire your desire is your your attraction.

      Show some strength not weakness. Your strength is passed on to her as well through your spirituality and yes, your spirit is what she will feel from you that will reel her in. Be ready so you can silently look at her and mesmerise her mins and spirit.

      Come on there is never an easy way out.

      Love Harmony and believe
      Giorgio

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  31. Matthew says:

    Hello, i commented in the commutinacting with twin flame thread… I am at a point in my life, happily married with four children to an amazing partner… We have persevered through many of lifes challenges and have truly shared an amzing experience… I have never faced falling in love outside of that till recently… Meeting a person that i almost immediately new was more to me than a new friend. She has become deeply intertwined in my community, my wife and family love her, all my friends love her, she has family connections to our community and grew up connecting to this place as well… The synchronicities are vast and meaningful. I resonate very deeply with everything about her.. I’ve been able to navigate these past months by accepting that although we are more than compayible, we are clearly meant to be just friends…. I’ve found great satisfaction watching her connect with my wife, kids, and communiy… Throughout the time knowing her, i’ve caught glimpses of much higher experiences…. Visions of moments together reaching new potentials… Never fantasy of romantic encounters, but consciosness expansion, and deep true love…. This has opened me up to reaching out in a deeper way… She’s felt comfortable confiding in me with deeper struggles she is having… I’ve found myself deeply caring and trying to provide support and empathy… Getting swept away a little and several times feeling a strong urge to fully open up and reveal the scale of my love/ visions with her… I’ve managed to keep this in check, barely because of my fear of everything unravelling around me. The last thing i want is to open a relationship with complications, other hurt people, young children, intertwined relationships…. Clearly my knowledge of this potential twin flame has come at a junction where union would not be possible… My desire for reciprocation, or confirmation from her that its not just me feeling rhese things has brought me to the brink several times… I’m sure my wife has intuitively sensed my heart/ thoughts are in turmoil… I am taking all of this experience to refocus myself on my path… By fully loving and being present with my wife and children, by letting go of my desires, by fully balancing and improving my life the way it is… Beingbpatient and ready for whatever may unfold… If it is truly a twin flame that i’ve found, all i can do is to fully honour myself and the life i’ve created , trusting that universe will unfold in most beautiful way. I must be patient and focus, very difficult when the friend is currently staying with us for a visit and i cant quell my loving glances and gazes at her aura/ beauty… Very challenging, but i’ve also come to understand that we may have met now for a reason.. For her to witness my true potential as a dedicated partner/ father, solid with integrity and long vision. This will resonate with her, and if i falter i may break that trust with her… To express my love would set us back even further at this point… Thanks, just needed to get this off my chest somehow…

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  32. Giorgio says:

    Dear Matthew

    If I may just express how lucky you are to have met your Twin Flame perhaps. I don’t know but you would. It is an amazing strong feeling and that has been myself 26 years ago. Later on after my twin Flame introduced me to my ex wife, and both of us had our children almost in sync, my Twin Flame was unhappy in her ,marriage . It showed and she has this issue that has been passed on in her family. Her father and her mother have experienced challenges as I am sure most of us have in our past.

    You must be aware of one thing, though; You cannot be the one who is going to save the day. You will fall into the arms of the one who holds your other part of your Soul.

    It is NOT a trap either it is just ho it is. The overwhelming desire and pull will reel you in.

    Yes, the spiritual is the potency but once you have the physical connection happen there is no turning back. Leave the apple alone as long as you can but who knows what your purpose is !! Stay strong and yes, you are an amazing Guy to be doing such a brave encounter with such powerful spiritual pull.

    In time you will fall to it, there is no doubt about it. I think we can look at our history and see so many who have resisted and fell to their knees. Yes, kept their marriage going but living double lives, refusing the ultimate in love. Our spiritual connection is certainly the strongest energy we can ever have along side US.

    If Your Twin Flame helps you in comforting you, your Wife must feel it. If your wife is a happy soul mate she will certainly feel your attraction towards this Tin Flame.

    I would advise you that if you lay with fire you will get burnt. Read about the Kundalini and understand that the forces of spiritual work is done from above not only from with. The source is everywhere, which means it is also within you.

    Staying close to your family is not your safeguard but staying focused is. All of your thoughts will drive you to your twin and there is nothing stopping it.
    Remember that OUR twin Flame s a mirror part of our SOUL. It is your other half that you are craving to join. Just like a magnet. Hard to stop it from attracting it to become one.

    Love Harmony and believe XXX
    Giorgio XXX

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  33. Rahul says:

    I feel very lucky to have found this thread. I met my twin flame in 2009 during my MBA. We had amazing similarities We felt naked in front of each other, as the we can see deeply inside each other and even the smallest of the negative thing was out in open. Things were going smooth as were spending time with each other, knowing each other better. But then she was forced to marry with someone else!! We tried to convince the families, but of no use, and she cannot go against her family, so she decided to end everything. Although she herself was in extreme pain due to this but she had to move on. I went through hell lot of pain, everyday I used to pray almighty to bring us together again, tried everything but Separation was inevitable. I tried various things to cut off this relation, as i thought I severing the invisible ties will help me move forward and forget about all this. But everytime i was forced back into this. I tried to cut but i cannot, as if the Whole Universe is telling me that you can never cut this bond. She is now very happily settled with her family, as his husband is very caring and they love each other very much. Even i have found a very dedicated soul mate, But whenever i go deep inside me, i only found the depth of the love for my Twin soul. When i feel connected to her, every thing in this world feels meaningless to me, as if anything else except her is of no value. We havent talked each other for over 2 years, as she dont want to have any connection because she feels very vulnerable when we are in connection. I also dont want to force anything on her, as I believe that when the time is right she will accept the things, and will understand the “Real Truth”.
    But it feels very tough, as it feels like living 2 lives, one with my twin soul in my heart and soul and the other with my soul mate in Real world.

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  34. Carrie says:

    Today after reading a cord cutting article, the thought struck me to try this with my tf. The reason has nothing to do with me as I am so thankful for the recent ability to meet him whenever I want in spirit. This spiritual togetherness feels as amazing as being together in the flesh, sometimes even better. The reason is to set him free, to allow him to find whatever in life he needs, whatever freedom and autonomy he desires and to find the comfort of a relationship with a soul mate (something I also have with my husband). For me, I would love to give them both the freedom to love without limits and the tie to me can be a limit for certain. So I sat down in this chair and I felt the connection. I envisioned a gold and silver cord, strong and thick protruding from the center of my chest. This made me glow with a bright white light and felt like bliss. Then I imagine a great pair of shears, with both hands wide open to cut that cord. At that moment, my heart hurt, a great sadness took over and tears welled up in my eyes. I couldn’t even try. It hurt. My chest still hurts. It feels like a heavy weight is on it and pushing down. I think I’ll go back to being grateful for this connection, to loving the bond and to being there with my beloved- beyond bliss.

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    • Giorgio says:

      Dear Carrie

      I have Not read any articles because I do NOT want TO BE influenced BY anyone or FROM anything, but TELL YOU what I feel I should tell you from my heart with honesty.

      ” WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WANT TO CUT THE CORD WITH YOUR TWIN FLAME?”
      Why, when you should know that this is not your choice to meet him, be with him or even re union with him? THIS IS NOT A COINCIDENCE, there is a higher purpose for both of you.
      It is the MOST BEAUTIFUL of gifts from the source to both of you.

      My Twin Flame has seperated from US and even though it has been a sequence of lies that she must face as well. I would NOT IN A THOUSAND YEARS ” Cut the Cord from her.”

      I believe it is wrong to do so.

      You can feel his energy, feel his love and you wish to sever your CONNECTION?

      If you are, and I am NOT saying that you are either, putting your thoughts to have a say…. STOP THERE AND DON’T move.

      Let it be, let it be. Let time and space and the Source control your destiny. Let it be that you both do what is meant to do, by the source. what you are to face as the carpet unfolds as it should.
      Loving our Twin Flame even when it hurts so much, only re enforces my love for my Twin Flame of Violet fire.
      I adore her and I have let her go in the flesh. But I love her as I surrender to let her enjoy her time with someone else if she chooses. If it is not time for both of you to re Union or be together, let it be that you will have faith in the source.

      I believe that we should have ourselves first, Honesty, humility and above all Integrity.

