When a person comes face to face with their beloved, and enters a new world of spiritual awareness & unconditional love, it very quickly becomes clear that what we until then perceived as “love” is in fact only a very small fraction of the earth shattering, big bang type heart explosion LOVE with a Capital L they ignites in us. We become entranced with each other from the start and the shared vulnerability of our soulful nakedness allows us to merge all our bodies together at a very deep level. We are able to catch glimpses of the infinite beauty and love that surrounds us at all times and we feel vibrant, loved, accepted and nourished to the deepest part of our being; our soul.
When this soul level merge with our beloved takes place, it opens up multiple channels of energy that run through both twins. These gold and silvery energy cords that run from soul to soul and heart to heart are the lifeline of the eternal lovers and can NEVER be severed. Through these cords, we feel each other, we sense each other and we are drawn together, regardless of time and space. In fact, our beloved is so much engrained into the energetic makeup of who we are; that as we go through our experiences, emotions and growth, these vibrations are constantly being sent back and forth. Furthermore, the psychic and spiritual connection between lovers always includes a sort of a spiritual “love-nest”; like an ecstatic place of love and bliss where both come for comfort and reassurance – my beloved once called this “our inner space filled with unconditional love, passion and friendship”. The lovers are also connected to their higher selves by a similar silver cord which is attached to the crown chakra.
Why would we want to sever the connection?
Unfortunately the twin flame path is such that very often each soul must have time apart in order to grow, learn and fully become who they are meant to become. God wants us to be conscious and actively take part in our own journey; and therefore, to remain in permanent physical union with our beloved, we must become fully conscious of our own Self. The actual physical separation forces each of the twins to FEEL and FACE their individual selves. A person cannot know WHO he is at the very centre of his soul unless he has felt a part of himself missing. The journey is very complex in this sense, because in order to unite with our beloved, we must realise that separation took place so that we could KNOW the self and the soul. Despite being physically separated, the lovers must achieve inner wholeness: both within themselves, as well as a spiritual unit together.
As the eternal dance between the two souls seeking balance and wholeness gets into full swing, it results in a push-pull or runner-chaser dynamic, which causes many to question their sanity and to feel that we should not allow this “insanity” to control us. The two are kept locked in this situation until both learn to complete and balance their energies – together & apart. Even if the lovers are apart and not in contact, they both have to carry their share of the work. So closely connected, they often feel not only their own but also the other’s pain – and so feelings and reactions to these are often magnified.
Often our intentions are good when we seek to release ourselves from our beloved: we want to stop hurting them, our partners/spouses – and most of all we want to stop hurting ourselves. The pain we feel makes us want to run away from them and from ourselves. After a while we realise we no longer recognise ourselves. We can occupy our mind and heart with work, things, other relationships – even good, loving ones, but within the deepest part of our soul we know that which is missing. We may not perceive this as running until years later when we suddenly realise that they never pushed us away; it was our own feelings of rejection and feeling unloved that caused this. It dawns on us that perhaps our twin simply wasn’t ready for the deep-dive into himself either and was just trying to figure it out, just like we were. More importantly, we realise that the person we are running away from is ourselves; we did not abandon them but rather our Self; and that no matter what we do, we can never stop feeling their acute absence because that void is felt within the deepest part of our Self.
Cutting the cords – getting rid of the connection
Often the pain of the separation and the many obstacles to the union are so unbearable that we want a way out of this new “reality”. Initially we pray that it will just go away in time and we can get back to “normal”. We numb our feelings in self-preservation. Then, as our frustration grows, we start wanting to sever the energetic cords connecting us to our beloved. However while we may know all sorts of methods for cord cutting and have successfully used them in the past; the connection between the two eternal lovers follows no conventional rules or reasoning. No matter what anyone tells you, NO ONE, not even the lovers themselves can break the special eternal cords between them. Could this be the real meaning of the often quoted biblical verse “What God has joined together, let not man put asunder” (Mark 10:9)? The Force that created the pairing is all-powerful and indestructible. The bond may be weakened, and their final union delayed, but they cannot be separated permanently.
Furthermore, severing cords with your beloved would be like amputating a part of YOU. Since you each carry a part of each other, trying to cut the cord would be like cutting your own soul. The highest good of all would not allow this. However, if you do need a break from the connection, there are ways to take time out – whether this is what you choose to do is of course entirely up to you, however you must remember that all that it will do is to delay the internal work which must be done. This time-out could even come in the form of another relationship, building a family with someone else, however be under no illusion; you WILL BE pulled back. Like an elastic band, the cord connecting the eternal lovers is flexible, allowing both to do their share of pulling – however no matter how far the band stretches, it always pulls you back to the connection.
So what is supposed to happen during the separation?
If you are facing a separation from your beloved then it is for a reason. Not only this, but it is unavoidable & absolutely necessary. This means that there is work to do: for both of you. During the separation the lovers must feel and reconnect with their own inner selves to be able to feel the bond with the other. This is hard to start with: the outer search for the beloved is very painful and sooner or later one will feel that there is no other way to connect with them than to reach for the deepest place in one’s own inner Self.
Being separated from our beloved often feels like a deep loss of our self: so excruciatingly painful that we can find it hard to know what to do with these feelings. Sooner or later we begin to feel like we must ”surrender” ourselves to the profound spiritual and emotional process that starts to take place inside. We realize that this is a process that we have no control over. Eventually, we learn to love and accept ourselves, as well as our reflection in the mirror: all of it, the good, the bad and the ugly. And sure enough; with time and spiritual growth & maturity, the connection simply becomes something you accept.
Rest assured that even if you make every mistake in the book and it seems that the connection is unrecoverable, all will be revealed, rewarded and forgiven – in time. Even if for a long time it seems like we are not making any progress, the love between true twins comes with a guarantee: it WILL transform you. This means that even without realising it, both lovers are now on a spiritual path and the day will come when both will want to be fully themselves, and this includes having your beloved in your life again, in whatever capacity suits you both. In the meantime, while you are being kept apart, you are always free to express how you feel and what you are choosing in this moment. No matter what your reasons, the soul of your beloved loves you so much that whatever you choose, it knows it’s out of love. We all have our own process for spiritual & emotional growth to follow and no choice is ever right or wrong, but rather just another tick on the list of necessary lessons to be learnt; all leading back towards our beloved and God.