      Joanna has shared her views about my case and I cannot agree with her more as we see things very similarly. I am not of the believe that being with our Twins is for nothing or for pain or for us to play the one to let them go. We don t have the power to do so.
      Seperate the Souls? No way . Think again

      It is NOT EVEN THEIR CHOICE. Or OURS TO BE TOGETHER OR MEET.
      It is what it is and we should leave it ALONE.

      Yes, be greatful that you have met him. Feel the pain and nurture it, embrace it, get angry at him if you have to, because of this amazing situation. It makes you feel better as you return (after getting angry perhaps) to your normal self and you can say to him ,” You make me so angry and upset, but my God has granted me to have such a fortunate time in meeting you, that I want you to never ever let me go. Feel my love my beautiful as I ask our creator to bless my love for you. I send my love only through and with our creators approval, for all good things are better to come through Our Source.
      You wish to sever your ties because you think it is freeing him from you or you from him?
      I give my Twin Flame divine and My God is my witness that I adore her.

      Jonna mentioned if I am ready to hang on to My Twin at all cost, under the circumstances! In the most respectful way through my creator, I have insight to her Soul. Just like you have to your Twin.

      Stop trying to run, surrender if you have to. Mature further and respect your own self to just ” BE” feel him more and more.

      Believe in the source, but understand that you are on a journey that has the power to do what the source wants it to do. Let him go and he will return. You have fears….? have NONE LET YOURSELF BE.

      Better be ready to face some music because these things are just Not about what we only desire.

      Read the article about the Kundalini as this I find very interesting and I feel it as well within. Doucejonna wrote some beautiful, meaningful and open minded literature for all of US to read and apply how we see fit.

      Have faith instead of trying to control what your mind tells you to.

      NO, thinking is only going to drive you astray and put doubt in your mind.

      Feeeeelllll within your heart. Love him through your meditations and hug him as you embrace what unfolds in front of you. It is the only way to show appreciation for what “IS in the moment.

      You want this to be so for both of you. Nothing is more sacred and potent.
      Ultimately, it is what the source wants to happen , ” I am that I am” said –

      We were created from each other’s soul , inseparable eternally.
      From the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.

      “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

      Don t try to seperate, there is a very strong awakening happening always . More so Now, you must have faith for as much as you wish for things only what the Source decides, will be both your fate.
      We should not even try to seperate our Souls for it is the yearning of both the better halves that are magnetised to be attracted and bonded . God United after creating both souls from one. It is for ever that both halves try to locate, find and join again and again.
      Let it be SO.

      ” My Twin Flame is a being of Violet Fire. My Twin Flame is the purity God desires” X3

      Say this instead of trying to sever. Don t play with what you gave NO POWER OVER.

      Connect with the source and send love to your Twin. That is Devine love.
      Love Harmony and believe XXX

      GIORGIO XXX

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  35. Giorgio says:

    Dear Carrie

    I have Not read any articles because I do NOT want TO BE influenced BY anyone or FROM anything, but TELL YOU what I feel I should tell you from my heart with honesty.

    ” WHY ON EARTH WOULD YOU WANT TO CUT THE CORD WITH YOUR TWIN FLAME?”
    Why, when you should know that this is not your choice to meet him, be with him or even re union with him? THIS IS NOT A COINCIDENCE, there is a higher purpose for both of you.
    It is the MOST BEAUTIFUL of gifts from the source to both of you.

    My Twin Flame has seperate X from US and even though it has been a sequence of lies I would NOT IN A THOUSAND YEARS ” Cut the Cord from her.”

    I believe it is wrong to do so.

    You can feel his energy, feel his love and you wish to sever your CONNECTION?

    If you are, and I am NOT saying that you are either, putting your thoughts to have a say…. STOP THERE AND DON’T move.

    Let it be, let it be. Let time and space and the Source control your destiny. Let it be that you both do what is meant to do, by the source. what you are to face as the carpet unfolds as it should.
    Loving our Twin Flame even when it hurts so much, only re enforces my love for my Twin Flame of Violet fire.
    I adore her and I have let her go in the flesh. But I love her as I surrender to let her enjoy her time with someone else. If it is not time for both of you to re Union or be together, let it be that you will have faith in the source.

    I believe that we should have Honesty, humility and above all Integrity.

    Joanna has shared her views about my case and I cannot believe that being with our Twins is for nothing but pain or for us to play the one to let them go.

    It is NOT EVEN THEIR CHOICE. Or OURS TO BE TOGETHER OR MEET.
    It is what it is and we should leave it ALONE.

    Yes, be greatful that you have met him. Feel the pain and nurture it, embrace it, get angry at him if you have to, because of this amazing situation. It makes you feel better as you return after getting angry to your normal self and say to him ,” You make me so angry and upset, but my God has granted me to have such a fortunate time in meeting you, that I want you to never ever let me go. Feel my love my beautiful as I ask our creator to bless my love. I send my love only through and with our creators approval, for all good things are better to come through Our Source.
    You wish to sever your ties because you think it is freeing him from you or you from him?
    I give my Twin Flame divine and My God is my witness that I adore her.

    Jonna mentioned if I am ready to hang on to My Twin under the circumstances! In the most respectful way through my creator, I have insight to her Soul. Just like you have.

    Stop trying to run, surrender if you have to. Mature further and respect your own self to just ” BE” feel him more and more.

    Believe in the source, but understand that you are on a journey that has the power to do what the source wants it to do. Let him go and he will return. You have fears….? have NONE LET YOURSELF BE.

    Better be ready to face some music because these things are just Not about what we only desire.

    Read the article about the Kundalini as this I find very interesting. Doucejonna wrote some beautiful, meaningful and open minded literature for all of US to read and apply how we see fit.

    Have faith instead of trying to control what your mind tells you to.

    NO, thinking is only going to drive you astray.

    Feeeeelllll within your heart. Love him through your meditations and hug him as you embrace what unfolds in front of you. It is the only way to show appreciation for what “IS in the moment.

    You want this to be so for both of you. Nothing is more sacred and potent.
    Ultimately, it is what the source wants to happen , ” I am that I am” said –

    From the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

    Don t try to seperate, there is a very strong awakening happening always . More so Now, you must have faith for as much as you wish for things only what the Source decides, will be both your fate.

    Love Harmony and believe XXX

    GIORGIO XXX

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  36. G says:

    This post certainly answered the question I mentioned in your other post on “The Folly of Running…”. Thank you!

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  37. Rose says:

    Thank you for capturing the madness that is this journey so well Jonna. When one’s sanity threatens to leave, it is sometimes just feels so good to know that you are not alone.

    My twin flame and I are currently in separation, after what has been a turbulently beautiful and magical year. We met 6 years ago, and I was drawn to him like a moth to a light. We started off an innocent friendship-and we were in trouble from just a couple of meetings. After recognising each other, we felt extremely attracted to each, and shared the most lingering kisses. However,we could never cross the proverbial line because we were both in committed relationships. But we often made love by just holding hands, I have never experienced such a connection. My partnership fell apart last year for other unrelated reasons, and for the past year, we were able to merge physically. And boy, what magic this has been. His partner always knew I was in his life, knew we were not physical…until early this year when we could be together. Over the years, she had made life unbearable for him-guilt-tripping, emotional ransom, and made him believe that he is worthless, unloveable-often saying that he would not be alive if it wasn’t for her. He went thru a phase of addiction for the most part of their partnership. So she had to look after him(I am eternally grateful fir this) and their now 25-year old daughter single-handedly. She lost friends and family when she chose him, and now he needs to return the favour. The last straw was most recent, when she co-erced him into having vasectomy. Ever since she knew we were intimate, she always believed that I wanted to entrap him with a baby. He has justified it saying this is the best way to show his commitment to her. This despite the fact that they have not been intimate in close to a decade. This crazy reality is so painful to accept, though we don’t actually want to have babies. We just want to be together. What is most hurting is how my beloved continues to feed an insatiable monster of an unhealthy relationship that just keeps devouring him. To what end, I’ve asked. What more are u going to have to give…?

    He is 18 years older than me(I am 36) and at times it feels like I should really just move on instead of dealing with middle-aged men with midlife issues and crises. But there is an inner knowing, when I researched after our many pushpull episodes, that I bumped into this concept of twin flames.He is my beloved.He is the most beautiful creature to me. Is the most sensitive and caring soul and I feel nothing but tenderness for him. The feelings are utterly reciprocated, all the time.

    Moments of clarity most often keep me going, and I know he needs to do this, figure it out for himself. I also feel him near me, loving always-separation is an illusion. But these moments also evade me at times, and when they do, I plummet into desperate pain to just hold him and love him and tell him he is enough. But I know I have to allow him this time to fulfil his karmic duties, to see clearly what is true and what is not. I just feel so sick sometimes, because I also know he could self-sacrifice, and forfeit our connection. Especially as his home environment only reminds him of what a cheat he is, how he owes it to pay back – and that all we share is great sex, nothing more-all that history. I am exasperated at times, and I have to dig deep. Am starting to believe that as much as this TF connection thing has enriched my life, and continues to do so-it is also curse… 😦

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    • Giorgio says:

      Dear Rose

      I am certain that jonna can answer you in the Most perfect ways. However if I can help you, I am
      Only going to try and shed some of my experiences.
      I had a 19 year marriage. I knew my Twin Flame before I met my wife. However, my twin Flame introduced me to my , Now, ex wife.
      I gave my marriage the best shot and even tried to remarry my ex wife after our first seprecation. You are not wrong to feel such push and pull within your connection with your Twin Flame either.
      I am 5 and a half years older than my Twin. I tried to ask my Twin to commit without considering the repercussions that it would have on our relationship.
      What techs going through is normal. So ARE YOU.
      I can tell you that whatever he had and has in his life is not going to keep him in his marriage. He will buckle in the end. He will surrender to the Mature Twin Love that you hold so dear to your hearts.
      This is only my opinion and I could be so so far from the truth, but After a very turbulent, aggressive and violent time of 4 and a half years trying to get settlement with my ex wife, I am hoping to get my life back.

      All this is because my ex wife knows about me and my Twin Flame. This might further prolong the realisation of what there actually is as a reality that the marriage between your Twin and his marriage is well and truly OVER.

      We can try and deny all that is happening . All that is a true reality that You are meant to be together. The neediness of his partner(wife) needs to be addressed by him in a very proper and honest way.
      This is a soul connection and to live in a life that is not a healthy one, in an prisoner environment is not the ode purpose that Hod had given us to invest in, in this way.
      It is the trial that we need to invest in properly. I believe that we could do
      A better job to be honest and sit down and talk it over with his wife and bring out the truth. Life in marriage should not be ruled by foavours or obligations that society puts as barrier rules.
      Mine was totally messed up and I am still suffering as I kept denying it. Now, my Twin was fed up of waiting and she is with someone else in the scene. That hurts even more, but I feel that it will all come back to bite ‘ US’ and is only delaying our reunion.
      In this, there is Only one way to go; one must Not think with their mind as this will only cloud your Heart as to how and what he feels for you. Yes, one can argue that it is wrong to do what you are doing. It is wrong to go into another relationship and it is deceitful.
      Integrity and Honesty ?
      According to society it is, according to our social expectations it is as well dishonest and puts your own self integrity in question. He must go his journey and do his work and make up his decisions as to his life purpose. He MUST recognise his purpose within himself and You as one soul.
      Perhaps you still have the opportunity to talk on a spiritual level and realise that if you do reunion than it will gene got all parties on the highest level with a Devine purpose.
      I put these questions to you though;
      You have had physical contact and made love, which as Twins we know that it is the ultimate in expression, not just in the physical sense but more so, in the spiritual . So I ask you with regards to you moving on; if you do love him, what would you be looking for to Serve in your next life purpose in a better way? Emotionally and materialistic ally? Is it not that meeting your Twin Flame the ultimate in contentment? How do you feel in your heart? Is your Twin Flame the ultimate in your ‘All expressions that makes you vulnerable as well as powerful’ in all senses that you can achieve the most out of a unified life with the soul that combines both into one? 5 th Dimension?
      What does your heart say to you? What does your inner voice tell you?
      Do you need work to do for yourself as well? This is the miry or self we are talking about here!
      Your mind takes you to the end of the universe, with doubt and confusion. Patience has its rewards and realistically, I ask you; what and how, do you not see that this is the one truthful purpose, as your ultimate partner with your mirror divine soul , in life, by being with your Twin Flame? Is anyone else going to fulfil your life purpose ? Are you going to be as happy or even as honest with anyone else? Are those whom you choose to be with, after meeting with your Twin, knowing that your Twin Flame is near you, going to be treated by yourself, with all your heartfelt honesty in a new relationship?
      And many more questions that will boggle your mind.
      What is your True Life Purpose?
      Remember that God is watching to see how we react to our introduction of every opportunity in our lives. It does not mean that we need someone else. Temptation in search of what else? Sexual satisfaction? Materialistic contentment? Meeting your Twin Flame is already a planned path, not now but from the time we were born. Read the kundalini and the purpose of your reunion. What happens during separation and what is your spiritual duty to surrender and your eternal divine purpose.
      Read what you wrote yourself again and then read doucejonna’s articles about so many articles that have the answers in them that may guide us, to all the insecure and questionable doubts within our thoughts.
      I told my Twin, that the biggest mistake we have done is to think rather than listen to our heart. Sepetation is necessary for our growth before reunion. It questions our faith in the ultimate God.!
      My advice is to “LISTEN TO YOUR HEART”. Think only positive and surrender to God for all happens through Him. I believe that you will have reunion but then, that is my feelings and a lot of other self work to be done. Purification of the spiritual self and concreting our ultimate in Love and eternal life purpose, for both into One entity.
      You must stay true to your HEART. Feeeellll not think who your Twin is. What your Twin means to this bond between you. If it is just a relationship that you seek in a 3rd Dimension, well, move along and keep hoping to be happy and satisfied. The magnetism of your Twin connection will draw you back to your Twin flame with the probable result that you yourself might end up the New relationship with whoever you meet next! Well, as I am suggesting, is this what you wish for, or is it better to concentrate about having the patience to be eventually reunited with your Twin?
      Is your Twin worth it?
      This is firstly a spiritual connection, divine purpose which encompasses all within the 5 th Dimension of true LOVE, TRUE honesty and Ultimate in having integrity within yourself and your Twin.
      It is as jonna told me, so rightfully so. It is Not about the ultimate sexual pleasure trip. Much more spiritual than anything else. That is why everything else is Magnificent.
      It is not a matter of waiting. It is a matter of finding your ultimate love and mirror soul, the one and only soul that is part of yourself.
      You said in your own words that he is the one that fulfils all that you are.
      Are you Mixed up?
      Your soul Twin is your resting place. He is your purpose to serve God’s purpose and in all my writing I say this to finish.
      I do believe that Now, the kundalini has started to work within yourselves in a bigger way than ever. This is Now out of our hands to manage. All the confusion and doubt will subside if you choose to Surrender. Meditate and connect to find inner peace. Flow your love to your Twin through our God with one purpose . Love him with All your Twin Flame soul. Let God work out your Twin journey towards your reunion.
      Feel with your heart. Ask your heart not your mind what God’ s purpose is the God wants and expects of you.
      Work towards your growth for your spirituality within the 5 th Dimension.
      This is my experience.
      Jonna would have some very wise words.
      I am sure but if you ask your heart, it will talk to you. Meditate and connect with your Twin through God. It works.

      I hope I am
      Not confusing you, I am just sharing my journey .
      Hope you find more clarity.

      Love Harmony and Believe
      Giorgio

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  38. seipati79 says:

    Thanks for your engaged response Giorgio-I am taking to heart all that you are saying. And of course the questions that you are posing. I am asking my Higher self, my true life purpose as an individual and as souls of one. I will seek to meditate and pray to find answers.But as you eloquently put it, ‘surrender, surrender, surrender’…that has been the heart’s answer.

    Thank you once again for your response-and how you have taken the time to do so with utmost integrity. Especially as one realises one’s own vulnerabilities at this juncture, and it is not a pretty 😦

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    • Giorgio says:

      Dear Twin Flame

      The Junction, “IS FANTASTIC”. Yes it is mind boggling but only because we are in a désiré. However, I read something as well, that said,
      “And You wonder why it did not work with anyone else”

      I am so certain that this is true to its words. I live it every day, sensé My Twin Flame every minute and I have faith now, that God ‘wil’l do something. The worst that can happen is that as I don’t need anyone else, I could have nothing better than reunion with my Twin. Worse case scénario is, a place in heaven with my creator. So I am winning all the way.

      Stay focus is my advice as this journey is not about religion. It is about spiritualité and boy is it potent. Have faith that the source loves US to unforseen horizons and the love we have and that we share with our creator is unconditionally Divine. Hence, we must calm our sensés and restore faith in our own self the we can créâte the change and the outcome by staying Focuse on our target and our only realistic goal. Our Own other Soul pièce, that after all we need to have with ourselves before we enter the doors of heaven. One must have faith within first then, it will happen as it should. Only the Source knows it all.

      Our Twin needs to mature as much so that we do as well.They are the mirror of US.

      Love Harmony and Believe XXX
      Giorgio XXX

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  39. Giorgio says:

    Dear Jonna and All,

    I have no diary of how I am feeling along this journey that I am so much perplexed about still. As I encounter all these different feelings of emotions and physical change. It comes and goes and sometimes after I have this trace of my Most beautiful Twin that just emotionally shakes me to a state of loving ecstasy, that I just miss like nothing else within this creation.

    I feel upset because I miss her. I suppose I am upset at myself because I continually get these waves feelings of numbness, shivers and heavy arms without any warnings and that quickly leave me as quickly as they come. It is like a teens unit that captures the muscle into a spasm that comes suddenly but lets go without warning.
    My head chakra just gets this pressure that lasts for over 10 seconds , yet as well leaves me without any sign of discomfort as soon as it departs.

    Mostly my arms and shoulders, sometimes my chest as well but amazingly as quickly as this vice like feeling comes to grab me, it leaves, as if it was never there. Last week I had this moment that took me into this trance during my meditation that not only encapsulated my vision of my twin, but also for the first time in my life, I was seeing My twin in this white light. bright and pure. She was close enough as she was connecting with me. Just through the vibration of her looks.

    This morning and this afternoon, I have felt her and my body just gets into this weird feeling of, strange blood running in my veins at a hundred miles an hour and suddenly, it just disappears.

    After all this happens there is no pain there is no pressure. I just get these sad feelings of her not being with me and the feeling of desolation to a point. I try to eliminate her from my mind and at the same time I just have this feeling as if I am trying to let go, only to feel as if the other half of my body is pulling the other half.

    « YOU CAN ALL LAUGH AT ME. »

    I cannot explain this, and why it is happening. It is the strangest feeling ever. I am not imagining it either as I have always mediated, now for over 40 years of my life. My Twin still communicates with me. I cannot put my finger on it that’s creating this, but I just feel her presence and whatever this is, it definitely grabs me and controls whatever is going on. I, on the other hand, don’t want to let it go either. I go into this trance and as strange as it is for me, it just grabs my mind which starts remembering the latest occurrences that took place. Occurrences of rejection and yet control of what I should do. Just like a mother who is caring for her child yet with superior control.

    It also takes my energy way up into a level of strength that I cannot explain. Then, it just drops me into a path of confusion. I question why am I not with her? Why has she abandoned me and left me with accusations!!. I pray every time this happens, I just close my eyes and meditate to contact her through the triangle. I send her Peace and the LOVE that I hold so Powerful and Passionate as well as Profoundly for just her. At least I understand that I am not on my own in this. You all have your own recollections, stories to tell and events that are somehow so hard to explain let alone comprehend.

    I keep saying to myself that this is beyond my control. This is the work in progress of my Twin’s connection, one that is definitely something that I cannot relate to in any way. This has never ever happened to me, EVER.

    I am trying to work towards a more relaxed feeling and peace in my life. My inner voice talks to me as she questions my actions. Yet, today I felt that she is mothering me, controlling me in her ways that she knows too well. She does it all the time and as much as I am apart from her, she is felt as near me as always.I know that she wants me to be as far from her as ever. She is scared that I see what she’s doing. It is something that she cannot stop me from seeing and as much as it hurts I accept that it is what she needs to do to learn what is to be, at this moment in her life.

    I get out of my body to kiss her neck and touch her back and her tummy as I embrace her body and put my arms around her totally and give her the biggest hug ever.

    I imagine that I am doing this and I question if I should do it though, as I am suppose to be in surrender and separation as well.

    She is in a state of supremacy at the moment, a free spirit who is organising dates and times in which she enjoys herself and takes time out as she cannot handle pressure much. I admire her as I handle my pressure in a different way, yet similar to what she does. She is happy as she is. Although I miss her terribly, I am happy for her.

    Sorry guys, I am saying this and thinking aloud, perhaps any of you might be experiencing the same or similar events. The new year approaches and there is lots to look forward to which perhaps could prove to be a better year ahead for US All.

    LOVE HARMONY AND BELIEVE XXX

    Giorgio XXX

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  40. Giorgio says:

    Dear Jonna and All

    I must say this; I have NO IDEA HOW, WHY OR WHEN.

    My Twin and I will reunion. There is No way she will not come back. I don’t care who she goes out with or how long this goes on for. I know that she will return. I just have this notion and God has given me these signs that keep occurring to me. It is so so real and visible.

    I feel today that she will be wearing my dress overseas, and black shoes as I had this vision of these black shoes that have black leather strips at the back of them. It is the clearest of all visions. The dress I gave er for her birthday and the tag on the dress said, “Love only pattern”. I did not realise until after I bought the dress for her. The best thing is that she will be with me no matter who she is with and no matter what happens, she can never ever be apart from me in spirit. She is on a big Ego trip but that is for er to work out in time.

    As I said before I have no idea how this is going to happen but I am only waiting to find out the truth. The Kundalini is taking place without a doubt. God is infinite and Omnipotent. God is real and everywhere in existence. Everything gets replaced and adjusted no matter how good or how bad it is. It all lasts for so long. hat is meant to be will be.

    Tank you jonna for your articles.They are comforting and make me reflect about the truth of eternal life. it is the most comforting place to be, where there is no time nor space not food or drink needed but LOVE. That I have unlimited source of and abundance. Mature and Profound Love that is flowing continually no matter how painful and alone my heart feels. Now that really signifies the truth about my love. Divine, something that our creator gave us to keep and share with those who really care and appreciate it for what it is.

    Thank you jonna.

    Love Harmony and Believe XXX

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  41. newbee says:

    Thanks for writing this blog, it’s a good start for me. I am a chaser.

    We met about 2 years ago, I was visiting Krakow, Poland, (a long way from home) for business, together with my manager. Next to business I connected with a good friend of mine, which I know from my hometown and moved to this city about 2 years before my visit. On the evening I met him, his friends and girlfriend, I was introduced to her little sister. From the first evening I’ve met her I felt familiarity, a kind of comfort I cannot describe, but assume a lot of people here can relate to. We went out and talked just briefly, we partied all night with a group of people, had a really good time.
    I was in that town with my manager for business, our business opportunity went down the drain, he went back to the Netherlands, but said to me to book a later flight and have some more time with my good friend from back home. 2 days later me and my twin flame met again and we talked, never have I met a girl in my life with whom everything went easy from the get-go. We kissed that same evening.
    During that same trip I decided to book another ticket to visit my friends and her again, about a month later. Gut feeling told I needed to do this.
    The 2nd time we met was the moment everything went into high gear, I found out she was in a relationship, we didn’t do anything physically during my 2nd visit, we just talked. After visit we got in touch via phone apps.
    We could talk for hours and hours, I was just waiting for her reply, she could make or brake my day with one sentence, one word, we found out each others interest and connected even more. We ended each other sentences, at one point I started to feel when something was wrong with her, without have spoken a word to each other for a while, we lived 1200 kilometers apart from each other. She was still in the relationship, I have swore to myself when I was young, that I would never in my life get involved with cheating on somebody, or with somebody who is cheating on someone, and I have turned away from such situations in my life, but with her, I didn’t think of it any moment. The situation was strange, she lives in a very small village, like very small, is kind of stuck in a family situation which blocks her from getting out. She and her boyfriend have been friends all of their lives.
    Then came the first time we got really physical, everybody here has read about the physical way twin flames connect and this also applied to us.
    Finally came the day she had the strength to break off the relationship and we could be together.
    Now comes the dark chapter.
    I was planning to move to USA for business opportunity, this was going on from the moment we met and we both accepted this, convinced we could handle this, I would go there for one year and come back to reunite with her and start my life, in the meantime I fell in love with Krakow as well. In the end, she didn’t had the strength to do it and I decided to break off the relationship. I just didn’t want her to let go thru the hell of separation. at that point I was convinced I could, in retrospect I know now, I couldn’t too!
    We had contact a brief period afterwards, but not good, we decided to quit the contact. Then the next bomb in my life, my VISA application got turned down and my dream of going to this country was gone. During that period we had contact, but a lot of fights, everything conversation went bad.
    I made a decision to move to Krakow, I still wanted to leave my home country behind and move, I sill loved the city, and so did, exactly, to the day, 1 after I visited the city for the first time.
    Off course, the beginning was tough, I talked to her briefly, not in person, whilst I was trying to settle in. Then came the moment we saw each other for the first time, with a group of people. I ignored her, completely, I found out she got back together with her ex, for me personally one of the worst things anybody can do, it felt like everything between us was a lie, I was a brief moment of excitement for her, doing crazy things with, and then get back to familiarity. At one point she came up to me, to talk. She told me she was hurt, so deep, that I was ignoring her that evening. We talked for a while and everything was okay from that moment.
    After that we didn’t see each other for a while, which is difficult, like I said before, her sister is together with my best friend, and one night we met again. I was angry with her, but then something happened that never to me, or her, before. We were dead, but absolutely dead honest to each, never ever have I said what’s on my mind to somebody, without thinking of the consequence. That evening we kissed again and in the weeks after that she visited me twice, I’ll not go into details. We agreed that we wanted to make a good end to what we had, that’s why we came together. We talked, asked her why she stays with the guy while she says things to me she loves me and never has met someone like me in her life. I asked her why she wanted to stay with her boyfriend, she gave me several reasons, not one of them included words like love or happiness. We parted ways, 1 week later we got into a huge fight and I decided to cut everyone out of my life who has any connection with her, except for her sister, together with my best friend.
    This happened in June/July 2015, we briefly had contact in November 2015, I send her a message, I noticed at the tone of the conversation she didn’t want to talk, she talked in a blaming way about things she read on FB. After that day I blocked everything which has a connection to her.
    It have been difficult months with high ups and very low downs, even with physical pain. I’ve tried to hate her and make it easier for me, trying to convince myself that what we had wasn’t a twin flame connection. I’ve dated other girls, but the more I opened up to others, the more she came back in my mind, thoughts and dreams. I realized today, that what we had was a twin flame connection and I have to deal with separation, I have no hope that we will reunite, logic convinced me of that, at this point I think she’s engaged to the guy, he tried 3 times before. I realize that I have to start the journey of accepting this twin flame connection, I am convinced I still feel her sometimes, accepting the separation and give it a place in my life. I want to move on, have the ability to open up to somebody new in my life. The problem is nobody understands me, this feeling. I always get the “go out, date and meet a new women in your life”, I wish it was so easy. I’ve never experienced this in my life, that the pain lasts so long.

    If somebody has advice for me, it’s very welcome

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    • Giorgio says:

      The love between Twin Flames is not only one between two souls, but two souls joined into one as they were created By The creator himself. They could never be apart, for both Twin Flames were joined together at the beginning of time. Creation belongs to the “The Source” alone, to do with it as he wishes. If we are to meet our Twin Flame it is a positive sign: however more so though, it is seen as a gift that we meet them, so we need to be conscious of the gift. Try your best to honour it, with all your strength for it is not by coincidence that this chance comes along and after many reincarnations it is the ultimate gift within this third dimension only to encourage us to further work harder beyond our limits for our own soul and that of our Twin Flame as well. Ultimately it travels even further to the community and all who need help.

      RUMI –

      “Go find yourself first, then you can find me”

      When it does come along, take the hint: it is time for us to realise the calling which we need to consider with the utmost of care. It is the most amazing part of the many milestones along our journey that will ultimately finalise our reunion . When it does happen , get rid of your ego or control it to a point of having none to contest with. Also focus and try your utmost to understand the offering of the path. It is that which is presented to US by the source to realise that we have opportunities to evolve further into a much more gifting dimension. A much higher dimension level beyond out materialistic wealth. It s a sign that one needs to understand their own spiritually growth and to ultimately purify their souls from the doubts and fears within both Twins. They are a mirror of each other.

      Not one, but both souls need to work on their spiritual karmic development to purify and prepare themselves as well as helping others to do so. Twin Flames are the guides to spiritual awareness and direction through hard work that usually carries very painful and confronting events.

      One that not only gets rid of the Ego but one that purifies the soul in a very strong spiritual way. It follows the path to eternity, as when one does meet their true Twin Flame should understand. It carries a path that is unconditional with a “Divine love” that is only understood for its profoundness by Twin Flames and the creator.

      ______________________________

      We never will always be at our best peak of reality as we meet our Twin Flame . Our love keeps forever growing, even if the better half does not acknowledge it all the time, and as they run, it seems as if they do not run at all. Denial and the running period is a time of growth and spiritual maturity. It is necessary for the one that stops chasing to understand that by giving the runner time to grow and mature the genuine intentions and release from them, is all growth for both of the Twins. They both know deep in their Twin Flame existence that, they are running from themselves. Their soul grows and matures spirituality and will always be looking for improvement. I am not using perfection in this case because looking for perfection can be dangerous and limiting.

      “If we did, then we would be already dead”

      From an observation point, the best we can do to reach a level of mature spirituality is from the moment, the actual moment we are running and chasing we are in fear, doing what a desperate and lost Twin Soul does.

      But once the hype of all the drama stops , there is the calm. The silence starts its work and the soul starts growing and getting its breath back. From that moment the spirit is confused and fearful of what can happen next, wanting to be away, hiding and not wanting to accept the other. Denial just like Saint Peter denied his master, Jesus, three times in the same night.

      There are many examples of what happens when true love is in play. When true love is unconditionally “Dibvine”, it is incomprehensible. Looks scary and a big load through which we find it hard to recognise, let alone accept the truth. How well did the late Patricia Joudry express her views of the journey of the Twin Flame, as one climbs to the top of the mountain, solo with pain and through fog. What a feeling of how amazing the love of “The Source” is.

      What is amazing is the true spirit of mature unconditional Divine love. How lucky are we to have even met our Twin Flame, let alone to hope with good reason that there is a chance of reunion. If it does not happen then, let it be God’s will, whichever way it goes. We are all full of love and if we give love, we receive it through giving it, without expecting it.

      The quicker and the more freedom we give our Twin the better the chance we give them and ourselves for a reunion. I am very guilty of holding on. If you let the bird go after they know how much love you have given them, they will return only to fill your garden with their beautiful songs of happiness, that they are free and choose to come back of their own free will. We are the only ones that should understand this more than anyone else. It is our mirror image that we want. It is like wanting our reflection in the mirror. How can we want ourselves..? We must understand that when we already are part of them, that very part that makes us whole is what we are craving for .!!!

      Reflect – Sensitivity to awareness

      The Twin Flames continue to improve and become more spiritual in order to encapsulate life’s purification of our spirituality. As we find ourselves alone, we become like a child who is naturally spiritual and holds no inhibitions after they are born. Innocent children themselves can learn a lot faster than an adult can. Spirituality has no barriers, it is just waiting for growth, hungry for joy and peace. Through this motion we can find all avenues to all other physical and mental growth, especially If we want to talk about real life success, through educational development. Look at life as the amazing place of intrigue and mystery. A place where we have so many options that are available to us at call. Create opportunity and choice, be optimistic. Spirituality is a force that cannot be touched by anyone but your own thoughts. Spirituality creates the universal bridge we must have to journey towards our individual enlightenment. It is what bonds us within as unique beings and with the power of the universe we are so uniquely part of; The introduction of ” the Source within us. It is the infinite and the only way to reach eternal life and a place within the ” Moment within Eternity”.

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    • Giorgio says:

      Dear newbee and Jenncrystal

      This is for both of you. I must say that you are feeling pain and rejection. It is emotional and the mind plays a lot of games on us . We need to try and get away from the thoughts and feel love from the heart. Always, because once we realise that we are thinking about love, the mind stirs it all up and disfigurs our love path.
      Reading your post newbee, I get the feeling you really love your Twin Flame. However, it is that , axactly that which you need to let go. Let go of her and let her grow. If she wants to go with anyone else, let her, she will realise through the spiritual growth that you are her twin flame and that there is no one better than you. No one can replace their Twin Flame and feel better than if she Was to be with any other soulmate. You are both mirrors of each other. There is a magnetic urge of your Twin Flame energies that both the Twin Flames will always want to unite within their own magnetic auras and energies. This will only attract each other towards each. So stop worrying about anything. Let her be and start to work on your own self spiritual enlightenment to give yourself the insight to mature into a higher dimension. The Source will enlighten you, and once you start understanding your own self more, it will overflow towards your own Twin Flame through the Kundalini. The Holy Spirit will merge you if only ” Both” your own independent spiritual strength is at a level, a higher dimension of understanding, that the Source sees it appropriate that it is time and both of you are ready to merge and reunite.

      How much do you love your Twin Flame? What extent are you ready to suffer and sacrifice to see you reunite? Is she worth waiting for? Why would you start predicting things when you do not know for sure how all this works and what she would do? If she delays the reunion than both of you might need work on your individual souls.

      All that you criticise in your TF is a mirror of what you need. Eternity is your reunion as when it happens there is nothing better, more electrifying, more contented and above all more Divine. To feel the source accepting both of you, as having passed the test to reunion. WOW, what an amazing deed and celebration it would be . After all she is your truest TF and no one has the power to be within such dimension, such divine love within reach f eternal bliss forever with your TF. That would be the ultimate. What do you say?

      Love, Harmony and and believe XXX

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      • newbee says:

        Thanks for you inspiring words. To be honest at this moment the feelings of love are, they were in the past, not anymore. Despite everything that happened I would start the journey again with her, but I want tot be realistic, I do not want to wait my entire life for her to come back

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    • vita says:

      hey i have a similar story, or at least i can relate, i suggested a book that helped me a lot to move on and to integrate it as a part of my life as it is. its from a reunited channel twin and it has activations from angels in it, it helps but it is tough cause it takes u to responsibility for your own happinez and ur twins http://profoundhealingforsensitives.com/ light and love on your way, u are wonderful 🙂

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  42. Giorgio says:

    Dear newbee
    You can do all you wish. You could never be far away from your TF. She is half of you. You need to work on your spirituality. Then only then you can reunion. However as I said this s not a game of hide and seek either. There is a serious play here which is about the self. Both TF need to work together on this, separately or ytogether.
    Furthermore those who have had intense contact with their TF feel different in this relationship than anyone else has in other previous relationships.
    Perhaps you might find out if she is your TF or not. Be careful what decisions you make, what energy you transmit into the universe. We are one with all the energy that makes the cosmos.
    Think before you make any decisions as this is not really your decision after all f she is your truest TF.
    You want her back? You must be committed. To the Source first.
    I wish you the very best with your journey and remember that we are here to support you not abandon you.

    Love, Harmony and Believe XXX

    Giorgio

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  43. Giorgio says:

    i suggest that you read three Kundalini process and try to a certain what you want to understand from this connection. It is very important for you to educate yourself with the literature that some very heartfelt people have written about such connection. The one of a Twin Flame.
    Doucejoanna has written some amazing articles and I can tell you that they are from the heart, experience that most of us have identically experienced as well. Please read the many articles to have an idea what you have experienced yourself and what things might mean. As well you can somewhat understand the purpose of your own personal purpose along your journey. Please, do.

    Love, Harmony and Believe XXX

    Giorgio

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  44. charlotte says:

    My twin flame is in prison. I love him madly. We have been married 6 years now and it’s many years until he can come home to me. It’s very difficult not to be able to live with him and have a “normal” life with him but I truly believe this is what God wants for us. I know that my love is with me always. He is a part of me. I am a part of him. For years before I met him I dreamed of him. I always knew him, always felt him. When I met him I instantly knew him. Being away from your twin flame is really painful and difficult but finding your other half is so special. Not many people get this kind of love. We are all blessed to have found this.

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    • jenncrystal says:

      My heart goes out to you. I can’t imagine the pain and the longing of a separation like that. One that can’t be controlled. I hope that it will be a meaningful time of growth, wisdom and healing for you both… And that things will turn out well before you know it… ❤

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  45. M says:

    Is it common that twinflames are from different parts of the world? I’m in the same state as most of the others here; feel the other person, can’t totally let go even though I’m working hard on it, different things always reminds me of him when I least expect it. I am not sure if he is my twinflame, but there have been so many small ‘signs’ telling me and questioning that he might be.

    We met 3 years ago while working together on a small holiday island. We were both young but tried to keep it together after the season long distance for about 2 years, which was like a rollercoaster emotionally. We live in different continents with about 9 hours time difference, so last summer he broke it up because he couldn’t handle it anymore and we were both in a state that we couldn’t move to each others countries at this point.

    However, I thought it would be easy to forget him since I hadn’t seen him in half a year when that happened, and that we also lived so far way from each other that it would quickly fade away once the skype calls and contacting each other stopped too.

    This wasn’t the case, it became almost even harder, and I tried my best to emotionally move on. This was when strange things started to happen. I had moved to another country nearby my own for studies, and I started to see repeated numbers everywhere. Especially 11, 111 and 1111. I also started to see facts about his country everywhere, or something that very specifically reminded of him. I really worked on myself, and started to do yoga which helped me connect with myself more too. All these times when I felt really good he always when I least expected it contacted me.

    At this date, we’ve been having contact once a month, most of the times of his initiative, even though he has a new girlfriend. I feel it is so wrong that he do it behind her back, but he is still telling me he wish that we could make it work in the future when we both are in a better place with ourselves, older and that he needs to sort things out with himeself.

    I don’t know what to believe or think, is this actually a typical runner-chaser dynamic? I read about the 1111 numbers and twinflame connections, anyone else experienced this?
    Majority of people seems to be in a chaser role, how common is it that twinflames actually reunite? Even though there are obstacles like different continents, culture etc. in the way?

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    • doucejonna says:

      Hi M! Thanks for taking the time to comment. Yes, it is common for twin flames to be born into different continents (for example, I am from the very north of Europe and my twin from North Africa); in fact this tends to be the case of many authentic twinflames. The obstacles and the journey we each take to the place where we finally meet our twin; which often is a “neutral” place where both are either visiting, living or working for a while, seems to be a common point in many of these journeys. I do also see quite a few where the twins went to kindergarten or school together, never really getting to know each other and then later – decades later- suddenly being “ignited” and pulled together.
      Twin flames often know that they are meant to be together and there seems to be an inner “trust” that one day it will all work out like it’s supposed to. That’s possibly what Your twin means when he says he still has work to do but wishes you can make it work someday.
      Love and blessings dear soul

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  46. Jane says:

    I think these profound soul connections are so unkind or impersonal or rejecting in day-to-day life or communications because they are already deeply damaged by life and aren’t able to be loving to those they care for, or even love deeply. Sometimes the only real benefit from these (other than the love of souls in the spirit realms) is to push you away from partnerships based on a profound love like this — which is often expressed in hurtful, rejecting, shaming, and unkind ways in real life — and to purely to point you toward a stronger, authentic love of oneself. I found my soul connection to be deeply avoidant and untrusting of love or of me, by extension. It has been a profoundly alienating experience, one which has caused me to be far less open and trusting of soul connections and to be far more trusting and reliant on simply what is, and on who people are day-to-day, and on what folks say and do — that’s the bottom line and that’s how we build trust and love in the real world…upon kindness, character, and consistency. That’s what I’ve learned.

    It’s funny because I was so open and in awe of the connection and of grace…and yet he was so harsh and cold to me for so many years. He said he felt he needed to teach me some lessons (by way of explaining his coldness, his nastiness and his name calling)…that it wasn’t really how he felt. Whatever that meant…no idea, really. Why would he write someone he thought so little of? I wrote because I felt a soul love and a resonance. He did often say he appreciated our connection and valued our friendship. But at some point you realize that this sort of behavior is cruel and then it no longer holds sway over you. Your love for yourself has become as strong as your love for the other. And so, out of love and self-respect, you wish to be apart from people who do not treat you in ways that you find loving, kind, and affirming of your needs. Now I find that I do not need to be in regular “email only” contact in the day-to-day world. However I would like to be in occasional contact again, mainly because it’s the loving thing to do, to live in a place of love and forgiveness. And to hear how he’s doing on occasion. That’s it.

    He has severely damaged and broken something inside me, and I’ve healed it myself. Years ago, when we’d first exchanged emails and he was very loving and kind, I used to feel loved and accepted for the first several months, and that was a beautiful feeling, from what I recall. I wondered about him as a partner for that short interim period. Then he changed as soon as I asked about exchanging pics and maybe talking or meeting someday. Through the many years of never understanding his actions…yet always being in communication…I realised all I wanted was just some basic love and acceptance from him as a friend of who I was as a person, as my whole self and not just words on the page…and not just in the spirit realm, beautiful as that is.

    For all these last years, I felt so much love in spirit, that I was fine with his friendship — if only it could have been more personal in the real-world sense and not just email only. We lived a few thousand miles from one another, after all, and if he was not relationship material, I was fine with having a friendship. After all the unkind and cold things he said to me and about me, I was long past desiring him as a man (outside of spirit) because he made me feel ashamed and unworthy for many years, and not only for asking for personal contact to ground the friendship. It’s true, I wanted personal contact in all my close relationships, but for years, he looked down on me for being needy and flawed in this regard, as he saw it. I think he did change on this point and many others over the last year, when he became kinder and less cruel, in response to my direct requests to be more kind in our communications or for us to end them.

    He still told me repeatedly over the years that he knew from day 1 of our communications that he’d never want to meet or speak to me in person, including vid chat or phone or any of that. Over the years, he really hammered that point in even though I told him many times it cut me deeply. Yet, it hurt me even more deeply because it didn’t seem possible that anyone could make that determination when they hadn’t ever met or spoken to someone. Why had he ever said he loved me, even just as a person? Why were we having heartfelt conversations for years? Why were we making love in spirit every night, and/or talking, for years? Sometimes with the angels and guides. It seemed he was seriously damaged on his side in some ways that clearly had nothing to do with me, but he never explained further. So I felt deeply ashamed for wanting a personal connection with him just as with all my family and friends, and I felt deeply ashamed and rejected because he told me he never wanted any personal contact with me, ever. But unfortunately that was months after telling me he loved me…and probably around the same time as we began making love in spirit nightly. So my heart was already engaged and I was very torn and confused, for many years.

    Bottom line, though, I didn’t need or want the partnership of someone who was deeply and caustically avoidant, who couldn’t stand to be around people, or to be close to people…me included or me in particular, whichever. Even though I clearly provided some critical contact and affirmation for him in the waking world (in addition to all the love in spirit we exchanged). But I had hoped to have a more personal friendship, where we occasionally spoke or vidchatted and exchanged pics (I often sent them of me, a few times a year, precisely to keep it real and personal). After he’d gotten more kind and caring in his emails over the last year (we’d talked for 5 yrs at that point, often several times a week with lengthy, personal exchanges), I asked him once more for a personal element to keep things grounded and real. It really was difficult for me otherwise, and I’d said on many occasions. He’d only ever sent one pic, very old and blurry, of him and his mom, from the very 1st time I asked. After he pushed off my last request, I took off several months to work through my anger so that I could forgive him and move forward.

    Now, I look always first to fulfilling myself and being in a place of trust and security, emotionally and spiritually. I don’t give my power away and I don’t look to others to do anything other than what they should do…seek the good of the other (me) equally to themselves. Not just for themselves, and not just for me. And the same goes for me. I don’t trust any sort of love and connection — nothing — that doesn’t grow love for one another slowly, mutually, in reciprocity…of the authentically loving kind. And by that, I mean love that seeks the good of other equally to the self.

    I took several months off beginning last fall to forgive the repeated rejections of personal contact (we have always been limited to spirit and email, although I’ve sent pics, left a few messages, and sent a gift by mail). I am considered very attractive, smart, kind, well-employed…not a burden, and not a chore…yet his real-world persona went from loving to quite cold, cruel and impersonal for several years when I suggested some real-time exchange or exchange of pics…even whilst occasionally confirming he loved me, valued my friendship, didn’t call anyone else baby or speak to them the way we spoke, nor so deeply.

    It took me a long time to figure out he was and still is almost pathologically avoidant and has never been adequately affirmed by his mom. His dad was not a part of his childhood, not till he was a teenager. His only serious relationship of many years was in his youth to a hard-core alcoholic who could not be rehabbed and clearly was avoidant for her own reasons. But otherwise, emotionally available women who love him but have some expectations for minimal human contact and engagement are probably just still too much for him. He confirmed he was single and straight all those years ago, because I said I’d be happy to accept his situation whatever it was, just in friendship…and he seems to be just those things. Yet if it weren’t for the love, I can hardly believe I wrote him all these years when he has so coldly refused personal contact. Except for the deep and personal contact and love shown nightly in spirit, sometimes in the presence of various angels and guides.

    I broke contact for several months and recently have tried to mend fences, just to keep in touch on occasion. Because he’s not good for anything else, even a real friendship. Even though I do love him dearly. Certainly he would be very toxic and harmful to any woman in a relationship, which is probably why he avoids them and just seeks casual exchanges when they present themselves as completely “consensual” and guilt-free.

    I have dated (I am a divorced single mom, sole support) over the same period, nothing too serious on a few occasions, and I am back out there again. I cannot see anything but an occasional email “friendship” at best in this lifetime, even if we were to patch things up, and currently he’s written me off after taking time off from our exchange. He’s very much of the mindset that he never changes and he’s always been right and apparently perfect. So that may be it…he’s not big on forgiveness and he holds a good grudge. He’s also not big on change. Once he says this is how it is, then he will never veer from that, come hell or high water. No matter how blind or ignorant he may be…no matter how much time passes…he will simply say that’s the decision. When I say but ppl change and things change…everything grows and changes…he’ll simply restate that he’s never changed. Rather it’s I who never grasped this…even while of course I’ve changed quite a bit and have no problem saying so.

    I love him dearly and I have always told him he’s a wonderful man (because I can see who he is at heart). But there is nothing more here for me in the “waking world” with him unless he were to undergo some radical growth. I think we all know how unlikely it is to expect that. Radical growth in the sense that you or I or the average person would understand it. For him, even learning to say I’m sorry via email may take his entire lifetime this go round, LOL, and I’d be willing to bet money it’ll never happen. It sounds so pitiful, but I know that for him it would be a huge leap. So we’re back to many, many lifetimes, at this rate. Despite that he has always been very kind, loving, and honest in spirit. I am absolutely dumbfounded at the magnitude of the gap between who he is in spirit and who he is here…he is a “serious spiritual seeker” and yet there is a conscious disconnect on many things. Meaning he chooses not to align himself day-to-day with who he is at core in some of the most fundamental of ways.

    Meantime, I clearly have to focus on finding a partnership of my own for this lifetime who actually is available and can express to me that he gives a damn. If he can learn to love me as a person and as a friend, and truly come to seek my best, then we can work with that. In fact, this may be the case for several more lifetimes, if not eons. At the point that someone is finally available after literally ages of unkindness, nastiness, shaming, name-calling and all that…being apart from them day-to-day is a relief and you’re fine with it. And if they finally come around in a million lifetimes, it really won’t even matter. You’re good if they do, but that’s always been very, very remote…and you’re certainly good if they don’t, because that’s the reality 99.9999999999% of the time,

    Peace & blessings,
    Jane

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    • vita says:

      Hey sunshine 🙂 my story omg, have to know he is acting the way he has to, according to his issues and to trigger yours. U have to move on from his power of you and find your wholness that is how it turns to right cycle. I had to move on anyway cause he is with someone else. And u are experiencing his shame not yours because we are one and feel each other and he has reason to be ashame for real. If you want to write I answer 🙂

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  47. Amanda Jane says:

    I met my twin flame at 17. I couldn’t cope with the crazy intensity of my feelings which often overwhelmed me. I was extremely jealous and felt I wasn’t good enough for him. After pulling and pushing for nearly 5 years I ran from the relationship and too hastily married someone else. My twin flame sent me a card on my wedding day and i realised then how much he cared for me but it was too late. I was married! I tried to make the marriage work. My husband is a kind and caring man. We have 2 children together. I have always been in contact with my twin flame. Sometimes with long gaps in between when I tried to forget about him and get on with living. It never worked. We were always drawn back together and the chemistry and feelings between us were always just as intense. Just by holding hands and being near each other.
    After 23 years of marriage I have finally decided to stop denying my feelings and we are back together. I love him with all my heart and soul. He said that when we split up he lost all hope of the idea of a soul mate ( he didn’t understand the concept of twin flames so that is how he put it). But now he believes we are meant to be together. He has had 3 relationships and has a 3 year old child. He has never married. I was the runner, I understand that now. The feelings still overwhelm me sometimes. I am trying my best to deal with them because my heart knows the truth, that I was meant to be with this man, the love of my life.

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  48. Jay A says:

    I am in an amazing relationship with my current partner, and she is so good to me. I desire to spend the rest of my life with her. However, I feel that I am so deeply connected with my ex (my twin), and even though I truly want to move on with my current partner, the intense pain I suffer significantly deters all the progress that I make. It feels as if my ex is calling for me and telling me that they are extremely sad because I am not in their life, but I don’t want to go back to that relationship because I know that it was meant to end, and there’s no progressing in life if I do go back.

    I don’t want to believe that my ex and I will reunite one day. I am willing to wait for as long as it takes for these feelings to fade, but I want to believe that the path that I have chosen is the way it’s going to be. I want my ex to be happy and find someone to share that happiness with. The thought of her being with someone else is strange, but I do not feel jealous nor upset. I want her to find happiness that she so rightfully deserves.

    Please someone tell me that they feel the same way :/

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    • jenncrystal says:

      Hi Jay, but you are speaking to a whole bunch of people here who still find themselves lamenting and pining for their twin even after years and years, in spite of marriage, children and other relationships that was at some point ‘happy’. What do you expect people to say?

      If someone told you that, no, she may never find true happiness beyond her relationship with you, would that make you open your heart back to her eventually? Likewise, if someone told you, yes, she may get over you eventually and find someone who can make her happier, will that make you stop thinking about her and feel that connection with her?

      Those words pierce so bad even to read them from another person. But the choice belongs to every individual person. Only God knows what good plans are.

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      • Jay A says:

        Jenn,

        Because this is an article about severing cords with my TF, I was expecting some people who have found their TF but are in extreme pain from feeling the way I do to empathize with me. I have read a few replies that were similar to mine, which consoled me.

        However, your reply indicates that you were offended by my comment, but that actually offends me because you obviously don’t know or feel what I am experiencing.

        Since I am already in a stable relationship that will help me grow as a person, even if she wasn’t able to find true happiness and because of that I won’t either, doesn’t mean that I am supposed to be with her in this lifetime. Twin flames may be destined to be together in the end, but even if my journey in this life becomes unbearably painful, I can’t just leave my partner who is perfect for me in all angles.

        I don’t believe in a god, but I do believe in the universe. If we are meant to be, then it will happen. What I know is that that won’t happen by me leaving my current partner because of my own selfishness.

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      • jenncrystal says:

        Hi Jay, sorry if you find my reply to you offensive. I guess this is a touchy subject and very intense feelings are involved.

        I’m not saying you should leave your current relationship to be with her now. I’m actually putting it in a slightly sarcastic way, knowing that you won’t.

        I know it all feels like a messy entanglement. But I’m just trying to say that, thinking we can cut off or let the connection wither is somewhat foolish because it’s something that will always be there, and will only cause us more pain.

        Maybe to think that we should come back another life time to go through this all over again is even more foolish. Of course, it’s everyone’s choice, and everyone is on a different soul journey, and I use the term God loosely.

        All I’m trying to say is, “ouch” on the receiving end. Then again, sorry for your pain too.

        I shouldn’t say more.

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      • vita says:

        hey jenn hope u doing great, i felt back then ur twin deeply in pain like chained in the corner and i had need to hug him, u are much stronger then him, and i guess i didnt said that cause it was not the best if u would try to love him more, cause he was hurting due to so much love from u, now he is better and blooming i feel him freeier, other twins are in distraction or in denial that they are being loved that much as mine for example bless ❤

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    • vita says:

      hey 😀 u must know it is all perfect, i found soo amazing answers in people they succesfully moved on and NOT WAITING. i undergone free webinars in german, to move on and u know what been said, that when we feel drained out off the energy it means that they need that energy to avoid thinking about the pain and feelings to heal. in other words as more we waiting we alongate the process and as more we move on as to be happy and doing things we love, we take from them our energy, so they must stand face their lessons. and we let go and just love. i used feel my twins pain as well, and that is because we think we must save them. i can suggest you a book that is a bible for me, it has prayers activations. u can meditate also violett light been given specially to twins as help to protect and heal them. so the book is here http://profoundhealingforsensitives.com/ , write me if you want an pdf, i can give u as well, but will need ur email 🙂

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  49. K from MTL says:

    I know I have met my TF but he is not ready in this lifetime. He has lashed out at me, and has attempted to dimish my self esteem. I wish him all the best in this lifetime.

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    • vita says:

      O dear ❤ that is not tru u are worthy of everything u desire, he will not change that, he opened the door to you yourself and you can go tru this door anytime u want without him and be grateful 🙂 I wish u Love and Happinez Light and bless from within beatiful Soul 🙂

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  50. vita says:

    Hey Yall ❤ , now i am in the stage of something very weird, i did understand many things, because we are one and final poles as similarities, for example he was left by his mother and i was raised up with no father, becaus my mother forbid him to see us and he did not fight for us, so he did not love us enough or thought he is not worth it, so i face someone who is not fighting and i fought and exused again and again like with my father. So becaus its obvious not changable and has to be transformed completely, i going to fuse myself with my twin 😀 i anyway read him all the time, but now it is different merge for me, i decide to go inside him and love everything i/him face, see clearly for me that is not what i deserve on the outside, i mean in terms to respekt myself, he thinks the same but different like is not worthy and i forgot him and am with someone else and others are better, of course how convinient to not fight but i have to learn my lessons and in those courses been said as more we are happy and most of all if are living our desire and found finally our place we eventually catapult them naturallly in the feelings and healing sea .. See Ya Folks Bless:)

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    • vita says:

      *i meant to love everything for him like being him and be grateful and happy and myself in what he is living but being myself as well and knowing myself, i know it is tough and completely beyond personal need, it is a bit difficult but feloows i am done to wait i have to do what i can in this peculiare situation of complete onenness and whatever it is, so good luck to you all and write your experiences if you fancy, bless you beatiful people 🙂

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      • jenncrystal says:

        Hi Vita, I’m glad you are on a journey that sounds like what I’ve been doing too. Sometimes, we become too afraid, we felt the need to protect ourselves and separate ourselves from our twin to heal. But we forgot that our twin is part of us too. I had so far found healing when I think about telepathically healing my twin, and for all the love I have for him, I felt that it is worth it. I would do anything for him, while at the same time remembering to love me too. Many times I find myself between the lines of ego and self love, of loving the other and devaluing ourselves. But what’s the point of selling ourselves so high when they can’t even reach us? But most of the time, the case is, they are too hurt to even try.

        And then the personal issues with our own fathers that reflects in this too. It’s a complex process, and a whole different eye view, but I hope you’ll reap the fruits well from your healing.

        Loving regards.

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      • vita says:

        thank you for reply beauty ❤ u know I remember my father standin ajar on the door, i was middle in the room 3 years old, my smal bro playing next to me, not understanding much of, we been looking at each others eyes and i knew kinda i am seeing him the last time. cause my mother forbid him. I saw him once again when i was 13, so he could officialy give us away and sigh up the papers for adoption, thinking probably he is not worthy to try or fight why bother the other man is for sure better, from abroad, giving me to terror and sexual harassing 🙂 i always felt in love with men that been not available, either married or everything else was more important, i was not the priority and not worthy to fight for, so many wanted me so many fought to have me, and i was best friends with them all over years, my twin similar story with a girl he knows from his childhood, but not other women as girlfriend, and was in the relationship with when we met, left by mother as a child, to shy he was not even able to communicate normaly just sighns, cowardly and he thought this is love and i thought i am loved, ironic he exclude me out of his life and completely ignored me during all the way, always having more time for everyhting else, even belong to me, that is futile, thank you for courage and respond 🙂

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